Do I have very high standards?

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Okay guys just a question my most relationship fall for very same reason

I come to the relationship fresh and happy and I bring happiness I take the girl out I pay the dinner I don't ask sex at first date usually I have good attitude anyway after like 2-3 months when we are committed I expect her to be exclusively for me and not make videos at Snapchat or TikTok unless there's only female friends watching but no girl brought this to me non of them follow my lead and what I want they want free date free ride free care and free energy free everything and the reward is casual sex which is even something for both part. Is my standards too High? I'm asking nothing but loyalty why every girl panic and act and talk like I'm psycho when I tell them this and that?

CA4444 · Accepted Answer

Well when I was younger I would have thought why would I not do what I want, it doesn’t make sense to be controlled, and they may not understand that it’s not loyal, and since men are sort afraid or blamed to be too controlling so they will back down or the girl can easily say that… anyway the best way is to explain to them I’d say, or without justifying explain that they implicitly don’t trust or respect your ‘order’/demands and make them think about it… if they really don’t then it’s a bit of a problem but yeah I was like that before I guess, and actually I’ve never been in a relationship where I fully accepted the lead of a man tbh but I still have hope… also there should be freedom in love I believe this would be very important to me. That’s why I don’t do casual dating anymore

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don’t see nothing wrong w her making videos if they’re something like funny content, tutorial or make up or something. Now if it’s something like videos of her in scantly clad clothing that seems like she’s seeking attention that’s different. I wouldn’t like that. As for your other standards nothing wrong w that. Everyone is free to their own likes, dislikes opinions. So long as it’s w in reason. I mean if you’re telling her I’m the man you can’t drive, you cook, give me sex when I want ok that’s too much. But no I don’t see anything wrong w what you’re expecting out of a relationship just as a female would expect certain things out of a relationship.

FilmGuy93 · Accepted Answer

It's not that the standard is too high, it's the younger women especially have this weird obsession with feeling "in control." They likely see your request as trying to control them. It's fucking stupid, but that's what it is.