Girls, how do you like to be approached?

[clampfan101]

If a stranger wanted to ask you out, how would you prefer he go about it?

I’m shy, not good at starting conversations, and feel like I’m interrupting strangers I try to talk to. I need advice…

[Anonymous]

Dont go for too hot girls because they'll rip your heart out. Hit up the nerdy ones. Depending if your area is lively there are places that do weekly boardgame days where people who are into dnd or any other type of boardgames where you need more than one person playing meet up.

You go there and there should be nerdy women there. Sit next to one and start talking to her about the boardgame whether you know it or not. Keep it natural, you don't have to try too hard just be yourself. If the conversation flows, it isn't you doing all the work and she's smiling and engaging then, you sir are in to ask for her number.

But if you can pick up by her one worded replies, her dry answers and how she doesn't keep the conversation going, then you know she's not interested.

I wouldn't go up to random girls in random places, have a forced awkward conversation and then out of no where ask for her number. It won't work.

Go somewhere, a place where you'll be interacting with people and performing an activity. Get your hands moving, doing something so the environment is natural.

This is a place where other people are going to meet other people, to make friends, and to talk. They're open to talking to other people. Like a class that teaches you how to paint or cook.

Then you just casually start talking to all kinds of women, you aren't stuck with one. You are enjoying the activity and then you are talking, maybe even helping each other in this comfortable space.

But don't ask for her number on day 1. Wait a few weeks until you guys know each other longer. When you are absolutely sure she's into you, you ask for her number.

That's the way to do it. Any other way of approaching random girls down the street, tell you right now they'll be creeped out. Join a club of some sort and meet a nice girl that way. Good luck!

[clampfan101]

Thank you! Someone taking this question seriously! And don’t worry about me needing to look for a nerd, as I always am. lol Plus I much prefer cute and elegant rather than hot.
So let’s say I can find a nice club. How do I get over my shyness? I’m so paranoid about messing anything up, let alone talking to a girl…

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe do something where you are in your natural element like going to a anime meetup. (Or anything else you like, marvel, dc, lord of the rings, star wars). You will find a girl there who also is super into that.

When you start talking to her, think of something interesting as a topic related to an anime or manga that's popular or something. Hopefully she's into the same one, if not you can hopefully vibe through a different show you have in common. For example, you ask if she's a fan of my hero academia and If she says yes you can talk about all kinds of theories and thoughts about it so far.

I noticed when you are talking about something you are passionate about, all your nervousness and shyness goes right out the window.

Even if you guys end up talking about something you don't know, just let her do the talking and seem engaged and smiling like you are enjoying the conversation but eventually try to change the topic into something you do know about if it gets too awkward and you don't know what to say.

She gets into chainsaw man you say "Speaking of action packed anime, have you seen jujutsu kaisen or demon slayer?" Some anime you know and can spit facts about.

Mostly a popular one and don't do a obscure one like eureka 7, adult swim days... you'll get a blank stare if it isn't a known show.

Over time, you get so familiar with talking about all kinds of stuff that you get comfortable and the shyness isn't as bad as time passes and you get used to talking about things you find very interesting.

I feel that is where someones personality really shines is when they talk about something they love. Anyway I hope this helps.

[clampfan101]

Thank you very much!

[Opinion Owner]

Of course. Thank you kindly for mho. :)

[jennifer_bloom]

I would say to engage the person in conversation and use an excuse to exchange contacts cause most woman will not give the contact to a new person without a strong reason to. One way most people like to be engaged is to ask their opinion on something because people like to share their thoughts but don't always have an audience that is willing to listen to their point of view.

For example, if somebody looks European, you could ask them what their favourite team is in the euro cup or their favourite player, if somebody looks Indian, you could ask them where in India they are from and what the weather is like, and do they feel like they are similar to other south Asian regions of the world in food or tastes. If somebody is African, you could ask them, if they like the city or the country more when they vacation there, or if they prefer the beaches or the towns more and why etc...

My friend wanted to date my other friend and would ask for her number so he could drop off certain boxed cookies he remember she saying she liked, saying he was gifted those cookies by an aunt but did not like them etc...

[catiecatie]

For me if it’s out of the blue I wouldn’t go out on a date. Now if we’ve been talking for a couple days and then you asked id go out on a date with you. Some times we can tell if a guy likes us based on body language. My crush likes me because of the way he acts towards me. I hope it works out but we will see.

[clampfan101]

I definitely don’t want to ask out of nowhere, but I often feel like I only get one chance before never seeing them again.

[DizzyDesii]

Pull me aside and maybe ask for my number or something. I don't know if you can't even get my number then you likely can't get a date 🤣

[clampfan101]

Can I get a serious opinion, please?

[DizzyDesii]

The fact you dont understand how 100% serious that was makes me worry for you. Im so serious. If she says no to giving you her number, she sure as heck won't give you a date. Asking for a number is easing your way into it. Then you talk on the phone, get to know eachother then ask to hangout. If the hangout goes well then eventually ask to make the next one a date. Duhh

[clampfan101]

I was referring to “Pull me aside”. That’s not how you get someone’s number.

[DizzyDesii]

Pull me aside means someone asks me to step over to the side in private to talk to them... do you not understand slang? Lmao

[clampfan101]

I figured that much out. How could you do that without looking like a creep?

[DizzyDesii]

Just say hey and ask can you talk to her for a bit. Do it in a public place then ask to talk to her to the side. If you approach us in a private setting after having followed us around the entire time, we’d be more creeped out

[rachel776]

i don't like to be approached by guys i don't know

[clampfan101]

Then how do you meet them?

[Molly1997]

I’m fine with someone saying hi, having a compliment and then asking.

[clampfan101]

What kind of compliments would be best for most girls? I don’t want to come on too strong.

[Molly1997]

I can only speak for myself but “ I noticed you standing there and I think you look beautiful. Would it be ok if I get your number?” Or anything similar, just have a nice smile and it will be fine

[Nikki1989]

By being direct and some humour really helps.

[clampfan101]

I don’t know how to be confidently direct, and my dry sense of humor is probably something that takes time to appreciate.

[Anonymous]

Do you have a wingman?

[clampfan101]

What’s a wingman?