How Can, I Overcome Being Insecure About My Looks And Being A Misfit?

[Anonymous]

[OverCaffeinated93]

Overcoming insecurity comes from within you. Why do you think you're not good looking? Guarantee that every reason you could list comes back to what you've been told or what society says about appearance.
Attraction is subjective. Everyone has a type and everyone's type is different.
Best advice is fake it until you make it. It seriously works but may take a while depending on your insecurities. Be confident but not egotistical. Play around with it until you find the balance.

And you don't overcome being a misfit. You OWN it! So you're a black sheep, a weirdo, an outcast. So freakin what? That means that you're being yourself and other people take issue with that. And that sounds like THEIR problem, not yours.

[Asker]

I dont think, Im good looking because no girl ever looks at me or shows any interest and, I get ignored on dating apps. Im too awkward and shy to approach women in real life.

[OverCaffeinated93]

Don't base your self worth of of what others think of you. As well as just because you don't NOTICE women looking at you doesn't mean they don't. We are very sneaky creatures lol. As well as many many women still wait for men to approach them. Also lots of women like guys who are awkward. It can be cute at times with the right guy.
Don't worry about dating apps. They rarely create lasting relationships. Working on overcoming your shyness and how to approach people will be key.
So be confident and be approachable and it'll happen for you.
Love yourself because you deserve to be loved. Not because other people deem you worthy. Their opinions don't matter.

[Asker]

It is hard being a social reject when everyone hates you for being yourself.

[OverCaffeinated93]

Surely not everyone around you hates you. Perhaps not everyone voices the fact that they like you. Most people don't have the energy to hate very many people. I highly doubt (unless you're in a hate group lol) that many people take their time to actively hate you. I certainly don't hate you. But I do wish you wouldn't get so down on yourself. You are the only YOU out there. And I'm certain there are many things you like about yourself. Otherwise you wouldn't be the person you are.
I truly feel that you are just perceiving hatred due to lack of acceptance. You'll find "your people" so to speak in time and when the time is right.
Perhaps consider some CBT to help you cope.

[Asker]

Thanks and those dating apps have caused me to be insecure about the way, I look.

[untalkativesinger]

u dont look bad tho. but yeah maybe try to do something with the hair follow the new trends pompadour or something. my girlfriend seemed to like it when i changed my hairstyle from nerd to pompadour. lol

[ieatmemes]

do something with your hair and grow your facial hair a bit more