We talked for a while and then we didn’t. Messaged her again after 10 months, Got seen zoned. Why, do I still want to talk to her again?

[Levi99]

So I used to work with girl and i had a crush on her. So never got the courage to talk to her, neither did she. Things went the same for quite a while until one day she did approach me, convo was going pretty good until she came to close and I freaked out and left the room. Didn’t talk for a while then i made up the courage and i did. We exchanged snaps and snapped back and forth for months. Things then went dull and we stopped talking for no apparent reason, neither did she messaged nor did I. Fast forward 10 months later “today” I messaged her again saying “Hey! It’s been a while. I started thinking bout you out of nowhere. So thought I’d ask how are you doing.” and got seenzoned on snap she saved the chat. Now i feel embarrassed that why did I message her again. But then again, i do want to talk to her again. Should I continue this convo or not? If yes then how should I approach it. Or should i just let it go cuz it’s not meant to be. Final question. Should I delete that message cuz i got seenzoned!

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What I really wanted to ask was that why did she save my message if she just wanted to ignore me!!

[SueShe]

Whatever this "seenzoned" means, it does not sound good.

Why you re-initiated the contact? Well, the answer is clear. You had (and still have) a crush on her and you don't have a substitute right now. So you did the only thing where you presumed you had a minute chance to get further and you did the only thing you should never have done in the first place. That is to try to reconnect with someone that did never show you much interests.

With your clumsy action, you only indicated that you are kind of desperate, not because you truly care for her but because you hoped to get something in return. She is no fool and did perfectly realize what your intentions were.

Just let this crush be and concentrate on the future rather than to try to wake up something that has no chance. Don't continue this conversation because it will not lead anywhere.

[Levi99]

Well I pretty much knew my chances were quite low when i sent that message. Well hope you can answer another of my question. When she ignored me on “Snapchat” why would she save the chat if her true intention was only to ignore me?

[SueShe]

I am not familiar with social media but how can you know that she saved the message?

[Levi99]

Well the thing is snapchat messages disappear when you read them, however you do get an option to save the message. We both can save the message and if we want to delete it aswell!

[SueShe]

I am at a loss why someone would keep those messages. However, if she does not take the initiative to contact you first, then consider it as a lost case. I would personally not write a new message as makes you look as if you were needy.

[Levi99]

I’m confused on that part aswell. I won't message her again.

[Daniela1982]

Why do people play dard ass like this with this back and forth nonsense. If a person doesn't have the balls to go to the next level then stop wasting their time when they could be having more meaningful communications with someone else. I mean all you are doing is chipping at the ice but never really breaking it. How many potential good relationships fade away for the lack of having some guts?

Playing kid games

[Levi99]

Well i do want it to go the next level but i just can’t up say that i like you. So i re-initiated convo with something light. If i would’ve gotten an response i then would confess. They would be having more meaningful conversations. I can’t break the ice first without chipping it! Well it wasted meant to be. So i guess I’ll just move on.

[Avicenna]

Sometimes feelings die hard. I’d talk to other girls.

[Levi99]

Ohh okay. You made explained in very simple terms. Could you answer another question? why did she save my message on snapchat if she just wanted to ignore me!!

[Secret6620]

You probably have a deep connection or serious feelings for her. That could be why you want to still talk to her.

[Levi99]

I do, but it’s only one sided. That’s what i got from her reaction.

[Levi99]

I do however got another question for you, why did she save my message on snapchat if she just wanted to ignore me!!

[In_Trance]

You need to get something else going on