Girls, How do you like to be approached in public?

[Kyle1234Katarn]

I mean specifically by men or women who have an interest in you beyond friendship.

[TryMeBee]

Although I'm not interested in anything besides friendship, the way I like to be approached is through a common interest. If I'm wearing an HGTG patch, or a UA sticker, I would prefer if someone approached via something like that and establish a common interest so there would at least be something to make small talk about before they ask for something more than friendship and are declined.

Plus at least then the experience wouldn't be totally negative on both ends. May not make a friend or get a date, but we did meet someone who "also likes X." Sometimes it's rare to meet someone who understands the reference.

[pewter_moon]

If you think about it from a woman's perspective, it would take a rare set of circumstances to create a random public meeting that would result in a happy relationship.
You would have to be open, honest and hold enough genuine charm to both catch her attention and put her at ease.
Are you capable of that?

[mxnique_r]

One time at school, a guy approached me at school and just started talking to me. He was asking where my next class was, what it was and if I know this guy named Ben. Apparently Ben's his friend and is in my class. For over a week this guy would approach me while we walked to class and just talk to me. I know he was just interested and didn't know how to approach me but it felt creepy to me. After a couple times of walking together, he saw me at lunch once and walked over. He talked to me for a bit and ended the conversation with his arms out, expecting a hug. I only give hugs to friends and people that I value, so obviously this guy did not qualify. Instead, I ignored one of his hands and just dapped him up. One would think he would get it that I didn't want to hug him right? He said "what, no hug?" and I smiled politely and said "nope." Mind you, I have rather large boobs, so I'm used to guys wanting hugs to feel those against him (some have admitted it and others friends told me) so I no longer give out hugs to anyone b/c it makes me uncomfortable and tense up.

As someone who's been sexually harassed since I hit puberty, this kind of approach is definitely not the way to go. Other than the ones that seem creepy, I love being approached by someone. That being said, I always like to be approached through either a common interest or a compliment. Note that when I say compliment, I do not mean on my body or face. This just shows that you're shallow. Compliment her outfit or jewelry or maybe a pin on her backpack. Also, I personally don't wear makeup but some girls are insecure about their face, so don't compliment her makeup in general, and that's still a little bit creepy to know that you've been staring at her face lol.

[SueShe]

I do not like to be approached by total strangers in public (or in private).

I am fully aware that anyone approaching me is in for something no good. When I say "no good", I know that the only thing that really interests that person is how quickly he can get under the skirt and fornicate.

That is why I try to keep as neutral a face as possible and don't smile when I am walking down the streets because I have made the negative experience that if you smile, guys think they have a chance and will address you without being asked if it is okay or not.

I avoid looking at men at all except the traditional 1/10th. of a second to assess that person and to see whether he represents a danger or if I know that person.

[CoolCatMar1]

That's cool me too. Well when my boyfriend approached me we started dating the second day after sex so yeah we are 4 months together nowww he js respectful and nice always his Friends like me and his family too

[Anonymous]

Ok. For starters. I hate men who aren’t direct and genuine so if you want to date us then please avoid going hot or cold. We always end up getting confused and hurt asking ourselves why you’re doing that. It’ll make you come off as a player or a less genuine person which is a red flag

Also. Please do take it slow! Slowness makes a better relationship i promise!
How close are you to this person? You want to make sure that your friendship does not get destroyed by your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Not a direct proposal. It will definitely make me feel embarrassed and I can't even communicate my insecurities or fears or questions about the relationship or express my feelings that much openly. So for a girl, it will be better if you approach her when there's no one around but show her off in public if she accepts you. This makes her feel good

[NotTacocaT6969]

If I’m approached in public the answer is immediately no.


I don’t date strangers and any guy who knows me already would know better than to make a public display of trying to date me.

[bubblegunnn]

Like summer did to tom

[PinkRose24]

If the guy is not handsome I don't want the guy to approach me cos I'll have to reject him and make him feel bad.

[Jessica405]

I don't like! I have to know a guy before I would consider a date.

[Faith18letsgo]

A big smile and an open hand out to shake saying “hi I’m ___. What’s your name?”

[Nikki1989]

Just smile and say hello, it's not complicated.