Is it fair to think that women who don't want kids will never be loved/married?

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I told my grandmother that I'm never having kids; I have no desire for kids. She told me that men won't ever want me if I choose to never have kids. She also said that I'll never make it on my own because women need support from men in order to make it in life. (Mind you, I don't identity as a woman, but even if I did, I feel like her statement is a load of crap.) What are your thoughts on this?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It’s not crap.. but I believe she says it for you to reconsider.

Most old people are left behind to their own fate.. you see it a lot. Those who end up with kids tend to be luckier in general because one of the kids will want to take care of them, if they are lucky maybe all will want to take care of them (their parents) .. as opposed to those without kids end up in strangers hands.. when you can’t do things alone anymore or if you unluckily get some type of illness or injury and need additional assistance.. most people who work only do it for money and not precisely because they care about the elderly… many treat the old people bad.. and there’s nobody to tell.. when you have no kids and even if you tel someone else maybe they won’t even believe you because what are you to them?

And most nephews and nieces will be too busy taking care of their own moms to go and be there for just an “aunt”..

It doesn’t happen to everyone but it does happen more often than anybody knows when it goes unheard of because nobody listens to you..

Getting old is scary because you become almost like a baby again.. when you’re little you have your parents.. when you’re old you can only hope that your kids will return they favor (if you had any) .. if not you’re out to your own luck..

Alamo it doesn’t mean 100% that no body will want to be with you.. but from watching how life works as couples, most partners bail on those who cannot have kids by nature, and or those who chose not to have kids.. not taken so seriously and will stay only to fk and then drop you to form a family with another.

It’s just sad reality.

It is not 100%
But it is also not bs. It’s mostly true.

Good luck 🍀 that’s all.

Apulu_3 · Accepted Answer

She belongs to older generation and doesn't knows the views of Present generation where a person can be so busy and not be a good parent so she is saying like that. But whatever she said isn't fair although having kids is good but everyone deserves love.

Fireguy17 · Accepted Answer

not at all, I couldn't have kids, so I had a hard time with relationships when I was younger most women wanted kids.
So for a long time I just didn't date, still went out & had fun, but I just didn't have relationships.
As I got older it wasn't such a big issue, as many women were set with their families and didn't want to have any more kids, or had theri tubes tied.
And, t turned out that my wife couldn't have kids either, so it worked out after all.
So there isn't going to be an issue finding love, or feeling wanted.
As far as making it, many women earn more than men now, you will be just fine.
If it botheres your mom so much tell her to get a dog to play with.

Juxtapose · Accepted Answer

Holy shit this is such a perfect encapsulation of boomers versus gen z..

"She also said that I'll never make it on my own because women need support from men in order to make it in life. (Mind you, I don't identity as a woman, but even if I did, I feel like her statement is a load of crap.)"

Your grandmother has this backwards ass view from the 50s back when women had to depend on men and you are so culturally different there is this whole identity thing that would boggle her mind. Holy fuck wow..

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

1. I, and many other men, only want a wife who doesn't want kids.

2. If you don't want kids, either get fixed, or date a guy who got fixed, or never have sex, cuz birth control fails.

3. Women get paid more than men in most cases, and women are not less capable at business ventures or doing most jobs than men, aside from heavy lifting jobs in most cases.

4. Gender mentalities are not real, people can only really identify as whatever is between their legs as far as gender goes, anything else is nonsense.

Carolus · Answer

You can’t have a cake and eat it, your grandma knows better than you and all these commentators in support. I guess all in support aren’t the same complaining everyday about hookup culture, impossible relationships and guaranteed divorces these days. What would a woman who hates children bring on the table in a marriage? Unless they both hate children I guess. Why would a human work his/her ass off to make money and leave it to a pet or a church after dying? Nobody will tell you this, be a wise woman and don’t follow crowds, if you want to get married (traditionally), you need to respect a husband, be submissive and have children otherwise be a feminist, independent and never complain why it’s never happening for you.

Adam1978 · Answer

I wouldn't take it seriously until she is in her 30's and still share the view. Kids isn't always a obvious choice when your young. But when you settle down you usually reconsider that opinion. She will have a harder time to find a serious relationship, since men that don't want kids, usually don't want to settle with a woman either.

Chlo3_2001 · Answer

Nope. I personally don't want to have kids but I'm open to later in life getting married after 5 years with someone. Just because I'm a woman who doesn't want to have children it definitely doesn't mean I'm not maternal, loving and caring in my own way. Women are still valid women whether we choose to have kids and plenty of successful women have been happily married before and childfree by choice. 🥰😊

DizzyDesii · Answer

There are men who also dont want kids so i think that the women can still be loved and still get married. But i doubt their husband will ever love them as truly and unconditionally as a child would. And without a kid, who will carry their legacy? Their pet named Fluffy

On_cloud_wine · Answer

She was born in a different day and age where what she said was somewhat true but more women are going to school and are more career oriented.

I’m single and I’m content being single forever but I’m open minded to the possibility of committing to someone if he was perfect for me. You just have to be honest in the beginning that you don’t want kids ever, that they can’t change your mind, just so you’re not waisting each other’s time.

SmolOrcaBoi · Answer

Absolutely not. Literally even sex isn’t vital to a good relationship. Not wanting children doesn’t mean you won’t be able to find a loving partner and relationship. Even if it takes more time, you’ll definitely find someone who accepts you and loves you anyways. (And won’t push or force you to have kids of course)

Avicenna · Answer

I don't see a problem with it because men who don't want children would be happy that you don't want kids. It's your life, not your grandmother's or anyone else's. One thing you may want to think about is whether you'd want a man who has kids with another woman that don't live with him. If you're OK with that, it would widen your dating pool.

DaveJord · Answer

No I think you can find love without kids... lots of guys dont want kids. But it narrows a the field a bit for you... but in time you will find the right guy. But you definitely do not need a man to take care or yourself.

Staximus · Answer

Some men don't want kids, either. There's nothing wrong with kids, but I don't want them.
If you were born with a vagina, you're a woman. I can say I identify as a tree and not as a man, but I can't grow leaves now, can I? "I'm a tree, not a man!" Do you realize how stupid that sounds?

Anonymous · Answer

Go easy on your Granny she's from a different time when what she's saying WAS true.

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

That’s not true, there are many men and people in general who don’t want kids out there. I have a friend who had to end pursuing a relationship because she wanted kids, but the guy she was gonna be with didn’t want kids.

FreyaRed · Answer

Well. This is a problem of developed societies, smart and attractive people don't want many children or they don't want them at all.
At some point there will be no escape from artificial breeding before developed societies turn in Idiocracies

Anonymous · Answer

You’ll have less options but there’s plenty of men that will love a woman that doesn’t want kids especially men that have already had kids with someone else and starting a new chapter in their life, but if you don’t identify as a woman then this question is kind of odd

VanillaSalt · Answer

Well most men won’t want you truth be told. Sex nothing more. As for won’t make it… lol… women can make it just fine. But women are rarely happy in their 50s without families or children.

NathanDavis · Answer

I know of a few couples that been together for years and even decades... and they don't have kids... it just works with them very well because both were on the same page about that regard

Twalli · Answer

I don't want kids either, nor does my girlfriend. Most of my aunts and uncles didn't. Two of the guys got vasectomies. I did too

wankiam · Answer

plenty of guys dont want kids either so it balances out i can assure you... we dont all feel the need to adhere to the rules of traditional indoctrination

ARWINGx1 · Answer

honestly, it'd actually be a plus for me, as I value my independence/freedom. But usually assume that such girls are rare.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Nope. my sister does not want kids and she’s fully loved up. it’s rubbish to think you need kids to have love.

chulo1992 · Answer

As someone that never had the desire to want/have kids, I love when meet women that do not have kids. I know what's like to date women with kids of all ages and IT IS NO FUN!!! A woman without kids in my opinion is a breath of fresh air. AHHHH!!!

humanearth · Answer

You know if I knew what I know now. I wouldn't have kids.  Granted I love all my kids and all that.  Just what's going on in the world today and how the future looks. Proves it.

Aethereal · Answer

That's rubbish! There are lots of men out there who also don't want children. You'll be fine, don't worry.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

No plenty of men who don't want kids either and nothing wrong with it

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

boomers and older or more tradition/religion fixed people might believe that but nowadays many people would actually prefer no kids

sheikalana · Answer

That's unfair. I've met married women who do not have kids and don't want to have kids. You just need to find someone who's on the same page as you.

bowenw · Answer

I know many fabulous married women that are loved by their husbands and don't have kids.

MrPickles13 · Answer

Women can make it on their own and well nkf all men want kids I don't ever want any. And it's probably a generation thing to her it was sdifdeeent time then.

Nagahime · Answer

Your grandma sounds like the stereotypical bitter boomer, no offense lmao.

Evan64 · Answer

Not at all. Someone who also doesn't want kids is dreamy to me, lol.

pretty_bad · Answer

Everyone deserve to be loved but having kids is amazing

2021biguy · Answer

You will still find love, kids aren't for everyone.

nawtee_me · Answer

Not at all, some guys don't want kids either which would make a great pair...

Anonymous · Answer

No, because kids mean less sex and vacations. Some people divorce over troubles with their kids

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t want to get married or have kids soooo 🤷🏼‍♀️

Tornado92 · Answer

Ur grand is a Karen!!!  Babe not all man want kids 😙

Flower7 · Answer

No, that’s not a fair thing to say.

slatyb · Answer

Not at all. Many men also don't want children.

Raperonzolo_Viv · Answer

upsetting but she is from another world so nvm

888theGreat · Answer

I would be ok with not having kids.

pixie215 · Answer

no of course not

SnakeBoop · Answer

It's bullcrap.

Anonymous · Answer

No, its foolish and narrow minded to believe that.

andy530 · Answer

No I don’t think so

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