Is being too "in love" a bad idea?

[Ayanna240]

Being in love is great right? That "high" happiness that your lover can take you where nobody else can. Its so addicting. You just can't get enough of the person. Just like you can't get enough of cocaine. You want to spend 24/7 around this person. You text them all day everyday. You think about them every hour of the day. You are so consumed by this person that you have forgotten how to be happy on your own without them. You've been so addicted to / consumed by them for so long that you've neglected and forgotten everything else that used to give you joy in life. As a result, you can't live without this person. Nothing else exists in your life other than this person.

Once you get dumped / divorced by this lover, its like half your heart or half your world being torn away from you. One side of you is dead forever and it will never ever recover. Life can't ever be the same without them again. Nobody can make your life as lively and rosy again. there's nothing left to your life because your lover was your everything. It'll take YEARS for you to recover but even if you do recover, you will never ever be the same person again

Isn't it a bad idea to ever get too "addicted" to someone? Such as to be so consumed for them that you lose your sense of self. You forget how to be happy on your own.

[Anonymous]

It's not "in love" It's too emotionally attached to a person. You should never be dependent on a person for your happiness. If you are, there are things missing within yourself that you are relying on the other person to fill in. Most people don't realize this until they have been hurt really bad or a few times over.

I've had many friends who would revolve their life around their boyfriends. They would drop their friends for their boyfriends, change their plans for their boyfriends, cut conversations, or texts short for their boyfriends... you get the point. Everything was about their boyfriend. Even when I finally got to spend time with them, all we would talk about was their boyfriend. It got to a point where I didn't want female friends anymore because as soon as they got a boyfriend, nothing else mattered. However, the guys I knew who had girlfriends didn't do this. They had a life outside of their relationship, still getting together with the boys and having beers.

I'm not saying every woman or every man is like this but I am making a point about the dynamics. One partner's life revolves around the other partner, while the other partner has a life outside of said partner. It's usually the partner, who revolves their life around the other partner, who ends up in heartbreak the worst. Because, the whole entire time they didn't realize their partner was living their life outside of them. Meanwhile, they were living for their partner.

So, Sure, we will meet a person that will give us a high or make us feel an everlasting love that we've never felt but that should be an addition. Not the full picture of your life.

[Ayanna240]

realize that you can't avoid being emotionally attached to someone especially if you're married to them. you see them everyday, every time you wake up, every time you go to sleep, after work you run home to them. Sometimes too much time hanging out with someone can lead inevitably to a very strong emotional attachment

[Opinion Owner]

Realize, my exact words were "too emotionally attached" I never said you couldn't be emotionally attached. I then go on to say you shouldn't be dependent on a person for your happiness. If you are you have become emotionally dependent.

Also, if marriage is your reason to lose yourself, what are you going to do the day your spouse is no longer with you?

[Ayanna240]

you didn't even read what i wrote.

what im saying is, its very difficult almost impossible to not be extremely emotionally attached to someone that you wake up to and go to sleep with daily for years and years in a marriage. YOu see this person daily. Its almost impossible unless you make a huge ridiculous effort to distract yourself and distance yourself.

[Opinion Owner]

... ok.

[20yearsolder]

Not at all, if your not fully invested in that person then you don't get that euphoric feeling. That's just the price you pay to get that feeling. I believe you can find someone else to make you feel the same euphoria as your previous relationship

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

It's interesting that you said "being in love", is a right

As if we are "legally allowed to be in love". That's interesting