So I met my boyfriend playing basketball. He turned out to be a coach and somehow we ended up dating. The moment we met, it was instant attraction. Now, I’m not a professional player, I manage my family small business with no degree 🤷🏻♀️ and certainly my family is not rich. When my boyfriend told me that ending his relationship with his ex was very painful for him, I couldn’t stop feeling jealous and the more details I got from her, the more inferior I felt. They were together for 7 years, he ended the relationship because she had different goals than his (I suspect she cheated, but he didn’t give me details) and he said she didn’t seem happy. He was telling me that she is professional basketball player, with a degree in psychology, rich family, beautiful and what really gets me is all the time she spent with my boyfriend. It made me so insecure that I don’t know why is he with me? So, have you ever felt inferior and jealous of your boyfriends ex? If I could please get some advice or thoughts on this situation, it will be so appreciated!
Girls: Have you ever felt inferior and jealous of your boyfriends ex?
For sure. My first toxic ex made me develop jealousy issues which has been an issue in my relationships but I've managed to work on them a lot. By the way, if when telling you about her he called her beautiful and stuff I would say that crosses the line. But if he was respectful about it, remember he chose you. He wants to be with you for a reason, and he ended the relationship with her for a reason. As long as he isn't hung up on her, the past is in the past. I went to a therapy session to work on jealousy, and have had many open conversations with my boyfriend. I'd recommend the same for you, you'll get there :)
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He never said she’s beautiful to me, I acknowledge that because she is… she’s like a model, tall blond blue eyes.. beautiful 🤷🏻♀️. Now the only reason we talked about her is because we had my friend over for dinner and my friend asked him about his job and his ex. He didn’t want to talk about it but my friend kept pushing him. Anyway, thank you! I think your advise is a great advice. Maybe this is something within myself I have to learn to deal with and therapy could be a good start💗
Well that's great then that he didn't want to talk much about it, shows great respect for you. Honestly I understand your feelings all too well, but I nearly ruined my relationship with irrational jealousy and it was not worth it. It is an internal struggle, but we can manage it. Keep discussions open with your boyfriend, it helps to have their reassurance and love too. You got this.
A lot of people date their holly wood like fantasy person in their first connection and than after getting dumped, date less attractive people to guard themselves from getting hurt. I’ve seen this many times and I would assume these people learn to be content with their new partners.
And this is why I don't talk much about my ex's other than they were great partners during the time and place and I'm ready to start a new. And leave it at that. >w< I keep the details to myself just to avoid exactly what OP is explaining. XD.
Stop being a downer be happy he is with you no reason to be jealous of her he picked you to be you're the winner she is the loser if you don't stop the over thinking you will be the next loser
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Thank you! Your words really moved me. Thank you for the great advice. 🧡
my only boyfriend we are each others first after that i don't have a boyfriend so i really cannot relate. i'm still looking for q boyfriend maybe somedat
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