Why Do Girls Like Playing The Hot & Cold Game?

[BullShark]

Real talk. Like I've seen this behavior a lot and even experienced it myself sometimes lol. What's the reasoning behind it? Do you do it on purpose or are you oblivious about it?

And not trying to point fingers here at anyone, but when a guy does the same in return, he's labeled as a jerk? Me and a couple others guys here would like to know.

For anyone who doesn't know what I'm talking about, the hot and cold game is when a girl (or sometimes even guys too) will act interested in you, flirty, charming and friendly, but then randomly the next day, they'll pull away, act cold, distanced or just outright unapproachable, which can make the other party feel played with or just unimportant.

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After a total of 10 opinions from both genders as of right now, I guess we can conclude that playing the Hot & Cold game is pretty much, a dick move, regardless who does it. You shouldn't be leading people on just because you yourself aren't sure about your own feelings. Be upfront and mature about what you really want, and don't give people false hopes which will end up coming back to bite you in the ass.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Attention... drama equals that shit. It's all about attention. If it causes some sort of attention... chicks and dudes raised by single moms will do it. Hands down, all in, I place my bets on it being for attention. Like a closely related relative of the hot and cold... starting fights for bullshit reasons. Chicks have a greater tendency to seek it because Dad was always at work or left... now it's all about attention seeking.

[RolandCuthbert]

If you dated a few women at a time, your crush wouldn't play hot and cold. When they know you have made them the center of your universe, they aren't all that concerned. The minute they hear you went a concert with another girl, they are all over you.

I thought everyone knew this already.

[BullShark]

Possibly, but that doesn't work for all of them. Not all of them necessarily want them to be the center of your world and sometimes, it can also be them who's juggling multiple guys at once. I'm not the sort of person to date around anyways, so if I have a crush, if I'm focusing on anyone, it'll be her

[RolandCuthbert]

I never worried about who it worked for. I haven't met many women who knew what they wanted. If you meet a woman who does, great.

That's the million in one long shot.

But if the lady is juggling multiple guys, I am not sure what the attraction could be outside of smashing.

That's why I always say keep a distance and date often. The real ones will always reveal themselves.

[BullShark]

@RolandCuthbert facts. Not just women, but people in general nowadays are unsure about what they really want. If everyone really knew, then they wouldn't be fucking around seeing what "feels best for them" because they already know what it is

[RolandCuthbert]

Just giving advice for guys who are trying to date.

I am certainly not one of those who believe that women and men are the same.

In my view, if any dude wants success dating women he had better learn about the differences.

[_deeznuts]

some of us are assholes lol. My best idea on this is maybe they did it impulsively and regretted it the next day.

[fonduegirl]

Emotionally unavailable probably.

[BullShark]

Okay, but why give the dude the green sign then if they aren't available to start with? Seems kinda paradoxical

[fonduegirl]

Depends on individual reasoning here. I can't answer for all guarded people lol.

[MikeInHawaii]

It’s part of the silly game playing women do. My favorite was a girl who pretended to be uninterested in me, but her nipples would get hard when I was talking to her.

[blondfrog]

Yep but then when a guy does the same to her she gets mad and frustrated. The stupid cycle of the human existence.

[rabbitzzz]

Not any guy. The 1%

[blondfrog]

@rabbitzzz Way more than 1% buddy. There are lots of fucked up guys out there and fuck boys and everything in between a fuck body.

[maximumpower]

Every girl I've ever met plays mind games and enjoys them.
I won't play.

[FictionalCharacter]

I’m hot all the way

[Luopio27]

I feel your pain. Leading people on is bullshit.

[Snsl153]

Who is that in the photo?

[BullShark]

Not sure. Found it on Google randomly

[rabbitzzz]

anna kraynova blue eyes model

[dolemite89]

they’re testing you

[D_Bone_Steak]

I second this opinion, and I believe the official term is called "shit testing." ... not joking, google that shit.

[dolemite89]

@D_Bone_Steak exactly, if she pulls away DO NOT chase her more

[D_Bone_Steak]

Hell yeah... don't chase and chances are she'll start chasing you. It's all about attention seeking for them 99&1/2 of the time. If they don't chase back... well shit, can't expect them all to want the D-bone.

[itsalyssaagain]

I do that because I get insecure.

[BullShark]

Insecure about what, though? We guys are mostly almost always pretty straightforward no bs creatures. If we like you, we'll chase you. If we don't, we'll steer far away from the get go.

We don't play mind games like this and if one of us does, he's most probably a certified fuckboy

[itsalyssaagain]

A lot of guys play mind games with me

[Blackcupcake]

nope I think it’s lame