Do girls ever friend zone guys they like?

[Anonymous]

I've been getting a lot of mixed messages lately from a girl I'm interested in. Some behaviours suggest she likes me, some behaviours suggest she doesn't. We've hooked up before, but just once. She's said on two occasions that we're just friends and she doesn't want to lead me on, but my friends seem to think she's just protecting herself at this point because she's been hurt before. I'm doubtful of that though.

[suekitten1153]

I'm going to be straight with you: women do not friend zone guys they are even remotely interested in. We don't friend zone guys that 'scare' us, we friend zone guys when it's a done deal. As in, we are not interested.
We're talking about the fairer sex here; we OBSESS over the guy we are interested in. We live for your texts and the never-ending anxiety inducing question/answer of "Does he like me?"

If you hooked up and she friend zoned you then she is not interested in you physically or is no longer sexually attracted to you, however, her desire to maintain the friendship indicates she sees your worth as a person and a friend.

So you owe it to yourself to either A. Shut those feelings down and be a friend without hidden agenda, or B. cease and desist on the friendship because... well mixed signals are not good for anyone, male or female. They can be confusing and detrimental.

I am sure you are amazing and will find someone equally amazing -- this lady just isn't it my friend!

Good luck to you in the future, sir. :)

[Cynicaldreamer]

If she's a mature woman? No. If she's unsure of what she wants, using or playing games with you? Yes.

That's the simple answer.
I would never friendzone a guy I'm interested in and want to date; I'd make it clear from the getgo I want to get to know him more and be with him... but that's just me; I cannot speak for other women. However, even if she's had bad luck with relationships and dating before, that's not excuse to be so wishy-washy with you, much less string you along. Trust me, I've had a crapton of bad luck with dating and being rejected, but you don't see me doing the same to others...

Just ask her pointblank how she feels about you. If she doesn't know or can't give you a straight answer, pull away from her until she DOES give you an honest answer. Don't waste your time on someone that might wind up hurting you.

[ElvenMr]

I've read that it's one of the worst things a man can do, is ask a girl if she likes him. It makes him look insecure, even if she likes him.

[CallmeTheKnight]

You're not friends if you crossed that line for sex. Move on and leave her be, she's not worth it.
Mixed signals is just another way of playing games.

If she's still insisting that the both of you are friends, you should let her know that the both of you are not.

[t-8900]

Another example of the epic failure the is the "friends with benefits". Cut your losses

[Starla1234]

Yeah she’s probably scared of getting hurt again it sounds like. She may be friend zoning you, but she probably doesn’t want to. Keep talking to her, show her you’re interested and maybe she’ll come around

[EternallyCorrect]

There is no such thing as mixed signals. Mixed signals are a signal that she’s not that into you, it’s as simple as that I’m afraid. A girl who really likes you won’t be hard work.

[Kroberts16]

Sounds like she was honest with you. She might like you or she's flirting. You should ask her if she would be open to dating you soon.

[Leonharted]

I'm always one to take a person at their word. If she says you're friends and that she's not interested in anything else, take her at her word.

[Vegasrunner]

You need to invite another woman (one that isn't part of your social group) out w/ you guys. You'll instantly get your answer about whether she will ever like you or not.

[suekitten1153]

OHHHH god. I hate that this is so true.

[LegendaryIcon]

Shows the jealousy card

If she gets jealous, it'll show she likely likes you, that orrr she just likes your attention and wants it back on her

Use this at your own peril though. Jealousy game, is not a good thing to use, in my opinion. Too immature people use this

[Vegasrunner]

@LegendaryIcon Yes, her jealousy may be a bi product but the real reason is to focus on you. Unfortunately for women game playing is a big part of relationships (although they'll swear it isn't) Your bringing another girl w/ you to highlight your own value and you want women to understand that if they dont want you there are plenty of others that do.

[LegendaryIcon]

But that's essentially jeealousy. you literally just paraphrased jealousy. That was my point. DONT PLAY THE JEALOUSY GAME. IT IS FOR THE IMMATURE

[Vegasrunner]

@LegendaryIcon I'm not paraphrasing I'm literally telling you that jealousy may be a result of your action. Unfortunately you can't control other people's actions. In response to the original question this is by far the most effective option. Any man attempting to downplay the presence of "games" in relationships is usually a guy that is in experienced w/ women. They usually use highlighted talking points, instead of learning from real life experiences. there's a reason why 5% of men get 90% of woman and it's partly due to false rhetoric like you just said. Don't concern yourself w/ fairytale labels, just do what works. 100% thay strategy works.

[LegendaryIcon]

No dude, you're paraphrasing

THE JEALOUSY CARD, IS NOT OK

[Vegasrunner]

@LegendaryIcon You can't control someone else's emotions. You're not really reading or comprehending the original statement you're just making basic low hanging fruit out of context statements that have nothing to do w/ the original question.

[dustybiker]

She made you a friend when she decided not to pursue you.

[ally018]

I would never friend zone a guy I am interested in. That’s just me though.

[Seangreen]

If you're getting mixed signals get the f*** out of there. If a chick really wants to be with you she'll make it very clear

[Dear_Panda]

If the other person denies, then let her get comfortable with her feelings of she has any towards you. Any haste will make it worse. If you want to pursue things with her, patience is the key.

[Anastacia1989]

She definitely has feelings for you and likes you but she seems to be scared of getting heart broken again...

[pup4life]

She might think your only interested in her because you guys have already hooked up before and she may think that’s all you want

[Anonymous]

Could be.. maybe something happened after you hooked up which made her feel you were only interested in sex.

[Anonymous]

No they friend zone guys they have a slight interest in, so they can keep them on the back burner while thry fuck other guys. It's part of why I refuse to be friend zoned.

[whosnumber1]

you will get friend zoned if you take too long to make a move

[MCheetah]

No. Of course not. That defeats the whole point.

[emperor90]

Most likely friendzoning you

[Anonymous]

Sometimes you have no choice.

[FilmGuy93]

Yes, absolutely.