Why do some women love bomb, shut down strongly if a guy pulls away, and shut down strongly if he makes a move as well?

[Anonymous]

[Cynicaldreamer]

First off, don't assume just women do that. I've had my share of men do the SAME THING, which left me confused and hurt in the process. But for the sake of your question, I will try to answer it from a neutral perspective:

Because they're playing games with you. Basically playing, "hot and cold": one minute they're into you, the next they pull away or lose interest- usually when someone else of interest comes along, or they realize they're not into you like they thought they were... yet they're too immature to just come out and say that.

Basically no matter what you do: be it approach them and make it clear you like them, or give them space to see if they will talk to you first, it's really a waste of time. I've learned to stop giving people like that my attention. If they really liked you, they wouldn't do that crap in the first place.

[SolitarySolace]

I’ve had that exact thing happen recently. A girl I met on a dating app came to me and asked for my contact info so I gave her my Snapchat. She told me she really liked me and wanted to meet me someday and all that. Then got distant. Never really tried to attempt to get to know me. Told me there was no one else she was talking to. She then ends up in a relationship with some guy. I think it’s because she was desperate for child support while starting culinary school. I deleted the dating app and blocked her on everything. Broke my heart and I am still angry with myself for allowing myself to catch such strong feelings…when I promised myself I never would again. It will not happen again

[SolitarySolace]

Because they don’t know what the fuck they want. They’re too much of a headache. Not worth anything