How to deal with a co-worker who is already taken but flirts with you?

[Anonymous]

I just got to know her and she already touched me when passing by, smiles at me, sits next to me whenever she can, laughs with my jokes.. During a group conversation she mentioned she has a boyfriend. So I back off which she noticed. Still she keeps on sitting next to me, looking for my attention. Is it just that, trying to get my attention?

I won't do anything. If she wants more, she will have to cross the bridge herself.

[DEXTER_LIVES]

Cheaters seem to bring a lot of drama and unwanted problems with them. They hurt others and make their boyfriend or husband lose his mind. She definitely wants attention so look out. Sometimes getting involved with them isn't worth the guilt and stress of being pulled into her messed up relationship problems.

There's billions of other women out there and lots of them are single. There's really no good reason to mess around with women who are in relationships. It just hurts people and causes problems for everyone involved. It's also a waste of time because she's obviously not a good person to have any kind of future with. Tell her that you're seeing someone right now and just distance yourself from her if possible. Keep things professional.

[Asker]

Good advice, thanks!

[DEXTER_LIVES]

No problem. I've been cheated on, and I also ended up being "The other guy" in a messed up situation with a married woman before. I know how all this shit plays out from both sides. Now I am cautious of the kind of women that you're talking about. I would run from her because she's just trouble.

[Asker]

Indeed, a bit the story of my life. Women tend to see me as a fantasy...

[DEXTER_LIVES]

Good for you.
With great power comes great responsibility my friend.
Attention from women is good, as long as it's good quality women that are single and not some heartless lying bitch from work who gets off on being trashy.
Good luck in your travels.

[KrakenAttackin]

She is just a cock tease seeking attention. Don't overtly reject her as she could stomp to HR and seek revenge stating you touched her or said something sexual. Just be polite and let it go.

[Asker]

Good advice, thanks!

[LazerBean]

Tell her she makes you uncomfortable when she touches you. If she continues then make it very obvious that you are avoiding her and do not want to have any sort of physical or verbal contact with her.

[Asker]

Thanks, I will do so!

[joeldalton]

Soccer matches have a goalie. Doesn’t mean you can’t score.

[KrakenAttackin]

@joeldalton Ha! Great expression, but dangerous in the work place.

[Asker]

Ha ha, true, but this has happened too many times already.