Ladies, are you manipulative?

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meetkitty123 · Accepted Answer

I have to say I grew out of such behavior. I recall being mean to my brother. I like to get him in trouble until a summer camp counselor taught me an important lesson! Just because he was my brother didn't give me the right to pick on him. I was shocked when she punished me. No one at home ever recorrected me on this behavior (because often we were left alone). Another time I recall as a child I manipulated pair of bullies. I caused them to break their friendship. They weren't like by the others because they were mean to everyone so this left them isolated. I then played the role of a concerned classmate befriended them separately then brought other kids to play with them. It worked they stopped their bullying ways. Now honestly after elementary school I pretty much out grew it. I realized being nice felt so much better and my dad gave me an important lesson! "Kill them with kindness" he basically instilled in me that people get further by being nice and respectful though it may be harder to do in the end its worth it.

I'm rattling my brain trying to think what else I have done which was manipulative. Ok wait there was one time after elementary that I did do something mean... But is it considered manipulative?

Does locking my cruel uncle in a shed in Puerto Rico's hot heat count? He honestly deserved it 😉. Though honestly it was never my intention for him to be looked in there from 12pm to 8pm. I forgot I had locked him in and usually my aunt came home from the town plaza by 1pm. People suspected it might have been me but they really couldn't be sure since I walked up the hill to anothers aunts house so I had an alibi. At least I can say he never messed with me again! I have to say sorry dear papa but this was one time nice just wasn't going to cut it... With him being nice meant trouble!

Now as an adult no I wouldn't call Myself manipulative since Manipulativeness is often associated with malice and selfishness. I'd call myself PERSUASIVE 😇😁. And my goodness I can be quite good at it! Yes I can usually have people do as I want by using kindness and sweetness. This works the best! However I am never attempting to do harm. For example when you yourself or your kid has to go bathroom at a location where it says no public bathroom. I have had good results in being snuck into the restroom by being polite and of course giving compliments (honest compliments though).

I actually find myself needing to use my skills of sweet kind persuasion daily. I have a special needs child who has a defiant disorder. To keep my son calm and have him follow to rules I must be sweet and gentle. I find complimenting him and making him feel helpful and important get better results then anger.

I also use they skill often at work. I work with a group of special needs kids and I'm constantly having to be persuasive to get them to obey. Sometimes they may think something is not fun and I twist the activity and turn it into a game or I join in even if I come off ridiculously silly such as today when no one wanted to join the music activity. I began to sing the Ants go marching while marching around the room with toy pail on my head taking one kids hand at a time getting them to join and passing on the pail to the next marching leader... Silly but it worked.

Now does my skills work on men 😈 oh yes it can 😉 but again its usually for a good cause. Get a guy friend to go to the doc when he's sick, getting a man to swim or dance with me, getting a fellow into mood after a hard day convincing them to makeup with a family member after an argument... That sort of stuff. But my persuasion is sweet and gentle.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes and no. I can be manipulative at times and I’m fully aware of it, bc it’s like I have to “flip on” the switch in order to be manipulative - this mostly happens when I’m PMSing and I want things to go according to my way 😬

I don’t go overboard though, the most that I’d do is pretend to actually care about something to win over the person, or sometimes I say things that I don’t usually mean (like “I’m sorry”) just to get them to stop pestering me about it. Buttt, even though I’m not actually sorry - I won’t repeat the same act/mistake again bc I know it pisses them off lol

macjets007 · Accepted Answer

I think most women are manipulative, but it is not a bad thing if they are doing it to protect their heart in a relationship. I just think that is sort of the nature of many women anyway, but we still love you all!

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Some are, some aren't, and you generally must spend some time with them before you can tell which she is.

musicbrain5 · Answer

That’s impossible to answer. Everybody is going to say that they aren’t. Being manipulative is a personality trait that can really only be observed by other people. So if I were to give you a truthful, honest answer without bullshitting either of us, I would have to get someone else to answer honestly on my behalf.

Absolutely nobody is going to admit that they have a piss poor personality trait. Have you ever noticed that women who say they are not bitches, tend to be the biggest bitches? Or the ones that say “I’m not like other girls” or “not all women” etc, are always angry raging feminists?

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

I can be yeah, not even for bad stuff most of the time. Sometimes I just want to get something over with so I try to influence the person to see things my way while thinking they're not. I have played with people's emotions and all the bad stuff too.

Justneedtokno · Answer

Yes and no only because I don’t like it but I am a little spoiled growing up by my father so I know I can get certain things

msc545 · Answer

You have to know every one of them will deny or try to justify it.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah but I lack empathy lol

KittyBox · Answer

Absolutely I'll use you to get.. oh wait...

Guy13 · Answer

Yes...

Anonymous · Answer

Some are, and so are some men.

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