Why is she doing this?

[Anonymous]

This girl and my guy friend go to the same school and she has a boyfriend but she keeps talking to my guy friend and ranting about the issues that she has within her family and just tells him how mad she is at her family members sometimes and even goes to him when she is upset. Why does she do this?

[KaitlynH]

Lol, won’t be surprised if they end up dating. But nah, it’s pretty normal to go to your friends regardless of genders about your problems, esp if you guys attend the same school it’s convenient to talk to them since they’re just there Yk. It’s nothing to be concerned about, unless she’s getting too close/touchy/flirty with him.

[Asker]

They go to the same school but they don't see each other often. They have been talking everyday for over a year and he even told me that they are each other's number 1 friend on Snapchat, which was hilarious to me lol.

[boggboss]

Because its pretty normal to speak to people u feel comftble talking to about problems

[Asker]

But shouldn't you feel comfortable with your boyfriend?

[boggboss]

Who says she is not its healthy to be able to get multiple points of view

[Asker]

My guy friend likes her and finds it annoying when he goes to him for her problems and would rather her go to her boyfriend for that. Do you agree? He didn't say it to her face but he told me because I'm friends with him. Honestly, isn't he right?

[boggboss]

If your guy friend get annoyed by it he needs to decide what he wants he has made himself her friend which means she will vent to him he has placed himself in that position

[Asker]

No, she actually placed him in that position because she has a boyfriend.

[boggboss]

No he let himself be placed there then pretended he was happy being her venting blanket hoping she would fall for him

[Asker]

No, he didn't really hope for anything. She chose someone else...

[boggboss]

Yes she chose a partner and started venting to him he allowed it to happen so it's become normal for her to vent to him again u made it clear he likes her so clearly he wants more

[Asker]

Yes, he does. What should he do from here, you think?

[boggboss]

Depends she won't want to be with him she is not attracted to him like that so he has to decide if he is willing to let her know this is not enough or accept what he has

[Asker]

Yeah, I agree with that part.

[Asker]

But the funny thing is she is acting more attracted to him than her own boyfriend haha.

[boggboss]

And how does he know how they act when they are together sorry

[boggboss]

By themself

[Asker]

I'm saying that she seems attracted to him too. You can still be in a relationship and attracted to someone else too, you know? It happens and it's pretty common, believe it or not...

[boggboss]

But u said she is acting more attracted to him thats impossible to know I never said she may not be attracted to him

[Asker]

Should he perhaps distance himself a bit if he has feelings for her?

[boggboss]

Clearly

[Asker]

Okay. Thank you!

[Asker]

I need to update you on this. So, my friend has been distant with her and even though she has a boyfriend she has been blowing up his phone a lot lately even when he is genuinely busy and is not playing games. He has been trying to move on and now she is the one that keeps blowing up his phone whilst he is remaining busy with his life.

[boggboss]

Because the person she qould vent to is not there this was always going to happen

[Asker]

She keeps blowing up his phone even when it is not necessary to do so. Her texts have been so random.

[boggboss]

Again I'm not suprised the person she offloaded her issues to went from entertaining her to not so she was going to try and get that back

[Asker]

He is rather irritated and sick of her doing that so he has been focusing on himself lately.

[boggboss]

So tell him to tell her

[Asker]

Will do. Thanks a lot for your help!

[Wise4myage]

She probably feels comfortable talking to the friend about her issues.

[Asker]

But shouldn't you feel comfortable with your boyfriend?

[Wise4myage]

Yes you should.

[Asker]

My guy friend likes her and finds it annoying when he goes to him for her problems and would rather her go to her boyfriend for that. Do you agree? He didn't say it to her face but he told me because I'm friends with him.