A woman focusing on your job title or salary is a bad sign or a unstandable thing for her to do?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

A red flag.

It's understandable for her to make sure a potential husband has enough resources.

Other.

[t-8900]

I'm sure there are people out there who think prioritizing the finances first or among the first in the list of priorities is the best way to decide on partners. I'm all for people's freedom of choice, of course. But I would never want to be with someone like that, constantly asking "if I made a little less would they even be with me?" or "does she really love me?" "does she love me enough not to cheat?" "would she pass of another guy's kid as mine?" I honestly don't think such people have very high morals anyways so they'd be highly sus in my eyes.

A person who prioritizes the worldly will most surely at some point stab you right in the back. After all they got with you for personal gain, so why wouldn't then rise up by stepping on you and monkey branching or cheating? I don't even think such types are capable of love if I'm just being honest with you. It's one thing to want your partner to have a job and work honest. It's another thing to aim for the 6, 7, 8 figure dudes. Especially when she's working too? How much money you need? I'm assuming such girls are making about 80k+ to even be demanding such a man. After all such men are going to be seeing what they bring to the table other than their looks.

People change physically, mentally, emotionally, over the decades. Is that woman gonna stick by him? But hey maybe I'm completely wrong but to me that's about as shallow as dating just because someone is hot. Maybe it's smarter because resources can get you things. But you're still not looking at the person, just their assets. Maybe I'm just living in a delusion where love, communication, patience, and personality are/should play the biggest roles. I've had a handful of gfs, not a huge amount so I can't really say that I have the level of experience of a guy who's been around the block to know. Maybe I naively see the idea of love and romance through rose colored glasses still.

[Exterminatore]

Understandable. The one word you said though that’s concerning is focusing. A quick glance at what you do and roughly figuring how much you make is important. No one wants to date or marry a looser and no one wants to be embarrassed when friends and family eventually ask or find out what what they do.


I know I wouldn’t want to tell anyone a girl I’m dating earns her money as a cam girl or circus clown.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

That's messed up to look at things like that. A honest dollar is better than a crook.

When I was in middle school my teacher's husband who worked at the same school was picking up trash and cleaning.

It does look embarrassing but once you mature and see how life is and works it isn't all that bad.

[Exterminatore]

He was a janitor? I see nothing wrong with that.

I agree with you I’m talking about jobs that aren’t so legit or jobs that imply you’re an outright looser. Jizz mopper in an adult theater, escort, porn star, and washing dishes in a restaurant at 35 years old as your only job aren’t very respectable and don’t imply the person is stable.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I don't see things like that though. I'll met good human beings doing low paying jobs. My grandma worked extremely hard as a clean lady while I was growing up.

And low paying job people work very hard too.

Not everyone can have the job you or I have or make $50,000 a year.

Life just doesn't work that way or else no one would work as a security, at the mall, at Home Debot etc.

[Exterminatore]

It’s not about the pay but rather the title.

I make $60K a year without OT. I live comfortably but by no means am I wealthy.

Nothing wrong with any of those jobs you mentioned but someone who works as a clerk at Home Depot probably isn’t very financially stable. Probably not the best choice to father a girls children at least in terms of provision.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Well in America a single income to raise children isn't something many can do to begin with.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Definite red flag titles: "lazy jobless bum" & "criminal"
Definite red flag income: "blood money" & "ill-gotten wealth"
If none of the above apply or are associated to whoever matters, "green flag" then.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I think it would mean she's interested in your financial resources as a red flag.

A man I was watching a video is basically encouraging young men to not even date if they don't have enough money because the relationship will fail.

[t-8900]

@Hispanic-Cool-Guy i disagree with that. I think it can be a cause for failure if your progressing past the first 2 dates and haven't had the discussion about finances. Mostly to scout her intentions and feel out if its gonna be a problem. some girls that's the first thing they think about, his money. Other girls not so much. Most would want a guy who works and shows initiative though doesn't always have to be the big money hustler as long as he's doing it honestly. At least from what I've been told as of late. I personally wouldn't be interested in a girl who prioritizes the finances on the short list as I feel such people are shallow. But that's just my opinion and to each their own. if they want a guy with more resources then by all means. Some women just view marriage as a business arrangement. I've seen some say something to the effect of "you pay me, I give you babies". Honestly if that's how you feel then imho just get a surrogate and ditch her. Why spend your whole life paying for a person who doesn't even love you? You can get a surrogate, pay a one time hefty fee, have your progeny, move on. Although I dislike both options. I'd hate to go to bed with someone always asking myself "do they really love me?" What a horrible way to live.

[Hangry06]

If she's gonna be a housewife and needs a husband to provide for her, it's completely understandable. Job security is a must

[libsaretards]

A red flag, especially early on. When getting to know someone, you want to ask questions that tell you about them as a person, not outside circumstances. This is an important topic to discuss and come to terms with, but not early on.

[MTC29]

Asking my profession, as well as my job title is fine. How much money I earned is my own business; although I've shared that information many times here.

[Anonymous]

Tricky question. Because she should care about your career. Nobody wants to date a bum. Or nobody with amabtuoj to be higher than below average.

But you don't want a gold digger. (Unless you do want one. )


I care about a woman's care and financial so I think it's fair.. I stopped dating women under a certain financial bracket once I came into decent money. Because it comes with baggage.

[Anonymous]

Focusing on it is red flag but if you're looking for a husband who can take care of you it's important to know they're at least headed in a good direction.

[Purpleblossom4629]

It honestly depends. She could be asking what you do for a living as a casual question. Unless she’s like oh how much do you make? Then that means she sees you as a wallet and that is a red flag.

[t-8900]

well when he said "title and salary" that's not asking "where do you work?" or "what do you do for a living?" so yeah imho the woman he is talking about is just a gold digger tbh. Its not about his honesty at the point it's about money and clout.

[Anonymous]

Women are very monetary and materialistic, it is a bad sign, but it is reality.