Girls, have you ever been totally into a guy fir awhile and the suddenly you weren’t one day? Why did you lose that attraction?

[Still-alive]

Just curious. Do you lose attraction for a guy you been seeing just like that? One day you were really into him. The next day you weren’t?

Yes thats happened to me. I was really into a guy until one day i lost attraction to him

No that hasn’t happened to me. If i lose attraction for a guy it happened overtime and not suddenly

I just want to see results

[Dinklex3]

In highschool. It was because of a comment though.

He started acting weird. I think we were talking about safety and walking alone or some shit.

Then he was talking about "hypothetically" killing a girl. Then he said he would definitely rape her first because she was doing to die anyways.

I was freaked out, completely turned off, and was disgusted by him. Automatically stopped our little "thing" we had going on. All attraction to this guy was gone that minute.

... But if you're referring to just randomly without anything being said.. Then no.

[meetkitty123]

I've never lost interest in a man from one day to the next unless he did something dreadful but for the most part it's gradual over time with small things happening causing us to fall apart

It's the same when I have a crush or an interest in someone if they don't build the relationship or make a move and I feel like we're stuck in limbo then I lose interest in waiting out for him and I move on.

[Still-alive]

has a guy you were into ever moved 'too fast' for you liking so you lost interest?

[meetkitty123]

Usually men who move too slow lose my interest
When they teeter totter between flirting and friendly for way too long and they don't make a move to state whether they want more or not is when I just move on I figured they're just being friendly and a tease.

I suppose it depends on what you call too fast as well too fast for me would be someone jumping straight into something sexual I would be a little weirded out if someone comes at me with a sexual approach when we haven't even entered the friendly zone or the teeter totter between friendly and flirting zone. For me things go in stages friendly then tater totally between flirting and friendly then letting interest be known flirting with intent to date then mild sexuality with eventually an increase

[CrazyGirl2]

Yes, it’s happened to me. It is usually because he says or does something SO out of character that I realized he was hiding his true self from me. That is something that I cannot stand, and I have no patience for, nor forgiveness for that kind of dishonesty and betrayal.

[Still-alive]

has a guy you were into ever moved 'too fast' for you liking so you lost interest?

[CrazyGirl2]

Oh jesus, yes! Most of the guys I liked and lost interest in was because they either moved WAY too fast, or would not respect the fact that I just said NO!

[Still-alive]

i mean guys you were already dating though. did they maybe confess feelings 'too early' or maybe even tried to initiate sex before you felt comfortable doing so... stuff like that?

[CrazyGirl2]

No, I’ve never lost interest the way your question implied just because someone told me that they loved me before I knew whether I loved them or not. As I wrote, it was always because they were sexually aggressive with me and did not respect that I had moved their hand 5 previous times and said no! I would never loose interest in a guy because he “tried”, I can’t blame him for that. Likewise if he thinks that I just needed “time to warm up”, I can’t blame him for that. Making out with someone especially the first few times can be really frightening. You don’t know what the other likes or does not like, you’re afraid you’ll do something the other might hate. But after the fifth time I’ve moved a guys hand from between my legs and said no, if he does it again I’m done! Not just for tonight, we’re done period! He clearly has no respect for me and just wants to get laid apparently whether I want to or not (since I already said NO 5 times)!

[CrazyGirl2]

Oh, and I KNOW where the penis is. If I want to touch it I will ask you if you mind. But when a guy puts my hand on his dick… he. Gets one chance at THAT! If he does it a second time, We’re done! I can’t stand guys who do that, it’s so gross and presumptive! It also shows a complete lack of respect, and apparently assumes I’m too stupid to know where his cock is!

[Still-alive]

ok so it was always initiating sex or sexual activity too fast.

And just curious but have you ever needed 'time to warm up before? like you needed time away from him to figure out your feelings for him more?

[Still-alive]

ohh sorry babe there was more you posted here i didn't read yet

[CrazyGirl2]

Well “time to warm up” means that I'm just not horny enough to want him to do (whatever) yet, but if he just keeps doing whatever he's doing I’ll definitely get there! No, the guys I’ve had sex with voluntarily, when I knew I was ready, I knew it! So I very likely spent all day/week thinking about it, so by the time we are making out, well, lets just say I’m already MORE than ready!
But I can’t remember a time where I’ve needed to figure out my feelings regarding a boy I was dating. But I have felt like that with friends, especially online. That perhaps he said or did something that really upset me, I may need time to ascertain whether the friendship is fixable, or if I even want to BE friends with someone who did/said something like that! But that could just as easily apply to a female as it could a male.

[DancingQueen16]

This sorta happened to me before in middle school I was crushing on this guy who was one of my best friends but then once we started high school the crush kind of "faded" I guess so for three years of high school I only saw him as my friend but then I think about two or three months into senior year the crush came back because one day I saw him and my heartbeat started speeding up anyways fast forward to July 1st of this year he texted me one night and told me that he liked me and he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes and we've been dating for a little over 4 months now and I couldn't be happier

[TrueConfection]

I knew a guy that somehow made me wild by the way he said my name. I didn't date him, but he had my full attention. He eventually started working at the location I was in (we already worked for the same company). One day his unprofessional, immature, whiny personality came out (not directed at me) and I instantly lost any interest in him. 🤢

[PhenomenalQueen]

He has a very toxic attitude towards women… it was a huge turn off. Lol

[Still-alive]

but when did you suddenly realize that about him while dating him?

[PhenomenalQueen]

It was a month later we spoke on feminism and eventually he said some very nasty things..

[sassy_receptor]

well what do you count as “suddenly”? and are we talking about crushes or guys we’re dating?

[Still-alive]

Guy your dating

[Still-alive]

And by suddenly we will say within one to three days

[sassy_receptor]

my relationship with my ex kind of ended that way but there were reasons and i quickly lost feelings due to resentment

[menina]

No, usually when I lose attraction is overtime. So I've never had this experience.

[LaineyLuiza]

He opened his mouth