Is it weird to still want to marry a woman who doesn't want kids?

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I've given it a lot of thought and came to the conclusion that being with her is more important to me than having kids.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

This is good. I’m happy for you both.

I am a female who wanted, but no longer wants kids. I told this to my husband and gave the reasons why.

I married him and dated him for him- not for any other person, including a stranger I would have to bear.

I LOVE babies, but they’re exactly that for ONLY 12 months, and then for years after they are a human who will challenge you, need you, and maybe find just about any “good reason” to dislike you or be ungrateful, and disrespectful to you.

They will be someone you constantly worry about and you’ll constantly question their good judgement. They will naturally and scientifically just drain you… and of course outlive you. Ideally.

I rather just live with him and give my love to someone whose judgement I trust, respects me, invests into me as well, is grateful for me, and LOVES me. He’s attractive so it’s a win.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

Ultimately it is what you value most. If you always wanted kids and you’re changing that based on her you need to take a hard look at the relationship. Are you going to regret that decision later and resent her for it? In 20-30yrs when other people’s children are grown and they might possibly be grand parents at that point to a happy and loving family, are you going to be filled with regret and longing? Just food for thought. It isn’t weird for her to not want any, more concerned about you changing your wants to make her happy

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

It's weird if you wanted kids & now you are just changing your mind based on what she says. If you didn't want kids it's not weird. But as others say it's also possible you will change your mind later. Don't count on how you feel about it now being the same in 10-20 years.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

It’s not weird and i did the same thing when i got married in 1987. The question is not just what is important here and now. You need to consider what will be important 20 years from now and whether you will create s lifetime of regrets for yourself.

coachTanthony · Answer

Plenty of women who say they don't want kids until 30 comes and the baby fever strikes. It's the procreation plan of god.

IAMRIA · Answer

Peoples opinions and desires change. If you want kids now, that might change. She doesn’t one kids now, she might never want. Or that might change. But you can’t put all of your hope on that. If she doesn’t want kids and you generally want, that might turn into a big problem and you might built resentment later in life. Make sure you're on the same page on every important topic

bobalife · Answer

Not at all, as long as you’re genuinely happy and accepting of it long-term. I’ve been there and it’s a tough decision with opposite desires, but I think when you really love someone, you just wanna be with them nonetheless. Hopefully you’re both happy together :)

Valdemort · Answer

You love her and that's the main reason you got together I'm guessing.

Before you see them as a potential parent to your (rhetorical) children, you see them as a potential partner to you.

It's not weird, but I do hope that you can truly get to peace with the thought of not having children. Some people who've imagined themselves becoming a parent, do really have a hard time settling with someone who doesn't, even years later.

I hope it works out for you. :)

TenderFantasy · Answer

Aww❤ Good luck finding a woman who doesn't want kids and I'll show you an oceanfront house in Arizona. Lol!

PeachyPie93 · Answer

It is not weird to want to marry her and be with her, because you love her. The thing is do you want kids? And will you regret it later in life? Or blame her for not having kids with you? Those are things you really have to think about. Since you can't get wasted time back. But if you are sure you don't need kids go for it.

Minahh · Answer

Are you sure you're not going to leave her one day if you decide that you really want to have a kid? If you thought it over tho and really came to conclusion that she's the love of your life then awesome and I wish you both luck.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

You should never give up anything you want in life for a spouse, you should both want the same things. There are guys who don't want kids too, she should be with one of them, and you should be with a woman who wants kids if you want kids.
Unless you aren't good at parenting, in which case be with her.

myloveforuisinfinte · Answer

Aww Every girl need a guy like this, who love her more than anything, even a baby.  I think u both should get marry , u can adopt a child in future if u both want , if not then that's great too.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I don't date women that want kids, so no, not weird at all. 20% of people choose to remain child-free.

Zestyassmf1997 · Answer

A little. But I’ve been there before. She’d better be real special, though.

WhitneySnow · Answer

That’s wonderful! I’m happy for you guys. Just make sure that you won’t resent her years later when she still doesn’t want kids.

Dargil · Answer

Some women do not want them. I call that a  pro forma  deal breaker. If I don't learn that in three dates, there won't be a fourth. She wants a playmate and paycheck, not a future and family.

tzdc21 · Answer

If you have truly given it a lot of thought and a lot of soul searching, then good for you. If not, then I would hold off on that decision make absolutely sure that you are okay with not having any kids.

Likes2drive · Answer

Not really some people just don’t want that responsibility and some people already had kids and don’t want more

Phoenix98 · Answer

Honestly in my mind if your goals do not align and you do not want the same things, especially if she doesn't want kids and you do then it's in your best interests to not marry her.

Anonymous · Answer

Not really, I would but them I'm not worried about having kids maybe I'll adopt an heir or find a protégé, my health isn't exactly good genes to perpetuate

Starrrboy · Answer

It's 2024.. that's not super weird anymore.. also , you never know.. sometimes people change their mind about it along the way.. also it's definitely a good sign you found someone you like that much...

exitseven · Answer

No, having kids is not for everyone. My neighbors do not have kids.. They seem to be happy going on nice trips and eating out a lot.

Berethor · Answer

Yea what the point of marrying a woman like that, if you can call her woman.

Anonymous · Answer

It's normal to not want kids until you meet the partner that you want to have kids with. Now I'm not saying that is going to change when you meet them. I'm just saying you're not even to those crossroads yet.

Agent_Elflord · Answer

Nah man, go for it. I hope you two will have a fun and fulfilling life together, and try to keep things fresh further down the road.

Paul09 · Answer

Well to be fair, getting married is weird period. So no, not really. It's weird that humans think they have to do what all the other humans are doing.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not having kids. If a guy wants them, I'm. showing them the door.

Tim2nice · Answer

You don’t have to want kids in order to marry and you don’t have to marry to have kids.

genericname85 · Answer

No. But it's weird to still want to marry a woman who already has kids.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Why marry her? A woman who doesn't want kids BUT still wants to get married is looking for a man as a retirement plan.

Mrtcn01 · Answer

If i dont want kids i dont marry.. i just be boyfriend..

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

It’s not weird it’s smart!

Tharithi · Answer

Why do u love her so much

Roudyrebel8 · Answer

That's not weird

Anonymous · Answer

Do you want to have kids?

Unit1 · Answer

No, why?

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