Ladies, why would you date a guy you talk negatively about to another guy?

[Soulflyer80]

So odd situation, a friend of mine is dating a guy that she always talks down about. Such as I'll never get into a relationship with him because he ignored me when he dated someone else. She has mentioned that he has fallen in love with her but she isn't ready to be in a relationship with anyone. Since this started I noticed myself starting to catch feelings even though I'm not interested in dating because of a recent bad breakup.
So my question is do you date guys even though you have no intention of taking any further than casual dates knowing the guy is catching feelings for you?

[sheenagwapa]

as for me i wanba get to know people... i keep having dreams of so eone who is supposed to be my spulmate and the first time i saw him on onstagram i felt i know him very well and i've been hvinh horrible anxiety that i will not find someone who i will have steong feelings just like my ex i suffered that for many months since my breakup. i don't wanna watch korean drama because if someone would remind me of my ex i will get horrible anxiety. when i saw him that fear went away like magic but he is beinh very hard on me. he wants a lot of women and he is perfectionist somethinh that i so not like because i'm really strugglinh with his tests. and then there's this guy T he mentioned before of potential i feel like he and A are of the same breed of specie that's why i just wanna get to know them. i wannabeg them to give me source of inxome especially A i can kidd their ass so that they will piry me and give me my source of income but that doesn't mean i wanna be thekr SO. i choose tol. i'mbot a prostitute so i'm confused on what to do.

[jennifer_bloom]

I sometimes like more than one person but I don’t date more than one person and I don’t date a guy with the intention of dumping him for a better option. I’ve avoided getting with guys I was attracted to just because I thought I might dump them if another option was on the horizon.

[Soulflyer80]

Do you think she may be using this guy to make someone else step up and fight for her. Or even make another guy jealous?

[jennifer_bloom]

I know girls who do that and I know girls that would never do that, it depends on her range of acceptable behaviours, and her level of authenticity.

[Soulflyer80]

She has used jealousy tactics before, I was curious about that. Thank you for the input. Appreciate it.

[inhua]

sometimes they can't help themselves. unless your the perfect man, any flaws and imperfections will be held and used against you, if not openly than at the very least subconsciously.

[Soulflyer80]

Dating these days is so full of deceit and twisted turns. Whatever happened to the good ol days of I like you or I don't like you.

[QuietVerbena]

She really likes that guy and was talking down to cover her feelings. Your feelings are not likely to be reciprocated.

[Soulflyer80]

I had my suspicions about that. Although I'm not jealous of it and I'm not trying to date her or anyone right now. Why I find the behavior kind of odd.

[QuietVerbena]

She was covering her feelings cause she didn’t wanna seem vulnerable till she was sure he liked her back

[Soulflyer80]

Makes sense now

[QuietVerbena]

Cool