Do guys feel anything when they've made their girl cry?

Question

I’ve see some guys who just ignore their girlfriend when they’re crying… I understand some girls use crying as a “tactic” to get what they want so that might warrant an indifference reaction from the boyfriend but I’m specifically asking about the instances where the boyfriend is the one causing their girl to cry (e. g. after yelling at them, cheating on them, or doing anything that might’ve hurt their girlfriend which resulted in her crying). I’m also aware that some people get flustered, confused and lost on what to do when they see a person crying but in my personal experience, I rarely ever see a guy comforting their girlfriend when she’s crying…

Titanic1912 · Accepted Answer

When I made my fifth ex cry, I felt no remorse and I didn’t feel sorry. I called her after I read her letter. When I called her and asked her why she wanted to break up with me, she said it was because I didn’t like her choice of movies. I told her I didn’t want to finish watching Hocus Pocus because it went against my Christian beliefs and she said that was one of the reasons. When I asked her, “How can you take all of these wonderful moments and memories that we had together and throw it all away?” She said, “Because you take this Jesus Christ thing too seriously.” And I replied, “Well, Jesus took all of us pretty seriously when He died on the cross for us.” And she said, “Well, I don’t know.” Then I said this, “How can you be so obtuse?” That made her cry. Next, as she was crying, I couldn’t understand what she was saying and she yelled, “If you think I’m so obtuse, why does your autism make you say something that makes you feel smarter than me?” I replied, “A person who is obtuse is a person who is hard to understand. I was asking you ‘How can you be so hard to understand?’” Then she said, “I’m done talking to you. My letter told you that we’re breaking up, but because of what you just said to me, we’re no longer friends either.” I said, “Goodbye, Honeysuckle.” And she said, “I’m no longer your honeysuckle and you’re no longer my honeybee.” Then we hung up.

She typed the letter. She didn’t have the ovaries to tell me in person or over the phone.

When I broke up with my fourth ex, I had the balls to tell it to her face and we broke up with a last kiss.

MicahRaine · Accepted Answer

It depends on the situation. I've never made a partner cry (except for happy tears), so I'm going to answer for other situations instead.

There have been a times I've made my sister cry, and I would feel really bad about it and apologize/try to comfort her.

I also made a coworker cry once. In that specific situation, yes I felt "nothing."

She was being an utter b*tch to everyone and intentionally creating problems in the restaurant during lunch rush because she was getting a high off playing the boss (she wasn't even close to leadership at all).

I talked to her quietly a few times and she didn't stop so eventually I took her out back and basically told her to stfu and either start contributing to the team or start packing her bags. She started bawling and went to the manager, who told her she could take the rest of the shift off and called me into the office. I walked into the office, sat down, and the manager burst out laughing. Overall I think that was a W

osmanthus · Accepted Answer

I hardly think most cis-men have the emotional capacity, awareness, skills, and motivation to comfort their cis-female partner, and usually are the cause of the tears. So, no, I don't think modern men feel anything after they've consciously and purposely said or done some unsympathetic and callous toward their presumed partners. They have no idea what the hell they're doing or else they do and don't care either way (especially if they are getting sex from the person).

Sorry, that's the sad truth in today's messed-up society. The more advanced and populated the place, the less likely you're going to run into a genuinely caring person. Every other person becomes selfish, self-centered, and self-absorbed for their survival and preservation.

You'd be lucky if somebody bothered to batt an eye at you or stopped to give you some worthwhile advice to ditch people like this.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

Mine do care. They've made time to come see me if I'm crying or need support and I reach out to them.

But I've also met and dated men in the past who didn't care or couldn't process emotions.

Dating only people who care how they affect their partner and loced ones has been a much better experience.

MrOracle · Answer

It totally depends on the guy and the situation.

If you pick a hot, popular guy who could easily replace you, then don't expect him to care. If you pick a guy on your level and you vetted his morals, values, and life goals before committing to him, and if you aren't being fake, then, yes, he's going to care.

If he thinks you are playing games with him and trying to manipulate him, then forget about it.

The quality of any relationship depends greatly on your initial choices and your vetting process. The more work you do up-front, the better off you will likely be, because you won't commit in the first place if you aren't compatible. If you only go by your feelings, then expect to have big problems, because feelings don't care about your future at all, only the immediate present.

MisterWack · Answer

Just knowing I made someone cry gets me tearing up feeling bad about what happened, when it is someone closest to me it makes devastated.

It does hurt to hurt others especially when you care about them, now there are moments and times that your partner can get a little emotional/take things out of context when you explain with them later once they calm down there is no hard feelings & everything is rainbows and kittens happy again lol however when it isn’t that, it definitely hurts and will lead to tears.

SotiCoto · Answer

Obviously. They feel irritation. Crying is infantile. Men probably want to discuss the problem and come to a practical, workable solution... but instead get presented with childish mewling that only gets worse the more they try to resolve it. It is like dealing with a toddler.
As such men are likely to try and just leave the whole situation to blow over on its own, as anything else they do would not only make things worse, but involve actually engaging with the pointless waterworks at close range.

Anonymous · Answer

I leave her to stabilize and let out the emotional intensity, then approach her again.

I say sorry even if she was wronged, just for the sake of this "stabilization".

I don't make fun of her when she's angry, and I stay near her if I can. So she knows I am willing to listen, discuss, and communicate.

I do all this, but I don't comfort her right away. I give her the space to cool down herself, I don't act as her cooler.

And if she's too dramatic in my opinion, yes I'll just ignore her for the time being.

Do I feel anything? I just act based on what I see I'm supposed to.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

1. All guys are not alike. One answer does not apply to all of us.

2. The fact that a guy said or did something, and then his partner cried, does not mean that the guy MADE the girl cry.

2. All I KNOW is how I feel. If you ask how do I feel if my partner is crying, I can answer that question. I don't know how anyone else feels, and no other guy knows how all guys feel. We can only speak for ourselves.

RavVid · Answer

Depends on of it is genuine because girls will cry at not getting their way and I will just stick to my guns.

Also girls will start fights and if you have done that then you can expect to get like for like.

If a girl is genuinely crying then I comfort

RingOfFire · Answer

I don't think every guy is the same but it always gets me in the gut when I see any woman or girl crying.

Some guys may just turn off their feelings because they don't want to feel anything. They know that if they let themselves feel it will hurt.

worldscolide · Answer

Always. If its something i did to make her cry, and they are sad/angry/hurt tears, i feel like a piece of shit. If i did something to make her happy cry, its an ego boost. Happy cry meaning she's crying over something i did for her and it made her have happy tears if that makes sense.

Anonymous · Answer

If it's something truly bad and he knows it and has any type of remorse, he'll usually apologize or try and make it better, but if he's angry about an argument that he thinks he's in the right about or the aforementioned drama queen, he's not going to offer hugs and kisses.

Anonymous · Answer

I once cried because of him and infront of him (i had a crush on him but im not sure how he feels about me).. At the end of the day, i dont know if he ever feels bad. He did ask me why, and ask me to tell him and say “i care about you so i want to know why you cry” but when i did tell him the reason. He never apologize. All he did is reasoning his action.

Anonymous · Answer

Some women use emotion as a weapon. I grew up watching my own mother do this bs to my dad. I’ve seen her cry over absolutely ridiculously unfair and selfish issues to manipulate him. She did it for a very long time too.

So the truth is so l am a bit callous when it comes to all of this. Maybe more then I should be. But the women who abuse this for their own ends are doing a major disservice to women who don’t abuse it.

Anonymous · Answer

When I had an argument with my ex, she would sometimes start to cry for beeing upset. I didn't show it bec of the ongoing argument but I would always feel sorry and bad so much that I asked her to stop crying when were having arguments bec it felt unfair.

I don't know if that makes me an ass as she said she couldnt help it but it was hard for me to continue the argument or hold against her.

dustybiker2 · Answer

If a woman is in a car accident and crying in a hospital bed I'm sure they will all feel something. A woman who plays games and uses tears as manipulation is another thing entirely. Be genuine.

SugarSugarplum · Answer

My Dad considered it manipulation if I cried and wasn't bleeding or significantly bruised. I have to say, I am drawn to crying whenever I don't get my way... But I try to keep a lid on it when I can.

strateguy632 · Answer

usualy we feel pity. but also if she gets her way by crying that is same as the spoiled brat crying to get his candy.

DishLady · Answer

Some do some don’t. It depends on the guy and what he’s mature enough to understand and take responsibility for.

Jay-_- · Answer

I never made my girl cry because of something "I did" but if I were to I know I'd feel more then something. I'll make sure I make it up to her as long as I know she doesn't use her crying as a manipulative tactic.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I don't think so, the only guy who ever cared when I cried was my dad lol.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Some men were born and raised to be cold and heartless.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I've never made my wife cry, but whenever she's cried I've held her tight until she stops!

Dongie · Answer

Yes. If I hurt her feelings I feel bad. And I apologize and all that. But if it's not true, like you said to get her way that hurts me. I, nor does anybody like to be played a fool.

JacobJordan · Answer

No one made you cry. You choose to cry because of what they said. You control your emotions.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

My boyfriend cares. If he didn’t we would not be together

genericname85 · Answer

that depends on whether it's actually my fault or if she's crying for some dumb bullshit reason xD

molonski2 · Answer

Its like the " Boy who cried wolf " , when used as a constant tactic of course there is zero empathy , someone who just cries constantly deserves that.

If she is one that does not use this tool , then that is a different question. But bursting into tears , to simply try and resolve a logical issue , that's simply stupid.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Ofc yes, if i had a girlfriend and i was the reason which made her cry, i'll make sure to comfort her, kiss her, hug her and make her happy again 😊

LiamJHayden · Answer

If I offended her or was forgetful, yes. If she is trying to manipulate me into making a bad decision, no.

azbaeu · Answer

Studies and animals such as that the reason the tactic of letting your man see you cry works is a pheramonal action by males caused by tears

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Men don’t have a feeling, they only geared to lie cheat and steal and kill so when the girl cry that’s when they steal her emotions. Whores don’t cry

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Yes, even if it's a cheap tactic and even if I don't fall for it I still feel something

handsomelad70 · Answer

They should if they've truly done something to upset her.

moneymagnet24 · Answer

When she cry I just leave her alone  I don't do pampering

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I didn't feel anything but I was young and stupid back then.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Yes. Turned on. Seriously, every argument or discussion where she cries ends in sex.

dsrice071966 · Answer

I would feel so bad, I would want to check with her and make sure she is okay

JonCobretti · Answer

We feel turned on when it comes to sex

Sasquach · Answer

Smh girl, not every guy is a sociopath

thisAppIsGarbage · Answer

Not a fucking thing. I'm a psychopath

Anonymous · Answer

I feel bad and comfort her the best I can

BarryLiverstone · Answer

I feel many things.

Loner111 · Answer

I give zero f****.

Asian-male · Answer

Yes... feels guilty

Anonymous · Answer

Yes sad

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