I love him so much and we share a child but he’s cheating on me?

[Anonymous]

I’m 22 and my boyfriend is 27. We share a son together who is just 1 month old. I love my son dearly and I love my boyfriend. I found out he has been cheating on me 2 weeks after our son has been born. Not only that but texting 5 other females and planning to meet them. He dosent do anything for me, he dosent help me much with our son or take me out but he loves the idea of us being a happy family but does not provide for us and puts smoking as his priortity.

I sound like such a stupid young naive girl but I love him so much, I don’t know if it’s because we have a son together but I dearly love him and he won’t stop texting other women and cheating on me. I knew he had a bad past and isn’t the best of person so it’s completely my fault for going for someone like this but my emotions really took over. I’m glad I had our son as he is the cutest thing in the world and I love for him even though it’s so stressful. I don’t know what to do will he always cheat. I forgave him so quick and literally didn’t speak a word on it because I really love him. It hurts me Everytime I think about him cheating but I just want us to work out. How do I stop loving someone who cheats on me and treats me like this? I have a lot of decisions to make, I know as I don’t want our son growing up and seeing how he treats me and thinking that that’s normal. I’d be absolutely heartbroken if he was to turn out like how my boyfriend is as bad as that sounds.

How do I stop loving him and leave him. I don’t want too leave him but I don’t trust him anymore and I feel he makes me more sad than happy and I don’t want my son to see me feeling that way when he’s older but I’m finding it really hard. We live together and he always says how much he loves me every second of the day but I think it’s just words.

[Anonymous]

Ending a relationship, especially when there's a child involved, can be emotionally challenging. Here are some steps you may consider:

1. **Reflect on Your Feelings:**
Take some time to understand your own emotions. Acknowledge the hurt and betrayal, and recognize that your well-being is important.

2. **Seek Support:**
Talk to friends or family members whom you trust. Their perspectives and support can provide valuable insights and comfort during this difficult time.

3. **Consider Professional Help:**
A therapist or counselor can offer guidance and a safe space to discuss your feelings. They can help you explore your options and provide coping strategies.

4. **Prioritize Your Child:**
Keep in mind the impact the relationship has on your child. A healthy and stable environment is crucial for their well-being.

5. **Communicate Openly:**
Have an honest conversation with your partner about your feelings and concerns. It's essential to express yourself and ensure he understands the gravity of the situation.

6. **Set Boundaries:**
If you decide to end the relationship, establish clear boundaries. This may include living arrangements, co-parenting plans, and communication guidelines.

7. **Plan for the Future:**
Consider your financial situation, living arrangements, and co-parenting arrangements. Having a clear plan can help reduce uncertainty and stress.

8. **Focus on Self-Care:**
Take care of your physical and emotional well-being. Surround yourself with positive influences, engage in activities you enjoy, and prioritize self-care.

9. **Legal Advice:**
If necessary, consult with a lawyer to understand your rights and responsibilities, especially concerning custody and child support.

10. **Stay Strong:**
Ending a relationship is never easy, but it's essential to prioritize your happiness and create a healthy environment for yourself and your child.

Remember, it's okay to seek help from professionals and rely on your support network during this challenging time.

[Oliverlogan263]

Sis, that's a really messed up situation. I can't believe he's out here cheating on you after y'all just had a baby! That sucks.

It's not your fault he turned out to be a jerk. You wanted things to work cause you love him and your son. But long run, staying is only gonna hurt you and your kid. You both deserve so much better.

As hard as it is, you gotta leave. Cut him off completely, no contact at all. Block him everywhere so he can't sway you back. Crash with family or close friends during the breakup.

Focus on yourself and your little family. Over time, the pain will slowly fade. It'll be tough being a single mom, but you're strong as hell for doing right by your baby.

Keep your chin up, stay busy with people who love and support you. One day soon you'll find a real man who treats you with so much care and respect. You and your son both deserve the world. I know it hurts now sis, but you got this - focus on your bright future without his dead weight.

[IslaTheWitch]

Unfortunately, you have to leave him first and work on your emotions later. I waited 4 years. 4 years too long. I was sure he would change, for me, for us.

[RasmusAiken]

You've picked a human turd for a baby daddy. Staying in this relationship will be bad for you and for your son. Cut your losses. GTFO

[DannyUk2017]

I stopped reading at "i love him so much"...🤦‍♂️