Your emotions are in your head not in ours... You make yourself cry. That said everyone has some level of guilt if guilt is warranted. When people do things that violate their own principals they tend to feel bad about it especially when they do it to people they care about. Depending on how thick or thin a girls skin is, depending on how manipulative she is, depending on how emotionally stable or unstable she is, etc. will determine how often she cries and what about… You remember the story the boy who cried wolf? If you’re full of shit no one is going to care even when it’s they really did you dirty. If you’re an emotionally stable woman with thick skin that doesn’t try to manipulate people and rarely cries then someone who cares about you will most likely be floored when they do things that hurt you.
Men are only numb when the girl is a hypersensitive needy mess who stumbles from disaster to self-made disaster. That gets old.
Mostly, though, if a girl is crying and the guy isn't saying or doing something, it's because he doesn't know what to do. Guys only know how to FIX things - so all they can do is look for a solution. But a crying woman doesn't want a solution, she wants to be heard and understood. That is a foreign concept to most guys, because that's just not how guys deal with problems. Guys look for solutions - and if they ask for help, they are looking for a solution, not understanding.
I desperately try to not cry in front of others. If someone does something to hurt me, I go home and then shed the tears. You will not catch me crying in public, or in front of strangers, or even friends.
How do I feel about others crying? It depends on what they're crying about. If they're crying about a movie, or a book, or something, it just annoys me. If they're crying about something serious, I feel sorry for them and want to do what I can. Nothing annoys more than children crying though. Seriously, nothing.
If that is the case we cry either in front of them or we cry on our pillow until we are so exhausted we can’t cry anymore. For guys to see this they can’t handle it they won’t respect us. They will tolerate it but things change the dynamics of attraction goes out of your hand and into theirs. Sadly you can’t help but see this happening but I suggest you don’t cry in front of a guy however difficult it might be. There are times it’s natural and that itself is your cue that you can do better. Why were you even brought to that stage? Preserve your beauty and crying is not in the prescription my dear:) chin up pamper yourself not cry yourself to sleep.
Basically the worst feeling imaginable, to the point that many men even feel they're manipulated by it. I might be a little over sensitive to the subject of female SO tears personally because it was the way the means by which my own emotions were ignored and not dealt with and all conversation about them were repeatedly and immediately shutdown.
It depends. If something I said was insensitive then I would feel bad. I also knew a woman that would never admit that she was wrong or apologize to anyone for anything. If she got called out she would just start crying and in her mind that meant that you're wrong and she must be right. LoL! That kind of crying drives me crazy.
My partner used to hug me and give me comfort when i cry. After a while, later in the relationship, when we started having problems and arguments, he would just say "for fucksakes", im not sure if he us directing it to me cause im crying or he is frustrated at himself for making me cry, does make me feel more horrible though. Nowadays he would just say " the world isn't fair, who said life is easy".
It'd depend on the context. Did I make her cry from expressing deep feelings to her that it'd move her to tears? Then I'd feel pretty good about it. Did I make her cry after calling her names and lowering her self esteem? I wouldn't feel good at all.
That picture is pretty accurate. When its used as a weapon against you for so long, you tend to question whether its genuine or a manipulation. I'm an empath, but I've learned to set it aside and think through the situation stoicly. Kinda like a realist being an optimist, only with experience.
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+2 points for the "real man" statement. A real woman only cries when its genuine. A real man knows the difference and handles the situation accordingly.
I always get that pang of empathy, just like when its kids, or even elder people. Anyone who seems vulnerable and is in a bad state like that usually makes me more empathetic towards them.
However whether I really feel sad/sorry for them or share their grief (in part), depends on the reason they're crying. That being said its not reserved to just women / girls. A guy crying for a genuine reason, I'll usually feel for him too.
Well? Yeah. Most of the time guys are REAL cruel to girls. Often times we don't let our emotions get in the way of how we make other people feel. Especially girls. Some guys just suck UP what they feel inside and never show IT to anyone. Especially if it's females. We're hard headed
If they're just turning on the water works to get their own way, or during an argument when they start losing, doesn't affect / bother me in the slightest.
But if it's over something legit, like a funeral etc, then I'll be there to comfort her.
Most guy's I've noticed don't seem to care and tell me to suck it up. I even had one boy laugh when he made me cry but I rarely cry in public or in front of people.
Man thats horrible. Just because we dont seem to care, doesn't mean we do. We just suck at reacting to it accordingly, because we are overwhelmed by it. Telling you to "suck it up" is just horrible though. can't believe anyone would say that.
Unless you started crying because you hit your toe on furniture, that is...
@SngBirdy no I used to get bullied pretty badly at school by lots of boys and sometimes I'd snap and would cry but I'd try and hide it and they'd laugh and say stuff like "look she's going to cry" or "suck it up bitch" and sometime kick me in the back whilst I was crying. I went school with some really horrible boys
God it breaks my heart... I have made my wife cry twice that i know of... I felt like absolute shit because of it, and promised my self i would never do it again...
Okay, if the girl does it all the time, to the point where it seems like she does it for attention, then it Is annoying. But If I accidentally offend a girl and she genuinely starts crying, I will do anything it takes to help... (This has never happened, but that's what I'd do)
We Feel so JEALOUS... Because It's So EASY for GIRL to CRY and EXPRESS their INNER FEELINGS So NATURALLY... While GUYS, We Have NO IDEA and Will be labelled as GAY if We just mention something like FEELINGS.
Well i don't make women cry, but if i did, i know how to cheer her back because her tears would be so important to me, and i'll also buy her a natural juice so it replaces her wasted tears 😊
It makes me sad and like a bad person... I jus didn't express that I was sad cos it was more of a internal sadness than a "I feel crying sadness" So that's probably why we jus seem "numb" or "uncaring" Were not.. we jus dont express our selves
You're right real men hate to see women cry. But any woman weary guy knows that's just another weapon in her arsenal. And as with anything. you learn to spot when you're being played.
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