I’ve been with my wife for 10 years, married for 3 years and we have 2 daughters. Just before we got married when she drank she was great fun up till 3 drinks then after that she’d fall asleep for an hour, no matter where we were. Then she’d wake up and be a totally different person, she’d start drinking again and have no control over her actions or behaviour whatsoever. Here’s a few examples, she’s a married 40 year old mum of 2, good job, nice house etc. in the last 3 years I’ve seen her been so drunk she’s tried to grope my friends and kiss them when I’m in the same room, she’s tried to do the same with random men at pubs when she’s out with me, she’s stood naked in front of my friend and his new girlfriend once then tried to grope him in front of everyone, I’ve seen her do this stuff 8 times with my own eyes, 2 years ago she tried twice to kiss her friends man in our kitchen when she thought I wasn’t there, but I was outside and seen her. If this is what she’s like when I’m there what’s she like when she’s out with her friends all night? One friend of hers I know will actively encourage her to do what she wants on a night out with any man she meets and wouldn’t do the right thing and stop her and take her home to protect her marriage and family. I left my wife 8 months ago and told her it’s either she continues getting drunk and acting this way or she can have her marriage and family. So far after 8 months she’s done nothing about it. Tonight I’ve got our kids and she’s out with her friend pissed, putting herself in the position where she’ll probably cross the line again. So am I right to expect my wife to give up drinking if she acts like this when she’s drunk? 8 times I’ve seen her with my own eyes trying it on with other men, 8 times too much in my opinion. I’m all for my marriage and family but I can’t put up with this anymore and she isn’t making effort to make sure it won’t happen again so I feel justified in leaving her
When some people get drunk they are still the same person, only drunk. With other people they can be like Jekyll and Hyde. They turn into a completely different person.
The alcohol has her. The alcohol controls her, not the other way around. This isn't something she can simply choose to flip a switch and change. This is not your wife you are dealing with, it's the alcohol you are dealing with.
This is something she can change only with great effort. Even then not everyone will be successful at quitting.
I don't want to say if you should or shouldn't leave her. You have to decide that for yourself. Just know that if you are waiting for her to change, you could be waiting a very long time, and it may never happen at all. So whatever decision you make, it shouldn't be based on her changing.
It also wouldn't be a bad idea to take a hard look to see what role you may be playing in this. When she has such an obvious problem. it's easy to focus on that, and only that.
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That marriage has run it's course, she's living the slut life now.
Sorry man, but many, many guys go through this crap. You're right to get the fuck away from her. The only thing you can do is avoid her as much as possible except to pick up your kids. Spend all your time getting in shape, improving yourself, and moving on. I know it's hard, but you need to be better, and find somebody better. Your ex-wife is just a memory now. Let her go, she's just holding you back from finding a better life.
You overlook the major point here. Alcoholism is a disease. She herself has to want to get help. She won’t until something shocks through the haze.
I’m sorry you are in the middle. It has to be awful.
If she doesn't quit, it might be time to move on.
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I’d leave her. But if you insist on staying, get her into a program. Your marriage likely won’t survive her drinking.
You need to put her across your knee and spank her ass as hard as you can
I suggest an intervention, try and get her parents and siblings on board.
Wow. Counseling for her and both ifvyiu?
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