Do guys sometimes get mad when their girlfriends cry?

[Anonymous]

Just want to know. I think some guys get mad but sometimes don't want to show it.

[gray_sailor]

It not just girlfriends, but any woman in their lives. Men experience crying from women as painful. There is a very strong desire to fix whatever is causing the crying. If she is physically hurt or being attacked the solution is obvious. If the crying is from stress or overwork or even tears of joy there is no solution at all. The crying is still painful. When my mother does it i politely leave the room. When I chose a second wife, i married one that was less softhearted than me. She finds it endearing that I'm the one tearing up for the Hallmark comercials.

[bryon]

I don't know if I would say that I get mad when my Lady cries , more frustrated would be an accurate assessment. If it's something going on that I can help change or even prevent that will stop her from crying or keep her from it to begin with , them I'm all about that. I hate to see my Lady cry and always have so I would spare nothing to ease her pain. She knows how far I have gone before to do just that and a guy/ man who wouldn't do that much for his SO should reevaluate his feeling for that person.

[Anonymous]

I only cried a few times. Like when I had terrible period cramps once. My boyfriend rubbed my belly and got me some ibuprofen and a bottle of water. He kissed my forehead and let me fall asleep in his arms. He never gets mad when I cry, unless it's for something stupid.

[becca123]

My ex husband would get angry when I cried; he wasn't used to it and would feel helpless. He was more angry at the situation than with me.

[PonyCar]

It makes them feel helpless/uncomfortable because there's a problem and (sometimes) they can't fix it. Think of it as a form of empathy.

[Anonymous]

I'd get mad if it's manipulation that works for others, but I know when it's fake... then that would make me mad.

So far, I haven't had girlfriends do this. I DID have a girlfriend lash out at me while she was crying about something. I did get mad about that one.

I had a girlfriend cry - as far as I could tell it was real crying, but she could be a drama queen. She wasn't doing her job, (where she was living) and she got fired after 2 days. I tried giving her a hug, and she's screaming at me - said some REALLY inappropriate things. I got mad, and told her not to ever talk to me like that again, or we'd be done. "Just because you're upset at someone else (or yourself) doesn't give you the right to lash out at me. I've had some horrible days, and I NEVER lashed out at you like you just did with me; I try to give you a hug and I get screamed at and called filthy names."

[PlatonicBFF]

Genuinely upset, most guy will will definitely not get mad, and a lot of guys will try to help. If it's a persistent problem over time that is of own your doing, that can get annoying, and it can be annoying if there is no way for the guy to help if he wants to, but then he's not mad at you he's mad at the situation, same way you are upset about it.

[oldanddecrepid]

Sometimes... I think there are a lot of girls out there that resort to crying to get there own way... especially if they have done something wrong and know it!

That would turn anyone off... and sometimes it is very obvious to us guys so we have to shake our heads and walk away.

[The_Technomancer]

Crying does make a people want to fix whatever the problem is no matter who is doing it but crying is also used as manipulation sometimes so that could have ruined the whole aspect of trying to fix the problem for some people. (I'm not saying women can't be trusted when they cry or that guys don't care, I am trying to say that manipulative "people" use it against some people to manipulate them so looking at crying that way could spark some anger.

[yourfriendforever]

I hate girls who'd make some mistake and then later cry just to make sure no one scolds em for their mistake I hate such kind
If she cries it's perfectly fine if it's got a genuine reason :)
I'd be more than willing to pampwr her and change her mood

[JackPack]

It may seem like we try to hide our 'madness' but you probably confuse that with us not entirely sure what to do Apart from comfort you.

We want to know whats wrong but were not sure if us asking will make it worse or not. It could be something embarrasing thats making you cry

[DeepEye]

if she's faking it m or using it against me to abuse me or because she 's too spoiled , yeah i will get mad.. other than that i will try to comfort her as much as i can and giver her the needed support

[verd12w]

yep, this. Emotional abuse is bad.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

No if i had a girlfriend who was crying i would want comfort her not get mad
I would probably cry with her or would cry and not let her see me so i
wouldn't want upset her anymore but I'm a very compassionate man.

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Guys won't get mad. If you cry about the same thing over and over again we may become annoyed... but in the sense of, "well this problem always happens why do you have to cry about it all the time? Fix it!"

[Keyspirits]

Nope. If she cries, i walk over her and pull her in ma arms and embrace her with ma right hand patting her back. Craii on ma shoulder as much as u want til u can't no more 😙

[Theguyoverthere]

I can see it happening if she was using it to get away with stuff, victimizing herself over things she was wrong for doing, or other issues like trying to be manipulative.

[zero33]

For me personally, if it's a response that would normally illicit crying, like putting your dog down, a death in the family, she thought you were injured, etc. it's fine. But if it has anything to do with ME, the relationship, or something someone said, I don't have patience for it. Crocodile tears just illicit a response which generally from me comes in the form of a cold shoulder.

[RichHomieGeorge]

Yeah I'd smack that girl with my pimp cane...

No! Of course I wouldn't be mad, I'd try to comfort her for sure and make the problems go away :D

[Anonymous]

If my boyfriend got mad at me because I started crying, I'd break up with him. That's ridiculous. Am I not allowed to have emotions? I want to date someone who'll be there for me, not get mad at me because I was sad about something.

[Klaatu51]

no... if i went mad she'd cry even harder i suppose!

[Thatguywholikesagirl]

It sometimes makes us mad if someone hurt our girlfriends and wantto punch their face in, but if WE hurt her we get pretty sad too, even if it dosent look like it

[kangy]

if the girls are crybabies who cry easily and over many trivial matters, i think even girls would find it annoying.

[NikoSeoulFit]

Crocodile tears make anyone go crazy. And it's a terribly psychopathic thing to do.

Genuine tears elicit 2 possible responses: Compassion or Guilt.

[Anonymous]

in my opinion it's because they feel tears are like a wall shielding you off and they feel powerless in face of that wall.

[Maxemeister]

Mad? No, that's an opportunity to swoop in and save the day!