Don't know what to do?

[Anonymous]

How do I get back a very strong independent woman that broke up with me? I'm crazy about her

[Yucy_Gluttony]

All you can do is ask her for another chance and prove yourself. Whatever the reason may be. Be a man of your word. Bullshitters are a waste of time.

[Asker]

That was one of the things, my actions didn't match my words... no matter how true my words actually were, I failed to back them up... this was our 2nd try as well...

[Yucy_Gluttony]

OH you Were a bullshitter! HUEHUEHEU that is not good.
SECOND TRY? Sorry but if you already had a second shot, you blew it. If she is mature, she knows that a second shot should be the last. She gave you a chance to set things right, to grow. But you didn't learn. You can try, but in my head it would bring up one thought 'You can't sweet talk your way back. You already showed me what comes next... utter disappointment'
I know it sounds messed up, but this is me putting myself in her shoes. I'd give you a second chance, but not a third. If she's smart, she probably won't either.

You had a chance to prove yourself again, to set things right, to show that you are man enough, a man of Action. And you again failed. That is all there is to say. You threw it away. Take this lesson into account when you meet someone new

[Yucy_Gluttony]

You may be crazy about her, but you were not crazy about her Enough.

[Asker]

I know... the odds are stacked way against me... I'm definitely gonna try though. I can't give up without a fight. If I'm gonna go down, I'm going down swinging

[Yucy_Gluttony]

That state of mind alone is an attractive trait. Never lose it!

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Depends. What'd you do to lose her?

[Asker]

Long story... pretty much I wasn't mature enough and I lack real world experience (she's 6.5 years older), felt like I was just railing her instead of making love, not pushing hard enough for a better job, not matching my words with actions

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Yeah, you're not getting her back.

Just gain that real world life experience, learn to make love, and get your shit together and be a fully functioning adult. Thrive, and do well.

Then you'll attract someone else.

But you're done with her. She's not gonna give you another chance - you have growing to do.

[Asker]

This was our 2nd chance... so yeah I'm looking for a 3rd chance... seems almost impossible... but she still hits me up

[whereismyjohnny]

More context? What did you do?

[Asker]

Long story... pretty much I wasn't mature enough and I lack real world experience (she's 6.5 years older), felt like I was just railing her instead of making love, not pushing hard enough for a better job, not matching my words with actions

[whereismyjohnny]

Oh. I'm gonna be honest, I think there is no point in trying. If she found you immature and not matching words with actions (plus if you are not on the same wavelength) I doubt that she would try again 😬

[Asker]

This was our 2nd try too... but I know... it just upsets me so much because of our strong my feelings are for her and I how much I wanted us to work... she said "maybe we're just better off as friends for now"... "I care about you a lot"... she still hits me up on snap and messenger...

[whereismyjohnny]

But maybe it's best to just be friends (if you can put your feelings aside ofc)? I mean you said you tried to get back together already, and it didn't work out. I doubt the third time would make any difference.

[Asker]

That's one of the hardest things... I don't wanna lose her in the sense of being my girlfriend but I also don't wanna lose her completely outta my life... she's too amazing. I've never felt like this before about someone

[whereismyjohnny]

I really don't know what to say 😕 I'm sorry that it didn't work out between the two of you, but the best is to move on. If you can't be just friends, it's best to distance yourself from each other.