Can you tell a guy I’ll get the next one if he wants to split the bill?

[Anonymous]

Would they most likely accept that. A girl can suggest that if the bill is expensive so that she can cover the next check that’s more affordable to her. She can suggest that because she prefers to take turns paying and doesn’t like the platonic feel of splitting.

[b_lova]

It's better to tell the truth and let him know you can't afford to help before you even eat. The alternative is to get something you can afford on the menu and see what his response is, then if he wants to split, only pay for what you ordered.

When my girlfriend and I first started dating, she told me she was used to splitting the bill on dates and I kindly told her not with me. I'm kind of a traditional guy. While I'm a feminist, not the modern kind, I'm also a gentleman.

[Asker]

It’s expected if he asked to take her out then he’ll pay. Most girls go out to dinner with a guy certain they’ll pay because he invited her out. She might not afford it but still accepts because she thinks he’ll cover the tab because he asked her to go out.

[LiamJHayden]

Discuss it beforehand. I cannot imagine asking anyone, friend or date, out for dinner, choosing a pricy place, and then not offering to pay and maybe thrashing that person's budget for the next month, but that's me.

[Asker]

What happens if the girl doesn’t have enough to cover her half? What would he do

[Nifrayu]

@Asker Why would she not? She shouldn't order more than she can afford.

[_Maya_]

Sure you can tell him that. The question is will he go for it. Unless you somehow end up with the same exact total the next time it is going to get lopsided and over time really one sided. Also there could be some misunderstanding if you go to a fancy place and he pays and then you suggest someplace more casual and cheaper. Is he going to think you are trying to be cheap? He might. I always suggest early on in dating that a I pay for myself and what I had to eat. That serves two purposes. One is that I pay my own way for what I consume and two that he isn't thinking he is now owed something else from me for treating me. Once you are dating a good while most of this goes out the door.

[Asker]

I think if he asks me out and takes me to a fancy restaurant, I’ll expect him to pay because he asked me and picked the place. When the check comes and he asks to split, I’d have to say I’ll get the next one if I can’t afford to split it. The worst that can occur is that he says he prefers splitting it and I would have to say I can’t afford to now but can pay him back later on.

[sheenagwapa]

the guy always pay the bill. the guy always the ine who would contact the girl because if you let the girl contact you firsy then the girl is the one doing the chasing. a girl NEVER chases. she can make herself look desirable as a partner and she can befriend the guy but she never chases. that's the job of the guy.

[HawkPerception]

I prefer just paying my own bill and she pays hers each time (going Dutch). I'm gonna say any dynamic that you agree upon can work, but I think men for the most part feel a little emasculated if a girl offers to pay the bill. I think the most that most men would be willing to do is split.

[Asker]

What would you do if she says she doesn’t have the money to pay her part?

[HawkPerception]

I'd pay for her. But a lot of girls would say that for a free meal, so I'd try to feel out her personality to see if she's genuine or not. Regardless... I don't care how broke a girl is. I'd be choosing to be with her for her personality and how physically attracted I am to her (initially). If she's too broke for a date, then that's great... we don't have to go out to eat. We can go for a hike/picnic date and prep the food ourselves. People don't have to eat out at restaurants to date each other. And I really respect and appreciate honesty.

[ZackBan]

You gotta have nuance.

If you ordered an entire page of the menu and racked up an astronomical bill then it's only fair you split it.

Saying "I'll get the next one" and buying him an ice cream cone is a sign of cheapness and hypocrisy

I don't know if you're familiar with the sitcom two and a half men, but if you are, think about the way Alan behaves throughout the show. That's what you'd be doing.

[Asker]

Taking turns paying doesn’t have to be spending similar amount of money each time.

[ZackBan]

Yes. Which brings me back to "nuance"
If his turn is 200$ and yours is 10$ every time then there's a problem, it's no longer "taking turns" it's taking advantage.

Unless he offers to pay but your question stated he asked to split the bill so...

[Midnight_Kiss]

If you can't afford it don't eat/drink it, women have been able earn there own living for decades so why would we still expect the man to pay for a date in 2024.

[Jefftheduck]

If he’s asking he’s concerned your about money you can say whatever you want but you’re probably not gonna get another date it’s become more common to do it the first time to gauge the person a lot of guys go back to paying after

[HighValue]

No. The main point is that many women only go on a fidate and use the man for a free meal/free entertainment and he never sees her again. If a woman won't pay her share of a first date, she is likely just another user.

[Anonymous]

This is why so many men are tired of paying. Women who already know they aren't interested in them will agree to the date, get a free meal that she normally wouldn't be able to easily afford, and then ghost him. That's most likely the impression you're going to give him.

[Anonymous]

A guy would wanna split the bill if he also wants to split his manhood, the man should always pay the bill no matter how expensive it is, women hate paying for things and that's why the men should always pay for the both of them and let the woman relax.

[DishLady]

Sure, however as a rule of thumb always have enough cash on you to cover your half and walk away from the table feee and clear.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Yet by splitting the spill... it also means roles will or can be split later on in the bedroom... he's on top... switch over she's on top... after post-c's of course lol 😂😆 🛏️🛏️🛏️ 🛋️🛋️🛋️😆

[itsclearlynicholas]

"twice, in one day/night ⁉️" - that's what they asked 😋👀 and they said "in turns" that's what they said 😁😋👀

[Vegasrunner]

Most likely there wouldn't be a next time. I would simply tell the waiter to split the check pay may portion come back to the table and wish her a good night

[Asker]

Would you accept her getting the next date?

[Vegasrunner]

@Asker Depends, is this a first date or a girl that I've been dating a while?

[Krista1224]

30-35 and some man asking you split the bill? No no, lady you are dating a boy not a man

[Blacke]

It's dating etiquette one should know of. When a discussion is made with your partner before hand and agreed upon, it should not be an issue on who should pay or how.

[DrPepper12]

Yes. She can offer. He could AND SHOULD always say no, get the tip now and then WATCH LIKE A HAWK TO SEE WHAT SHE LEAVES. YOU WILL LEARN IF A SECOND DATE IS WATRANTED!!

[dustybiker2]

If a woman doesn't want to split an expensive bill she shouldn't order anything but water.

[ProbablyClueless]

Yeah, that's a reasonable offer to make.

Whether he accepts it is another matter, but that is a very reasonable thing to say.

[ManInChains]

Most women wouldn't. Most women expect to be paid for.

[ManInChains]

I've never had a woman offer to pay

[ManInChains]

Except my mother, my Nana and my aunts

[andreasderjuengere]

When a romantic meeting becomes a business negotiation - then it's time to admit that one is better off on oneself.

[kellytheman]

Yeah I be okay with besides I am kinda traditional where the guy should buy dinner or a meal and pay for the whole thing. I never ask a girl if she wants to split the bill.

[sheikalana]

You can. Or simply surprise him and next time you go out take initiative to pay for the bill.

[DreamLife7]

You're 30-35 years old being an ass kisser. Where has that gotten u in life? He doesn't like u and u requesting to pay like ur a man isn't going to make u anymore likeable.

[captain_voidwalker]

If you can't afford to take me out why did you go out with me, guys never settle for broke ass hoes. Drizzle drizzle

[msc545]

Sure, thats fine. I've had women say that to me. They never pay the next one, and I never bring it up when they don't.

[Nifrayu]

I would expect her to pay for the first one. I might be open to splitting the next one.

[KrakenAttackin]

If he wants to split the bill, odds are he isn't interested in the "next one".

[whistlingwh0res]

I mean... if you don't want to offer him sex in exchange of meal, then you should pay too. They expect 'that thing'

[noohair]

My generation never did this.

[Anonymous]

Girls are not supposed to pay

[RedInnocent69]

Sure.

[RedInnocent69]

Scratch that. If he asks and you can, you should. If you can’t, you should apologize and offer. He may have a different idea about what’s going on than you do.