Why is it easier for guys to get female attention than for women to get male attention in the younger generation?

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I don’t think this applies to older generations but I’m a 19 year old freshman in college and even since high school i’ve noticed how easy it is for a decent guy who dresses decently to get a girlfriend. Guys don’t even have to be attractive honestly all they need is non skinny jeans and an ok haircut and they can take their pick. Any guy who even mildly caters to female interests like listening to female artist or paints their nails is immediately flooded with dms and surrounded by girls. It’s insane they don’t even have to approach I know so many pretty girls who have to approach themselves to get any attention. 9-10-10 girls my age can still have types for short men, genuinely nerdy men, unconventionally attractive, and shy men. On the other hand 9-10/10 guys still go for 10/10 face, big boobed, tiny waisted, girls with huge butts.

This isn’t to say ugly men don’t have it hard but they could easy stop being ugly by dressing well and being semi social then women will just overlook their face and like them anyway. But as a woman if you are not at least average in the face you are getting absolutely ignored and treated like garbage mocked by men. Men always complain about getting rejected as if women haven't had to start approaching to compensate for their lack of attempts and been rejected the same amount. I’m attractive and i’ve always approached men first that’s how i’ve gotten all my boyfriends but i’ve also been rejected loads of times and kept going anyway. Do you feel there’s been a shift in younger generations like gen z (my generation) where men in some ways have a much easier time getting noticed than girls?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think black culture has influenced young boys. And that is a good thing.

I'm not that age but I've worked with kids that age. Like literally I'm the manager at the store type shit.

So like in rap songs they basically always say some lyrics that are like:

"I'm the greatest! The most stylish! The most money! The hardest working! The biggest dick! The most murders!" And so on.

Hip hop has reached a new level in my opinion. ALL the kids listen to the new artists and they're all saying the same thing.

Black culture will teach boys to be themselves and love themselves and to do their best in life. I know people think it's rhe opposite that black culture is destructive but probably only to black people in gang infested areas. Outside of that it's more of a fun thing.

Black culture depicts women in misogynistic ways that makes feminists very angry.

But it's teaching boys what girls like. And when you actually understand the heirarchy of female sexuality, as depicted in rap music, you can better align yourself with that without feeling confused or conflicted.

For example rappers might say "she cums when I pull out my chain!"

That is a misogynistic statement that implies that women are gold diggers. Resource seekers. That their sexuality is based on resources. This makes the feminists mad.

But what it does for boys is it shows them reality. And then they can put their own shine on like the rap songs teach them.

To dress better. To want to work and hustle. To want to appear attractive for your girl.

All the kids know what's up. The feminists are mad but women are eating it up just as much. I know women across all walks of life who love these misogynistic hip hop rap songs.

And yes I do listen to hip hop it's been like 25 years going strong.

CalmUntilAbused · Accepted Answer

Well... I guess it's just that men are much more cautious towards women in these younger generations. You know, these days any kind of interaction (even looking at her or saying hello) with a woman who does not wish for said interaction might ruin the man's life, so... It's simply logical to become more cautious. On the other hand, it looks like men have adapted and are basically making full use of what's commonly known as looksmaxxing, making themselves more attractive for women by adopting exactly what women are attracted to. However, mocking less attractive girls does not add up. It still carries the risk of having Your life ruined if You're a man, so that's quite bold of those who do this kind of thing. They might be the extremes, those who are set on inflicting pain, knowing full well their lives were doomed before they even began and no additional problems, including trouble with law enforcement, can make their lives significantly worse.

However, it's quite strange, as in my not that much older generation (24/25 years old) women still hold the initiative and men are either those legendary alpha males or reduced to weeping, suicidal, sometimes vengeful husks of men. By the way, I'd gladly approach a girl with an "average" face if it did not still carry the risk of getting my life ruined. The way I interpret it, an "average" face means not being a bimbo covered in make-up, and that's enough to bring about my interest.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

I think it depends more on the personality than gender. Some people just are noticeable. Also, the audience can make some things easier or harder, like focusing on clothing more than other things, so better-dressed people will be seen more.

If you want to play dating/relationships, you have to be aware people will reject you because of any reason you don't match their personal preferences. It has nothing to do with you being or not attractive because it's related to what this person sees as attractive.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

listen dude, if you are gorgeous enough, you will be able to get attention at some point. Many average looking girls are too arrogant or full of themselves to realize they actually aren't that pretty so they claim its easier for guys to get attention than girls. Hear the truth. If you were pretty enough, you will have guys going for you.

DaveJord · Answer

Because when I was a kid, the guy had to approach the women all the time. And most the time that ended in rejection, then there were generations of feminist getting hostile with men over unwanted attention from men. To the degree that telling a woman she looks nice in her dress at work, is a form of sexual harassment.

So, men quit all together. And then women figured out, that if you want a guys attention GO talk to him. Thats the best and easiest way to get a guy you are interested in attention, because if you wait on him to come to you... well it's probably not going to happen unless you give him a reason.

ZackBan · Answer

It's a sword that cuts both ways contrary to what mass media loves to claim

It's not easier for guys. You're just seeing the guys who put in the work for it.
There are tons of guys who will never feel the touch of a woman because they demonize the idea of working on themselves.

And it's also true for women.
A new hairstyle. Some well fitting clothes with a matching color pallet. Basic skin care, some nail polish a tiny bit of makeup and of course if applicable some weight control and any woman can turn all the heads in the room.

It's a simple formula. You wanna be seen, give the world a reason to look

Flatmanlewis · Answer

I’m honestly shocked by this. I have zero reason to doubt what you are saying is true. Particularly surprising to me is that a male (I won’t say man) showing ‘female interests’ such as music or painted nails attracts women. In every layer of the spectrum of my life experience the women (particularly the quality women worth having) would be absolutely turned off by that. I’ve heard over and over how they want men who are, well, MEN. Masculine and confident. I’m glad that was never the norm for my life.

I now, officially, fear for the next generation and what it means for our nations social and societal future.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

The short and general version I think is that, women are more people-oriented than men.
They talk and observe more about people.
If a guy does something, say something or behaves in a way that sticks out then chances are they may be included in some gossip.
Being talked about generally means that they will get more attention if seen again, for better or worse. The stories builds up and if they start out positive then they might build over time.

in my opinion, Usually it gets too big and so out of context though (the rumors), that reality has very little to do with it.
It becomes an external image.

JDAC092299 · Answer

Huh so the pendulum has swung the other way, it’s interesting from a society standpoint to hear it’s all been reversed, for me it was common for boys to do back when I was in school and then some just after college but then men started getting ridiculed on social media a lot and being called creepy for approaching, in some cases people were even accused of SA or harassment so I think a lot of younger boys got discouraged and looked for a way forward. To me the narrative that got created was that higher value boys and men never got accused of such things so I think that’s what men and boys probably do now, try and better themselves to reduce risk and a side effect of that process is you get noticed more.

VikingWarLord · Answer

What delusional world are you living in there pumpkin?

Chics have their pick of BETA MALES the world over ! They can now even charge money for a dude to even speak to her. They have to join her OnlyFans to even have a shot if they're not part of the top 10% of men who have status, looks or wealth (or all three).

The bottom 90% don't even get matched on Tinder, Bumble or other dating apps. They've actually done studies on this, look up how often women swipe left or right compared to how men swipe left or right. Women swipe left over 80% of the time and men under 20% of the time. They even asked women how many attractive guys there are on dating apps and it was less than 20% they found attractive.

bolverk · Answer

Women have always been able to get male attention without even trying, but from #METOO on men have received nothing but the shit end of the stick.

Especially now that women are telling men we have 'toxic masculinity', and the ‘I don’t need a man attitude’, wanting equality until it doesn’t favour them, along with being told by women to ‘Go Away’ & ‘Leave Us Alone’, all that has pushed men away from women.

Feminism Has ‘Liberated’ Men by claiming they are our ‘Equal’ in all things.

Not being forced to marry, men can take jobs that give them just enough to be comfortable, not having to support a family, not take on debt through mortgages, we can pursue any hobby, just by being single and interacting or not with women as the mood takes them.

All men have done is performed a risk/benefit analysis and decided that the dating life is not for them as they see no benefit in it for them, if anything it puts everything worked long and hard to build in jeopardy.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah--the shift is entirely down to the demographics of college today versus "back in they day." When I went to college, it was probably a 55/45 split with more guys than girls. So the girls had a LOT more guys fighting for them. ESPECIALLY as freshmen since there was nothing in the world less valuable than a freshman guy! lol! But today some colleges are as much as 60/40 girls. So it's definitely FEAST time for guys on a college campus.

I keep telling guys that if they really want to do well today with the ladies, they should go to college. The ratios there are going to be ASTOUNDING.

Anonymous · Answer

Mot women ruined it for most women. False allegations, street harassment laws that paint all with the same brush, METOO, feminism, casual sex and women becoming more masculine. Back in the day I used to approach practically any woman I found interesting and would strike up a conversation. Nowadays no one could pay me enough to approach any woman period. The juice is not worth the squeeze. I've been approached but since it is not in their nature, naturally they are terrible at doing so...

Chandelier8 · Answer

I've never had a problem attracting men, but men are having to prove themselves and I absolutely love it! Natural selection in play. Gen Alphas are gonna break these men.

Anonymous · Answer

Simple. #METOO has basically made it so the act of talking to women is dangerous.. All she has to do is accuse him of something and suddenly he loses his job, his home, his freedom, and in some cases his life. when it comes to risks vs benefits, the risk out weighs the benefits..

DarkWinterNights · Answer

That’s wild. I remember in high school a girl asked a guy out and the entire school was talking about it.

Wood3nWhal3 · Answer

Yes the extra large booty is a deal-breaker for me. They don't even have to have a pretty face, they can even be unconventional af, since it becomes irrelevant with the right angle/view, ya feel?

Anonymous · Answer

Because MeToo has scared any man with a brain shitless like I won't even enter a building with a woman alone

Likes2drive · Answer

Maybe for younger guys but it was never true for me back then or now, I’m surprised a young woman like you would have to approach guys

Anonymous · Answer

i never had any trouble getting attention

DextroShade · Answer

Are you insane or just trolling?

DreamLife7 · Answer

Not true you're just ugly

grega239 · Answer

Never happend for me

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