As a natural redhead I've been kicked in the back spit on and thrown rocks at by boys and girls abandoned by men so is my feelings justified?

[Anonymous]

Is it normal for me to hate many women for not sticking up for me growing up and men for not protecting me al these years? I apprecaite people now who finally care just want you al to know that. I never had a father t ohold me hug me love me only blonde girls and dark girls brunettes. get. that. always never me the redhead girl ever growing up but kicked instead by both genders. I do aprrecite when people come and say your naturally pretty or naturally sexy but you know what i aalways wanted more then aything was a daddy to love me and respect me like other girls. My daddy is also a brunette for the record and told me many times there was no way he could produce me if i was born with red hair and blonde guys wel you all love the brunettes so i never got love ever from blonde guys either even though my mother was a natural blonde so i just once in a while have wanted to kill myself many times over this but i won't because i know that then theyl be no ine to represent the natural true natural redhead girl and they need that more then anything a rolemodel.

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I wil say that down below im more blonded but its not like i can show that. Naturally a redhead on top though.

[Oigit]

The simple truth is life can be cruel and unforgiving. People can also be the same way.
Life and people can cruel and unforgiving to a person no matter what color their hair or skin is. If people are not able to resolve the cruel and unforgiving parts or events in their life they can start to reach for a reason why it all happened. Give your last couple posts and this one, it's pretty clear that you are making the fact that you have red hair the cause of everything that happened to you. When the truth is much more complicated then that. Because bad things can happen to people for no real reason at all. A lot of it comes from the unpredictability that is built into life in general.

You really need to look into getting some help. Because nothing is going to change and your red hair is always going to cause everything negative in your life tell you do. Also take this from someone that got help and worked through a lot in order to stop my life from spiraling out of control. You will never know just how much you are carrying around and how much it is effecting you are able to put the weight down and work through it. Sometimes the only way we can put that weight down is getting help from someone that can help us do it.

[Asker]

This is deep though from years abuse so yes getting help will help for it but it surely won't be by a women who braught me down unless they understand what its like.

[Asker]

It also won't be by many men who never cared.

[Asker]

And al the people that did it said it was because of my red hair.

[Asker]

So yes i am extremely bitter

[Oigit]

Well the question is do you want to continue to be bitter and deal with all the negative impact being bitter can have on a person? Because if you are not willing to get the help you need there is a very good chance that you will never leave that bitterness behind you. So you are going to simply remain where you are right now.

[Asker]

Well i thought about suicide many times or just beating up my abusers but can't do that so ya doesn't leave me to many options. I could get help however i have a lot of trust issues for sure. So ya its either get help or find a way to ignore the hate.

[Asker]

I want to be a rolenodel to other redheads to say screw al the men and women who are mean to you they can die.

[Asker]

I am smart though so beter to get help then go there.

[Asker]

Do you think i look better going platinum blonde al over or being my natural redhead self lol?

[GingerGuy]

Wow, glad I never experienced that. I was just ignored completely lol. And it's unfortunate you can't pick your parents. Your dad is scum to put it nicely. But I'd never expect anyone to do anything about it. Other than maybe your mother with your dad.

[Asker]

Yes and boys were the ones that did it most of the time why the girls just laughed

[shortster]

Your father is wrong about not being able to have a redheaded child. My mom is a brunette and my father was blonde; and they had a blonde, a brunette, and a redheaded child. Being that both of your parents are also carriers for the redhead gene; if they continued having kids about 25% of them would be redheads.

[Asker]

Wel he thought my mom cheated on him to be with his redheaded cousin bit since red is reccesive if the redhead guy was my dad and with my blonde mom i wouldve mostly ended up with blonde hair vs red since blonde is more dominant over red. Also when i took the dna think came back 99.9 percent that brunete was the biological the one i took in the mail

[shortster]

Yeah, he should have known that with a redheaded cousin that it is very likely that he was a carrier. But had your mom actually cheated with his cousin the probability of you being a redhead goes up to 50%. Since your mom is also a carrier for the redhead gene.

[Asker]

True but blonde is more dominant over red so couldve been higher chqnce of being blonde to

[Asker]

Blonde on top that is

[clemdenim]

my dads side of the family is dotted with red hair, i find it lovely and a turn on. so very sorry you have borne the brunt of someones hatred. i have a hug for you

[Asker]

Thank you and most of society doesn't even know theyre doing it but look around. Thank you i aprreciate al i ever wanted i never ever counted on a guy for money other that is also def something I've never had for real

[clemdenim]

very welcome

[Nerdvana]

I am really sorry to hear how you have been treated. You are amazing and so beautiful.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Pudsmucker]

I've never knew a redhead that could not surprise anybody with what she has.

[Asker]

Thank you im a natural strawbery blonde however i stil consider myself in the red head category

[Pudsmucker]

I think women that are strawberry blonde are beautiful ladies. I married a strawberry blonde. We have been together 44 years. Hope the best for you and your future

[Asker]

Thank you.

[deandre09]

FUCK yo feelings since when has women cared about women's feelings

[Asker]

This was boys who kicked me not girls

[deandre09]

How old?

[deandre09]

And you have to treat folks the way you wanna be treated

[Asker]

I was a kid and they kicked me for no reason

[Asker]

I want to be treated with respect but do they know the meaning of respect no only evil so screw them assholes.

[deandre09]

If little boys were doing that that's because they liked you

[Asker]

Like agirl involves kissing a girl notkicking her

[PatriceONeal]

I have a hard time believing the gingerism

[Asker]

Wel it happened believe it or not when i eas a kid by boys

[PatriceONeal]

Yeah kids suck lol

[Asker]

Yes it was always a boy that did it while the gilrs would laugh.

[Asker]

I mean the boy wpuld do the phsical assault while the girls laughed.

[Asker]

I never reported it though for some reason i thought that it was notmal behavior that i deserved it for being a redhead hel now id have those boys thrown in jail so fast

[PatriceONeal]

Sounds like you have an axe to grind. At 45 it still effects what kids did so long ago?

[Asker]

Yes it does thrown into the fact that I never had a dad.

[Asker]

So caused me to be bitter to a lot of women as well

[Asker]

Then i found out when i got older i also have touch of asbergers symdrome and that at my high school reunion many of them though i was stuck up for being a redhead why they did it so they were the popular ones why would i be the stuck up one but i let it go lol life is to short because now i know the boys were threatened by my look for some reason it was always blonde boys that physically assaulted me maybe they were racist against redheads who knows

[PatriceONeal]

Dads are definiitely missing in the households and its effects are shown across the board. Feminism and the welfare state has effectively destroyed the nuclear family. Which could eventually be the complete undoing of America.

[Asker]

Ya these blonde boys o dont know why they always targeted me when i was a girl to this day i question that. As adult they dont target me as much however thinking maybe they were racists.

[PatriceONeal]

Racist against red hair?

[Asker]

It was never dirty blonde boys or redhead boys just the platinum blonde boys that did it lol. I wasn't even platinum blonde so not sure why they felt 5he need to hurt me.

[Asker]

I was strawbery blonde not platinum

[Asker]

Wel they would throw rocks at me and kick me didn't do to other girls

[Asker]

I mever could understand why those platinum blonde boys were so bitter to me.

[Asker]

I moved on though ended up with darker guys because of it.

[Asker]

The darker guys appreciate me more.

[deandre09]

Kids don't know any better that's why it's up to the adults to teach them right from wrong

[eagle1951]

i think red heads are beautiful women

[Asker]

You do? Most dont so i appreciate that you do and means a lot.