help me here i f***ing hate the way i look, i am pale with acne and my body shape is all wrong. what do u think of me girls and guys? im not gonna show my face thowut do U think about me? please dont judge me trying to show off, not tryna do that, just doing tho whole pose and take thing other women do. i have never posted a pick of myself in my life so this the first for me. i literally searched up on how i should stand for this pick
Help! why am I so insecure on the way I look, its getting me so down, and why?
one of the biggest problems everyone faces is that of social media photos.
often these are airbrushed and filtered to hell, it’s one of a 1000 photos taken to get it just right, it’s on a high end camera with lighting.
We then take our photo on a normal camera phone, no filters and one shot, then wonder why they look so much better.
a good way to start liking yourself is to do some running and core body work outs, these will tone you up and you will feel good. This is good for anyone no matter how they look.
finally, don’t over think stuff, this type of thing just eats at your mind, if you can sit down with a counsellor and talk it through.
learn to like how you are and accept yourself as a person.
we are all different.
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i do work out. at home and my gym class. we dont have 5 pound hand held barbells so i am using my dads 10 pound ones.
I'm honestly not sure why you feel the same way you do or how. But I can tell you as an adult male, I harbor the same feelings and hatred towards my own physical appearance. Part of it from being unacceptable to like 99% of women out there. Part of it from being too f*cking short (181 cm, or 71 inches) for both women and society as a whole to be respected. And part of it from my own eyes.
I cannot help you. But the only thing I remember someone telling me is to "go to the gym" to raise your self esteem. It didn't work for me, though. I can't workout to grow any taller.
these social media and hollyweird botoxed clowns-- have guys and girls so worried about how we all look. you have a thin frame, you look like you have great proportions, take a deep breath and relax you are beautiful
you look just fine, but adolescence is a time where it's common for all different bits to grow at different times. Almost no one likes the way they look at your age, and those who do tend to not like the way they look after they hit 20 or so. But if you want advice I'd say just focus on trying to develop a steady but manageable exercise routine. It could just be a mile jog. A brisk walk. 50 Sit ups. 100 Jumping jacks. Whatever. The point is really the endorphins more so than actually getting into shape. But you'll find getting into shape is a handy benefit.
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haha. good thing i have gym for the whole semester for high school every other week
gym is a good idea but you'll probably want to set aside some alone time for exercising. In groups people, especially at your age, can be too concerned with how they appear to others while exercising. And exercise is not meant to be a pretty display - one whiff of a gym will tell you it's not a place of prim and prose. It can be but if its a requirement then you limit what you can do unnecessarily.
heh. Well, if you're already doing it then I don't know what advice to offer. If you are truly upset with your body shape then just wear baggy clothes, perhaps. Sweat pants and a loose t-shirt, maybe?
go through with what kind of thing? You mean the baggy clothes? Didn't Billie Eilish (or however it's spelled) make a point of doing that? But yes even before that it was probably the easiest way for women to wear comfortable clothing that wasn't for the purpose of displaying themselves to others.
Or do you mean an exercise routine? Yes, people do that but normally not until their mid 20's.
Uh... I thought I explained it pretty well. Your body is mostly covered and the picture doesn't even include most of your legs. I can't form an opinion with that picture.
I think your crazy... nothing promotes your insecurities more than this post. That you need validation from strangers is very unattractive.
You look amazing... but its the insecurities that are probably affecting your dateability. If I met a girl like you, and you said you think your unattractive with that body... I would think you're highly insecure and I probably not want to date you. I want a confident women in public and in the bed room.
Because you’re probly focusing on your flaws and maybe comparing yourself with the airbrushed models that you see in vogue and GQ. by the way, hate to say it, but I was able to guess your age without checking it and without seeing the pic. In other words, this is a typical question from a young, immature gal who is overly concerned with her appearance.
I don't know what you are talking about. The girl in the picture has a very attractive figure. "Pale"? What is wrong with that? Pale/porcelain skin is my favorite and I find it the most attractive type.
Acne? That will go away in time. I don't think most have any negative thoughts about that because it isn't permanent... they are short term blemishes.
I think you are being way too critical of yourself. The girl in the picture is very attractive.
Looks mean so little! Ur body is perfect because it’s urs :) don’t judge urself so harshly! Attitude is contagious! Once you start viewing urself better, other people will too! Have some faith in urself!
In my experience, women pick out one thing about themselves and magnify it into horrible. Guys don't do that. From what I can see, you body is great. Really great. I have found that certain food would cause me breakout problems. It is different with all people. I see it as kind of an allergic reaction. But is should get better as you get older.
You really shouldn’t be posting pics like that. There are too many creeps on this site that will try to take advantage of you
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oof. ik thats y i come prepared. i did the whole check before posting, these insecurities really get to u and u just have to get someone else's opinion, u know?
i do have a lot more maturing to happen to my growing body. but i know my red flags anywhere and that is y i hid most of my background and hid my face.
You look fine to me. You are certainly are not overweight. My wife also felt unattractive at your age. Looking at pictures of her I see a very attractive young woman.
You are young, as you mature your body will change, so don't worry about it. That is just a part being the age you are. Once you get older you will start wishing for what you have now.
You look pretty normal and nice dear, don't sell yourself short. The pictures you see online are mostly filtered and too edited, don't compare yourself to them. You look beautiful and according to your age you will develop more beautifully.
@Subarugirl wait that's a kids body how become girls keep developing earlier and earlier it seems like. If I knew that I would not be saying stuff like that. Now feel like a creep. Maybe next time I should look at your age before I answer. I apologize for creeping you out.
they dont know. and this is like the only pic i posted of myself online ever in my life. dis the first for me. new to dis posting pics thing.. didn't really want or need to post pics of myslf until the insecurities came to me. i jus needed some advc
and its not like im the only one who does this kinda stuff. other women /girls go waaayyy more up the chain of posting pics of them slf. so y am i the only one ur tellin off.
I didn't say that looking for validation is a bad thing, we all want to be validated in one way or another, but there are good and bad ways to do that. Posting half naked pictures online as a minor is a bad way to go about getting it. I'll tell you right now that if I had a 14 year old and she was posting pictures of herself in basically her underwear online, that would be an issue.
@Subarugirl I think Subarugirl has a point where there a better way to get some validation like wearing a nice dress or posing naturally you don't to be half naked to get validation and give people the wrong idea posing like that.
what do u expect. im new to this and am just going with what every other girl has done. im going with what i see on youtube, tik tok, etc. i know what im doing when it comes to predators online and a lot smarter when its online. again.. just doing what most girls do on tik tok etc because that is ALL i see them doing and not anything else. i get ur iffy about me wearing a dancing onezy, but i can protect and lie my way through being tricked by someone.
You are brave for posting your first pic. Was that scary? Looks ok but I don’t see pale skin as it’s covered. Did you try other angles for a pic?
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i shall try. it would be safer to get tik tok or insta to post there ig. but i need a phone for that lol i dont have one yet. mum might get me one on Christmas or my b day
but a bish at my old school, she got a teacher told on me for nothing, a teacher came to me and said i was talking shit about her bod when i WAS NOT and u know y. cuz people have said shiz about my bod and i know how it feels, so y would i do that to u jessica! we gona call her Jessica cuz i dont want to say her her real name on this.
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