Why am I rejected so much for not immediately being physically intimate?

[Anonymous]

Talking to a guy is nice, it’s fun and gives me an idea what he might be like. Then the guy always starts discussing cuddling or sleeping together, kissing, and that makes me uncomfortable and feel pressured and not respected. I tell them I need to know them emotionally first before I feel physically attracted to them. They get grumpy and tell me it won't ever work. And then that’s the end of it.
I shouldn’t have to be sexual with a guy to receive emotions. It’s unfair -
Are guys not gentlemen anymore?

[agirlwhoneedshelp]

It could be that you are just not connecting with the right guys. I have that unfortunate experience too. Maybe cast a wider net or try to find someone who is more emotionally driven. Perhaps a more reserved person to connect with. Essentially, you are not doing anything wrong, you are just not finding the people you want to connect with properly.

[Bethany22]

That kind of talk makes me uncomfortable as well. But you probably made him feel uncomfortable when mentioning anything about emotions too soon as well. For the first few dates, stick to conversations about factual stuff and hobbies

[kylee2437]

I don’t agree with this. Her expressing that she falls for emotion saved her from an asshole that day.

[BarryLiverstone]

Could you give an example of what a guy says that makes you feel unsafe and pressured?

[kylee2437]

He obviously just wanted to sleep with you and brought you on a date so he didn’t feel like an automatic piece of shit for only asking you for sex. He knows if he flat out asked, you would’ve rejected him.

[Danny_dan92]

Cause those guys only want sex