Why do some women strive to be "picked" over other women? Does it make them feel special or something?

[Anonymous]

Why do some women think it's a brag-worthy thing to be "picked" or chosen? Do we really need to bring down other women to make ourselves feel better? What drives pick-me girls? Is it the need to feel special or better-than?

[Majeston]

In one way it comes about through a misunderstanding of the type of choice being made. If you adapt an adversarial perspective, you alter yourself so that he can no longer choose you, but only the you-for-him existing in the form of "wanting to be liked." You've simultaneously negated yourself and tricked him by exploiting his weaknesses. The true feeling of "being special" is because he picked exactly you (and vice versa, a true relation requires mutual admiration), exactly your individual; nothing and nobody else enters into that feeling.

In an alternative way this is a form of cynicism. If there are men who get off on unqualified displays of their power, why not women? "Being superior" in the domain of relationships is no different really from the "being superior" I feel after winning a chess tournament. What is it? I'm not sure, but it makes you feel good. The only logical difference is chess is a game, and, it could be argued, relationships are not.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Women are constantly seeking validation so it has to do with validation

[Haaa135]

Insecure women do this sort of thing. Women who like/love themselves would not gloat over being chosen by a man. Anyway, who says that men do any "choosing"? When we get into a relationship with someone, it's because both parties like each other. Nothing to do with being chosen.

[AddylynnNightingale]

Insecurity mostly. It's definitely an ego boost when other girls want your man, and then they find out that he's taken. Seeing them getting rejected right away feels great.

[Guccigabbana18]

Usually, these women are insecure and need to feel better than other women (or another woman) to feel good about themselves. It's sad af

[SiberFox]

The whole of dating is to be "picked" for marriage.
So yeah, you want to be the best for your future spouse.

[Anonymous]

It's our #1 job biologically, to be picked over all the other girls. Survival of the fittest.

[Sofi-a1997]

Insecurity and jealousy