Too good to make love but too bad to be in love?

Question

I was irresistibly in love with a girl but she didn't love me. She left the city and started enjoying life. Not much later I entered another serious relation, where I was cheated.

This is when she comes back to my life begging for my love. Im hitting her with the same words she used to hurt me.

Although I want to make love to her, I dont, even if she agrees to. But I hate the fact she is willing to sleeps with others.

It burns a part in me when she hooksup with strangers.

She is too good to make love but too bad to be in love, yet she can severely damage me and my emotions.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

I'm sorry that you had to feel that pain I think we've all been through it

I and when we're caught up in that anger and that pain we stayed there for quite a while are we allow ourselves to stay there for quite a while

When you step out of the picture and look at it from a different View you realize that that pain that angry that you feel is because of love and the death of love that you have in all reality that's how much you love yourself which is a beautiful thing you have an energy with inside you you could feel something so deep for somebody else for her and that feeling that you get is a beautiful feeling of course you don't want anybody else to touch her because you have that passion you have that love for her and you wanted to become one with her so of course it's going to hurt you but what you have to understand is you felt that that is coming from you inside of you it didn't come from her that pain in that anger you feel is how deep your love is for yourself and for others and that's a beautiful thing and then what you have to understand is if you think about it she's not for you if she was for you she would have been with you she showed you exactly who she is by her getting up and leaving and saying whatever it is that she said I don't know about you but I wouldn't want to be with a person like that because they just showed me exactly who they are in real life and I would think there's bigger and better things out there for you

A lot you're angry and pain comes from somebody else touching her you wanted to do that you wanted to be that person and you can only imagine what it would feel like and I'm sure it was very beautiful thing so it makes you mad when you just the thought of her doing it with somebody else there again she's showing you who she is and what she's all about

When we break up with somebody or somebody breaks up with us we're so focused on the hurt and the pain and what we feel we lose sight of what is really going on and that pain that we feel we can't get that from anybody but ourselves because we're the only one inside of us that can make us feel that way we can be hurt but reality is for what because we loved okay that could happen but we're hurt because we like somebody and we can't have them and if you look at the whole picture do you really want them at the end of every relationship there's a reason why there's an end and if you really look at that person down deep do you really want to be with the person that has done the things that they have done are they are doing in your life you might say yes right now because everything is fresh they give a little bit of time this is just an experience for you for you to understand the next step in life whatever it may be I think you have it though I can feel your energy from here you have a very beautiful energy you're very good person and your time will come when you will find the one for you