Guys, does it upset you when a girl cries?

[kittykett]

If she is crying over you...do you get defensive or do you feel bad?

What about if she is crying over something else? Does it bother you or do you not really care?

[Anonymous]

From personal experience this is what I've deduced:

I think if you're just a really emotional person over time it starts to make them mad. they start to think you cry or get emotional to manipulate them or get your way and it makes them angry because they become frustrated that they can't fix it no matter what they do so they become suspect as to why you cry so much. When really they don't understand that we don't want them to fix it we just want/need to get it out and move on, but apparently it's very frustrating for them because it makes them emotional and so they try to fix it and when they can't they feel helpless and they don't like that...

[JohnnyBlaze]

Ding! Ding! Ding! We have a winner!

If a girl's constantly crying over every little thing, it's frustrating because I do feel like I'm being manipulated. If a girl doesn't usually cry over everything, when she does cry, it hurts because the woman I love is in pain, and, as Anonymous said, I want to rectify the situation. Most times, a girl just wants to cry, which does make me feel helpless. It's hard seeing the love of your life in pain and not be able to do a d*mn thing about it...

[Opinion Owner]

honestly girls can just be really emotional(hormones suck) and aren't taught to suppress their feelings like boys are so they let them flow and we're told that's normal to just let it all out, but to guys this is very disturbing to watch a girl lose control of emotions because he works so hard to suppress his feelings of sadness/wanting to cry. Eventually he feels vulnerable and starts to feel emotions he doesn't want to have and he runs. Saw it happen myself. Sad to watch :\

[Anonymous]

aww , most the guys I have dated when I cried which you can ask anybody I hardly ever cry but when I cry they don't care , is it like 50 % and 50% half of the guys care and the other dont?

[Xia90]

it depends on the reason your crying. If you stubbed your toe like my girl did and started crying I might laugh a little but if its something more serious I would care.

[elements]

I'm starting to think most guys don't give a crap, but hopefully I'm wrong.

[KERMlT]

It depends on how often she cries. If it's over every little thing, one gets desensitized from it.

[elements]

Understandable, but assuming that she doesn't cry over every little thing, I still have a bit of a hard time believing that guys really care about whether they make a girl cry. Just my perspective, though.

[geronimojoesaephus]

Most decent guys do care about whether or not their girlfriend cries. But, I think some(not all, some) girls put their guys through a lot of err... stuff that their kind of baffled when they find their girl crying over something she'd have no problem doing to him.

[GuyAdviceFromGuy]

If she was crying over me? It would break my heart or make my heart melt depending on if it was a negative or positive thing.

If she was crying over something else? A small matter? I would actually find it comical, A big deal? I would probably console her.

However, if a girl is being a BITCH and I make her cry, IT WOULD BE AWESOME! I would feel thrilled on the inside.

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[JohnnyBlaze]

Assuming it's a girl I love, seeing or hearing her cry absolutely tears my heart out. I'll drop whatever I'm doing or give up whatever I have in order to make her happy again.

[chrismarie5589]

Aw this was so sweet:)

[WeaponZero]

Depends on the severity of what made her cry. If it's over something small, then it just makes her seem mentally unstable or like a manipulative drama queen. If she only cries over major things, however, like actual life crisis situations, then I would feel bad and do everything I could to be there for her.

[Nikie]

Girl or boy, I don't want to see anyone in enough pain to start crying. Unfortunately, I'm not that great at handling crying situations because I usually embrace them and start crying myself if I can't comfort them. It's sort of a domino effect.

[brookeelizabeth]

most of the guys answers make my heart melt. maybe it's a stupid girlie thing but it's just so darn sweet!

[kittykett]

I agree :} lol

[Xia90]

amazing.

[superuss]

Unless I think she is just crying in order to manipulate me, it causes me pain to see a girl I like cry. It makes me want to do something to make her happy, and take away her pain.

[DaRealMan]

Can't stand a pretty girl crying, it breaks my heart,

[dkong23]

depends on what she's crying about and how sincere the tears are

[geronimojoesaephus]

I'd be upset because she was sad. Also, I'd try to do whatever I could to make he feel better.

[spartan68808]

Yes of course it upsets me, I'd help her feel better.

It doesn't matter whether its over me or something else

[madhatters4]

i feel bad if she is crying unless it's completely needless but even then I feel bad that they are upset.

[CantBeStopped]

If I love this girl, I feel bad because she feel pain this think make me crazy. I would try to make her stop cry because when she cry she took my hearth. I would do everything to make my love not cry.

[brandonc308]

I hate when girls cry. Especially when it's over something else and I can't really do anything about it. Makes me feel bad.

[FrancoBattiato]

Not a fan of seeing anyone crying. I do whatever I can to rectify the situation.

[Anonymous]

I always feel terrible inside. If it's because of me I'd feel absolutely suicidal.

But as always I have to play a tough-guy so I never show my emotions on my face, and act gruff.

[PAKMANN29]

UGH! NOTHING IRRITATES ME MORE THAN A GIRL CRYING IT MAKES ME WANNA FREAKING BREAK STUFF!

jk lol no I'm a big softy for girls crying it makes me want to hold them ;)

[Anonymous]

no not really, I don't feel anything, I don't know why lol

[Anonymous]

They usuall get mad at the dumb bitch for trying to manipulate him.

[Anonymous]

every time I see a girl cry I want to give her a hug. I'm the type of guy that feels what the girls feeling

[Anonymous]

Seeing all these guy responses actually makes me want to cry. I feel like my boyfriend makes me cry far to often and it doesn't even seem to phase him. He never gets upset or hugs me or tries to make it better.

[chrismarie5589]

Ew it doesn't seem like he is caring not even one ounce of care. I think you should keep an eye out for someone who will treat you better.

[Anonymous]

Depends what state I'm in. When sober. yes. when high. yes. when drunk. no.

[stevo]

I'd feel bad about it.