Well i don't like to be approuched near a busy road especially going across traffic lights because you can get me knocked over (it's happened lol some guys actually approuch me in the middle of walking across), if they litterely run across the road where they could possibly get ran over :\, but the only time i've ever been approuched in public is by guys that want sex lol, mostly near the dorms next to the local college and university (of course they would). I generally don't like to be caught off guard ether...
I like to get to know someone naturally with no expectation of anything, it ruins the challange and the thrill of getting to know each other and having fun flirting and doing sweet things for each other, you miss out on all the little cute moments leading up to finally accepting and being sure of how you both feel, i guess i like the challange a lot, i feel like guys just coming up to me and going "hey you want to get to know me? possibly go out on a date?", i don't feel worthy, i haven't earned it lol.
I'd prefer to not be approached at all by strangers in public. I'd much prefer to be approached in an actual social setting, like before/during/after a class at school, or at a party, or at an outing with friends etc.
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I've been hit on and approached by so many guys, who I can tell think they're being smooth, but really just turned me off... they'll say stupid things like what up am? And where's your man at though? And if they start with that, I guess they think I can't be confused if they're just being friendly or what, but a lot of them are coming on too strong or it's want to fu*k! Not that there's necessarily anything wrong with that, just don't be creepy. And most guys who are being creepy think they aren't creepy somehow. You think all the no's would be their first hint ?
But yeah, I guess I do like it when thy smile at me and say hi and start talking with me... they can ask if I have a man pretty early on if they're smooth with it and I won't just blow them off, but usually if I haven't even started talking to them yet and get asked that, I lie and say I am married or something because so many take no to mean keep trying, when with 4/5 of them, it doesn't matter that I'm single I still wouldn't date them lol
I don't like to be approached in public places like the mall or a store or whatever because I came there to shop and not to make male friends! If a guy wanted to hit on me he'd have a better chance of doing it while I'm in school or after school, at a party, amougst friends, or even at a school event. I feel those are appropriate times.
Also he cannot act like a cocky ass and think just because he has good looks that he can say something to me and I'll drop to the floor. He needs to be a nice genuine guy. I prefer if he made me laugh or giggle. He can also leave all of his sexually puns and hints at the door once he approaches me. I'm not with that so he'd get his feelings hurt quickly.
Hearing this @ Starbucks - you could either cut in line in front of me or I could order whatever you'd like on my bill.
Let me get all those doors for you, I'm going your way and you look loaded
I'm stopping to share my taxi, since it's raining/sleeting so hard.
For no tip, I'll tote those heavy groceries out to your car, regardless of weather
Gals, my buddies & I have invented some new cocktails - would you please sample all of them & give us a vote? Losers have to buy, so choose wisely.
Have been watching your work and I think I can swing a promotion for you.
Here's my babysitting services card & rates, I've been voted best in your area and would love to sit your kids.
Saw you swimming, damn good, consider joining our coed swim team?
I think you have potential, here's a gift card for 50 dance lessons.
I know we just met but my "date" cancelled and I need someone to fill in - it's dinner, dancing & cocktails at the country club, no strings attached.
Anywhere besides the placed where someone would come to actually be alone, or with a purpose to: study or exercise (you already mentioned this one) or something else that's stressing the person - like exams [in college during exams]...
Otherwise - anywhere else it's completely fine - and desirable.
As to 'how' a girl likes to be approached {I can only speak for myself} is a little eye contact, so that she knows you're coming, maybe build up the tension a little bit by looking and smiling, but then go over there (maybe 5-10 minutes in) and see what happens. Smile, be friendly, and being FUNNY never fails. Ever.
I, personally, think almost anytime is fine. I had a guy approach me in the supermarket before but it was just weird. It was in Woodmans and if you are not sure about the size of Woodmans, well just compare it to a super walmart. I saw the guy follow me around the whole store and then he approached me at the self check outs. It creeped me out because he followed me everywhere and I would say I was 26 at the time and this guy was probably in his 40s.
I think if they have the right approach meaning as long as it it not in reference to making me feel like a sex symbol, it is all good! :)
Eye contact, first. Catch my eye from across the room and have a nice smile and a wink. You can say a LOT in a little bit of time without saying a word. I'm gonna be checking for a wedding band, too, so keep your hands where I can see them. If we're in a bar or club, buy me drink. If I accept it, then come talk to me. Say hey, tell me your name, shake my hand, ask me to shoot a game of pool... I don't mind a pick up line and I don't mind if you "check me out." I've got 'em, I flaunt 'em. G'head and take a peek. Just don't live there lol. I've got a brain too, and if you want to get to the goodies, you gotta get in my head first.
To me, anywhere is fine as long as I'm not busy. I don't like people getting the way of my work or personal success so I would probably just ignore you, but if I'm sitting alone somewhere feel free to approach me. If it's at a social event, as long as my conversation doesn't look too serious stroll on up and talk to me. I wouldn't have a problem with it.
I like when a guy just comes and says hello, even if am with friends couls say hello ladies introduce yourself n ask our names and ask what we doing, u know just been friendly. He can be like me n my boys geting together n hang out tonight if you ladies not married or anything lol throw in a little joke maybe you guys could come. And give me he's number ;) n if u done right ill give you mine too.
EYE CONTACT is the key!
Before you walk up to the girl to talk make sure she first catches you looking at her. Smile at her and if she smiles back then go talk to her. Or try a joke I'm a sucker for a man who can walk up and make some joke. When I laugh and smile at you then you know your in.
I like when guys make eye contact with me a couple of times and smile at me, which is super cute! Then he comes up and talks to me. I liked being picked up on at the gym lol cause I can see how many push ups you can do or how much you're benching haha place doesn't matter though, as long as it's not a sketchy place.
I dont like when a guys is with his group of friends walks over because they're all staring... If we're in class, sit next to me and start a conversation. If I'm at the mall, catch me while I'm checking out the clothes on the clothing rack. If I'm in the car, talk to me at the stoplight if you're driving next to me. If I'm at the store, get in line behind me. If Im at the movies, sit near me. Lol I don't know, get the jist? Just go with the flow.
dont be creepy bc girls have had like classes about strangers walking up to you so they'll be like wtF KIDNAPPER or something
well
that might be only me
but
i don't get freaked out if they just keep a good distance from youa nd talk to you and make good eye contact and be friendly.
not like
heeey guuurrrrl lookin good
sure it's flattering but it's just
doesn't make you smile and happy
i like consistency from a guy, if he likes to know me, he always come and talk to me about everything. maybe first time with hi, ask about something related to the environment/whenever both of you were. then, maybe come again and just talk about anything. Coz for me, if a guy likes me, he will come and talks eventhough it was just a silly thing to talk with. it also will makes her actually remember you lolz
Dont ever be afraid to approach a lady. Introduce yourself!! compliment her smile or something like that. Don't come on too sexually, just express that you might like to get to know her better at another time. If you have business cards then give her one at this point. taking out a phone and exchanging numbers is a bit cumbersome, so be ready to leave the contact info and walk away.
Be polite and don't be pushy.
I often get approached by guys at school and they just casually introduce themselves or compliment my bag or shoes or whatever and i think that works.
Im not fond of being approached on the street or when i am visibly in a rush.
I'd say any place is fine. But if I look like I'm in a hurry then it isn't a good time. Just strike up a conversation - nothing fancy - cute smile and slightly prolonged eye contact works well. I've had guys follow me around the shops before - that can be creepy.
I don't. Lol. Don't talk to me in public. 😂 I'm kidding. I definitely don't like to be approached by a 63 year old guy, by myself in private. Little lone public. That'd be scary. I wouldn't like to be approached alone, or by my friend. I don't know; it depends on the time and setting.
Guys dont approach me at all because i am a 6'9" tall girl and they dont even get within 15 feet of me. But if i had to respond to your question, i would want it done in a quiet, respectful way with no sexual hints or acts. Just a mature convo
If it were me i would like a guy not to be so straight forward and be funny and friendly with me. I love corny pick up lines or even if you pulled a spongebob reference. That would be great. a smile is nice too
I think you should make it all about humor and being cute. You can't go wrong with a good laugh, and you also can't go wrong with a cute guy. So sometimes even being corny is a fun way to approach a girl you don't know. Lol. But that's just me
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