How do you deal with a coworker that fancies you?

[Simslover92]

I just found out my coworker fancies me which just makes things awkward for me. He was married but now he's getting a divorce. I'm happily in a relationship but even if I wasn't I don't do workplace romances.

How do you deal with a coworker that likes you but you don't like them in that way?

[ManInChains]

I've had a few coworkers interested in me. Personally I don't think going out with a coworker is the smartest thing to do... It could bring up complications in the workplace. So I have turned them down and i felt like an asshole for doing so but it was for the best. There was one who I actually hung out with outside of work for a bit but it didn't go anywhere so we went back to just being coworkers. It's awkward seeing them around but we stay civil with each other.

[bowenw]

If you don't fancy them be kind about it and explain you don't share the same feelings for them that they do for you. If you fancy them, try to find a way to make it work. I have in the past.

[Simslover92]

I definitely don't fancy them because I'm with someone that I love dearly. I will be kind about it and tell them that I don't feel the same way if he tries to hit on me.

[Simslover92]

Thanks!

[bowenw]

I hope he isn't too heartbroken.

[Simslover92]

I hope not either. It certainly will make things awkward from here on out.

[bowenw]

It's not your fault it if does.

[bowenw]

*if it

[Artificial Intelligence]

Navigating the choppy waters of workplace crushes, especially when it's one-sided, calls for a blend of tact and honesty, a little like a dance. Since you're not interested, and especially because you value your relationship, it's all about setting boundaries without setting off workplace drama. A straightforward yet gentle conversation might do the trick. Let him know you value him as a coworker, but your heart is happily taken, and workplace romances aren't on your playlist. Keeping things professional while exuding your usual charm will help you both move past this little bump in the road gracefully. Remember, it's all in the delivery—kindness and clarity can prevent a world of misunderstandings. Plus, staying focused on work and maintaining that professional vibe will remind him gently but firmly where you stand. Keep sparkling in your role, and let this be a fleeting note in your workplace symphony.

[Summeroflove]

I think you should directly communicate. That you understand he is interested but that you’re in a relationship and don’t do workplace romances. Don’t embarrass him talk to him in private and maybe even help set him up with someone.

Feeling awkward is pretty normal. It’s just best to be upfront and communicate to prevent things from building up and becoming a problem.

[Simslover92]

Ok I can definitely do that! Thanks!

[DrPepper12]

I avoided her until I couldn't. I did allow our friendship to become deeper and we did spend time together more often. We both knew what we wanted but we never acted on it since both of us were married and I'm kind of firm on you don't shit where you eat.

[Simslover92]

Same here. I am definitely firm on you don't shit where you eat!

[DizzyDesii]

Im flattered either way. The workplace wouldn't stop me if the feelings mutual. If its not, i’d just tell em that

[Simslover92]

I'm definitely flattered but just feel awkward because I definitely don't feel the same way especially since I'm in a relationship. But I will let him know I don't in a nice polite way.

[sheikalana]

I don't deal with them. I keep things strictly professional. No interactions out of work. No social media sharing. No sharing personal details.

[Simslover92]

I try to keep things as professional as possible but my coworkers and boss are gossipers. It's easy to know what's going on in someone else's life at work because they tell each other everything. They get frustrated with me because I don't air out my business. I try to keep things as strictly professional as possible. This is why I hate this guy is into me. I try to stay quiet and unseen but I guess I didn't do a good job of that.

[sheikalana]

You didn't do anything wrong. For some people the mystery is attractive. Keep things strictly professional and if you're in a happy relationship you have another reason not to entertain this type of BS.

[Simslover92]

I certainly will! And yes I'm happily in a relationship so I definitely don't need to entertain it.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I mean your a pretty girl so things like this will happen. As long as he's not being disrespectful say I'm flattered but I have a man and keep it pushin

[Simslover92]

Aww thank you! 😊 And you're right. I'll just say that and keep it moving!

[Bklynbadboy12]

Your welcome

[elaphe]

Be straight with him and simply tell him you are not interested.

[Simslover92]

Ok I will! Thanks!

[msc545]

You tell him you are flattered but you don't do workplace romances.

[Simslover92]

Ok I will do that.

[dolemite58]

It’s easy not to date coworkers to avoid any drama

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

Put boundaries out and be honest with him.

[Simslover92]

Ok I certainly will! Thanks!