Why do most girl’s have low self esteem about themselves?

[Finchie40]

Most girl’s are their own worst enemy and constantly think they are ugly or they are too fat and don’t like themselves that much , I dated low self esteem girls that pretty much criticized their own appearance a lot but to me they were absolutely beautiful , but my words to them didn’t mean shit , I could tell her she is beautiful every day and she would get mad at me and upset to the point it started turning me off like she needed validation from other guys to find her attractive Most of those Girls ended up cheating, because the second they got validation from another guy that made her feel beautiful she easily spread her legs for him. Don’t get me wrong. it is nice to be complimented from time to time , but if your whole life revolves around that , then you have some serious issues and you will never experience true love. I know people can be assholes and people can say hurtful things but if it’s someone’s mission to talk shit on you , that person is the biggest piece of shit , I hate people that think looks is the only thing that matters when it comes to relationships, if looks is your number 1 thing to be attracted to someone then you are in for a rude awakening when you realize looks Really mean shit and that looks disappear
In time , so enjoy your fake relationships because It isn’t Going to last forever, Looks are important to a certain degree but it shouldn’t be your primary reason for being with someone. I see beautiful girls everywhere I go and if I am in a relationship with a girl those other girls don’t stand a chance if the girl I am with has my heart and treats me with love and respect I’m not going to cheat on a girl if she cherishes me, but when a girl is constantly seeking validation from other
Men then you are best to kick her
To the curb because she doesn’t value you, she only likes the convenience of you , she is the kind of girl that will not resist temptation if she is getting hit on by a guy that finds her attractive. Let him have her.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Many get too involve in what they perceive society expects them to be, from the time they are young and through becoming adults.

Dolls that have this perfect look, people in movies or TV shows. Guys calling us fat, even though we have the perfect BMI.

Insults can hurt deep and be life long, especially if they were part of bullying, online or in person.

I was made fun of for having small breasts in junior high and it has made me still be self conscience about it.

There seems to be a expectation that the perfect person is suppose to look a certain way. This applies more to women than to men, although it is there for men too.

Then throw into the mix social media, people have grown up with things like FB, Snap, Twitter, Tiktok and see these were beautiful people there and you post stories and use filters and then guys starts saying how hot and beautiful you are. They say thanks, and enjoy the attention, even though it isn't real.

Since they got a lot of attention that way, they like it, want it and crave it and if they don't get it in the real world... then they think they are ugly or something is wrong with them.

Guys like https://www.girlsaskguys.com/guys-behavior/q4866875-what-kind-of-man-would-say-this make those who are more emotional even worse off.

Be kind to everyone, you know know how much words can hurt.

[Finchie40]

I agree , most people are just straight up assholes that don’t have a heart that walk around Like their shit don’t stink but little do they realize it does. I know I am not perfect and nobody is , but one thing I can honestly say about myself is I am not a judge mental person , I treat everyone the same way I want to be treated , the only time I will be disrespectful to someone is if they are disrespectful to me , So to me all people are beautiful people if they have a genuine heart , If I am not attracted to someone or I think someone looks ugly I keep it to myself because if that person is nice to me I am going to be nice to them back no reason to treat someone like shit because of their appearance , People that walk around like they are better than everybody are people that need a wake up call and people that sadly have more self esteem issues than someone that is actually being talked shit on. When I overhear someone bashing someone else behind their back I lose all respect for that person especially if that person did nothing wrong to them , To me they are the piece of shit , sadly there are a lot of piece of shits on this planet. People could
Live a more content happy life if they stopped worrying about things that don’t really matter and don’t really mean shit , Social media has brainwashed people to believe you need to look a certain way to be accepted by others and that’s where most people are wrong , social media was designed as a money making tool fucking with people’s heads to get them to buy shit that they really don’t need , but most people fall for it because they want to be recognized they want to be accepted , the only people they will be accepted by are the people that fell for the social media bullshit , If people actually put their phones down and went to a public place they would realize 95 percent of the people in that public place look nothing like the people they see on social media. Guys and girls have self esteem issues because of

[Finchie40]

The useless shit they absorb into their heads , she that honestly means nothing. Sadly most females are glued to their phones and feel that they have to look a certain way to be accepted and little do they realize they do not. What makes her acceptive is her heart , if she has a good heart and has moral values to me she is more attractive then some airbrushed model that thinks her shit don’t stink. We live in a sad world where people are so lost that easily overlook what’s really important in life. And don’t get me wrong their are a lot of guys that fall into this shit as well. Those people will never be content in their lives until they realize their shit stinks as well

[Aerissa_Jade]

Well said, growing up rural I didn't have access to the internet like city people do. Even to this day, I have zero cell service at home... I might get 1 bar now and then. Internet speeds also can suck pretty bad. Companies don't want to spend millions to service a couple dozen customers, they'll never earn their money back.

I know what you mean though, people think beauty is all that matters.

[DizzyDesii]

My self esteem isn't high or low, its in its comfort zone. I dont really have a problem with my appearance until someone points something out. Then i start overthinking... but it doesn't last long. I’m not the type to call myself ugly or some shit because people who do that usually are either just ugly or they are fishing for compliments. I dont think im ugly but i know im not hot like I used to be. I could be hot again but i dont have the motivation i had back then. I want to at least maintain good health for my future kids

[Finchie40]

Yea it’s just sad when you hear someone else talking shit on someone else that you know, basically making rude remarks behind their back when that person did nothing wrong to that person what so ever , Most people need a wake up call and realize they aren’t perfect either , just because you aren’t attracted to someone doesn’t mean you have to talk shit behind their back , I think that makes that person look more like the piece of shit and more ugly to be honest , I know guys do this shit as well and Galvan be assholes but girl’s on the other hand are vicious bitches when it comes to this shit lol

[DizzyDesii]

I only need to give/receive a compliment once a week or month when in a relationship

[Finchie40]

That’s the thing girl’s get way more compliments then guys do it’s something most girl’s are just use to , as for a guy we are lucky if we get compliments , if a girl we are into compliments us it makes us feel like we are walking on clouds lol but that’s also why I feel girl’s have a harder time with self esteem because most girls are use to getting a lot of compliments so a girl that isn’t getting a lot of compliments through out her life is going to have trouble with her self esteem , she is going to feel not acceptive and that she doesn’t matter which I agree is silly but that’s how I see things

[DizzyDesii]

We get a lot of compliments but most are from guys we want nothing to do with. At least guys compliments are usually from someone they like in return

[Finchie40]

Not necessarily lol but we are flattered when a girl checks us out and notices us , Girls on the other hand are just use to it so when a guy tells a girl that he finds her beautiful she is like Thaaankls like she already knows , Us guys are like ummm you want to go to the bedroom lol I am not going to lie I love when I am outside working on my yard and a group of girls on a car driving by honk at me and pretty much catcalling me , That shit does make my day lol

[DizzyDesii]

I dont say thanks like i already know. I say thanks like ehh but it dont mean much since im not into you 😂

[Finchie40]

True it only matters if you are into that person. As well lol

[bamesjond0069]

Generally women either 100% live and die on what other people say or else they 100% don't give a fuck and are a whale Karen. So choose your poison.

Why are they like this? Well women need societal approval to survive. If you're a clan in the jungle and a woman is kicked out she's dead. If a man's kicked out yes he's in trouble but in some ways it could work in his favor. It's part of men's abilities to take risks. For example the whole "I'm leaving, whose coming with me" if people come he's now leader of his own tribe. So it's worth the risk. It's never worth the risk to the woman because she's never the leader of the tribe nor would it matter to her enough if she was. She's risk avoiding and just cares to survive.

[U4ea0]

I would say most women have way too much self-esteem. Women are cognitively biased into viewing themselves in a more favorable light. This explains the unrealistic standards women have for men. Women consistently rate themselves as more attractive than they actually are.

[Anemone978]

I used to be a person like this where it didn't matter what my husband said I needed to be validated by guys who I thought were hot. No I never cheated or slept with anyone else but like when his friends would say I was pretty or some random dude it meant more to me because they have no reason to say it. Where as my husband loved me so he says it like a parent would. Anyways long story short, I got myself sorted and I don't feel that way anymore I have validation inside myself now.

[Finchie40]

Awesome answer , I love honesty , most people can’t be honest and that’s why this world is so fucked up , People always point fingers at someone else over pointing fingers at themselves first , the fact that you realized what you were doing was wrong shows that you are a good person and your husband is very lucky to have you , When we realize in ourselves how selfish we can be as humans , the only way love grows is removing that selfishness for each other , when you canMt remove selfishness you will never experience true love , We are all imperfect people and we all did dumb shot in life , my past experiences in relationships has taught me to remove selfishness for my partner when I finally realized someone can’t give themselves to me if I can’t give myself to them and that’s the problem most people have and why their relationships fail is because they do not know how to remove selfishness for their partners , living a life of I am right and you are wrong , if people actually put themselves in their partners shoes before making decisions that’s where love and respect grows , When you point the finger at yourself and realize you can’t always be right , When I commit to a girl I remove my selfishness for her the same way I want her
To remove it for me , if she can’t do that for me then her and I will not make it , Thank you for this answer you will be the MHO

[Anemone978]

I'm not with my ex husband anymore... I had to leave and take some time and care for myself.

[Finchie40]

I’m sorry to hear that your marriage ended especially after what you told me you did for your husband. What you did for him not many people will do for their partner so why you both ended in divorced is a shock to me

[Anemone978]

Well mainly because I changed but he wouldn't. Plus I was just not in a good place mentally I needed to see my family again. I was in UK came back to Canada.

[Finchie40]

Do you regret your change? You realize change is a selfish choice because you honestly can’t expect someone to change to appease you , When you met your husband that was the guy you choose to be by your side , he accepted your flaws like you should of accepted his, When we expect someone to change from the way we accepted them in the first place that makes you the selfish person because you only want things to go your way , Now if he was doing things that were completely different from when you first met him and you didn’t like those things you should still support your partner and help them get back on track , unless he was cheating on you , beating you , and not considering you on anything and being completely selfish himself and not making you a priority then the right choice would be to walk away , but the fact that you missed your family and used that as an excuse to walk away make you the selfish person for the fact you choose your family over your partner , Your partner should always be your number 1 priority over anyone , Your family your friends and your kids if you had kids together , When we choose those people over our partner you are breaking the foundation that you are your partner first built together and damaging the commitment that you agreed to do with them. most people don’t not grasp concept and then wonder why their relationships fail , Selfishness is one of the biggest things that kill’s relationships , we all have selfishness in us but when you can’t remove that for your partner don’t expect them to remove it for you , We can only give what we want to receive , we can only sacrifice for someone that sacrifices for us , we can only resist temptation for someone that resists temptation’s for us , We can’t force someone to love us but we can treat them the same way we want to be treated, When boundaries in a relationship are set in place whether you set the boundaries or he did and you both agreed on it you both need to follow those boundaries

[Finchie40]

I dated girls that set boundaries with me that once they got their way they turned around and didn’t follow the boundaries that they set , that’s why they are my ex

[Finchie40]

And please don’t think that I am judging you and putting you down , I am just trying to let you see what you can change within yourself if you ever get into another relationship again

[Finchie40]

And trust me , I am far from perfect I have made a lot of selfish decisions in relationships that I wish I could go back and change , when I finally opened my eyes and realized I am not a perfect person and accepted my own flaws and mistakes you will see things from a whole different perspective, True love does exist , just finding that partner is the journey

[Anemone978]

Nah I don't mind I know I am a completely selfish person, everything I do is essentially for myself. My sister says I'm egocentric. But I guess that is cuz for a long time the only person I could really depend on was myself. My ex is still my best friend, and we still talk on the phone once a week. He would still help me out if I need anything. But it just ain't good for me to be with him I never considered him my family not once and I don't think I ever actually loved him either. So yes I know I am selfish. This is why I know I can't and won't find love cuz I don't care about other people.

[Finchie40]

Most people are , That’s what scares me about relationships but I still go for it because I love connection and chemistry and sex with someone that claims they want the same , I can only have sex with a girl that only wants me , if she can’t stay committed to me like I do for her then I kick her to the curb where she belongs , removing selfishness is something I had to learn as well based off of some of my experiences in relationships so to me that’s the only way I see a relationship surviving and for love to grow until you learn how to remove selfishness for someone you shouldn’t be getting into relationships , when you are single you can be as selfish as you want , but you can only be selfish for so long until you realize it’s not going to get you anywhere and little do selfish people realize when they are lying on their death bed they are all alone regretting their decisions in life which is a sad thing to see if you ever gone to a nursing home , So hopefully one day you realize that in yourself on how important it is to remove selfishness if you want to experience true love

[Lynnfriend]

It's often because of the stereo typical ways that women are introduced to society. You watch social media most women are expected to be young med to petite build , blonde, blue eye's and big tits this is not the typical ordinary women and they feel they can't begin to compite with man's idea of the perfect women

[QuietVerbena]

I think everyone has low self esteem sometimes

[JakeS00]

There's obviously conflict. Not all girls are like this how you're describing it. I will say it's society and the fitting-in crowd that are like this.

[Guy13]

I don’t find that to be the case. About half of snd half font that I meet in person. 🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️

[Akam93]

@Guy13 I have a low self esteem.

[Guy13]

@Akam93 Really... why?

[Akam93]

@Guy13 because I dont get told I'm beautiful all that much. Plus I dont get guys easily. :/

[Guy13]

@Akam93 Dance on that table tomorrow evening, get video, and i guarantee you will be told you are Beautiful !!!

[Akam93]

@Guy13 will you forget the video. Lol do you think I'm beautiful?

[NathanDavis]

we have met extremely different people during our life time... lol

[Anonymous]

Because they’re young and because of the media, telling them how to look and how old they’re allowed to look.

[Anonymous]

https://tenor.com/tr/view/women-hahaha-women-memes-haha-gif-24926576

[Anonymous]

Because they're allowed to. It's actually human nature for both genders to question themselves. The only difference is women do not get judged for it like men do.

[smilelots]

more then you may think lots of people feel this way about themselfs..

[artsy_dragon]

Because of society 😔

[Agape93]

The world is great at grinding people down.

[malwins]

Am i attraktive

[Red_Arrow]

Very!

[Finchie40]

From what I see , yes you look attractive

[Anonymous]

Can't relate. I'm beautiful.

[Finchie40]

Is that your reason for not have a profile picture lol

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I don't want creeps messaging me.

[Finchie40]

That’s what block buttons are for lol

[Opinion Owner]

Why would I want ugly guys to see me?

[Finchie40]

How do you know they will all be ugly?

[Opinion Owner]

I never said they will all be ugly. I said I don't want ugly guys to see me. If I post my profile picture, everyone sees it even ugly guys.

[Finchie40]

Can I ask you a serious question? What makes a guy ugly? Are you judging guys by their looks? Cuz honestly looks really
Mean shit , they matter to a certain extent but looks really mean shit , what makes someone beautiful is their heart and their moral values , so when you judge someone by their looks you are only hurting yourself I see beautiful girls all the time but that doesn’t mean I want to be with them i will only be with her if she has a genuine heart. Someone that is going to value me like I value her , if a girl is just after my looks yea she might get me in bed but I am not going to commit to her if she doesn’t have a genuine heart and moral values , I am not going to give my heart to someone that doesn’t have a heart

[Finchie40]

People that walk around like their shot don’t stink are lost people , people that have low self esteem and insecurities about themselves , people
That criticize and judge others to make themselves feel better about themselves not realizing they are the biggest piece of shit , because if you have to waste your time judging someone else based off of their looks you will never experience true love because
You aren’t facing reality that love doesn’t come from being selfish , if you are a selfish person that only thinks about yourself you are going to end up with selfish guys that only think of themselves allowing
Yourself to be used just because you are accepting someone just based off of their looks , Love only grows when 2 people remove selfishness for each other and resist temptation for each other , understanding you can’t always be right and they are wrong , If you live your life doing only what’s best for you you will never experience true love , You will eventually live a lonely selfish life and end up with guys that just use you for sex , Value yourself worth a realize you can only truly love someone when you gone your heart to them like they do for you, Your looks won’t last forever but your heart will

[Opinion Owner]

You went on a whole rant because I don't want to post my picture on this website? Damn you're creepy!

[Opinion Owner]

You're a complete idiot! I'm saving myself for marriage. All I'm saying is looks do matter. Personality does too. But you're making it seem like looks don't matter at all. Fine date an ugly girl with a beautiful personality. Let me date a handsome man with a beautiful personality. Why are you so pressed about that?

[Finchie40]

You are taking it all wrong , read the first sentence on my answer, I was asking you a question I wasn’t saying anything about you not posting a picture , So why you are calling me an idiot is out of line but whatever read the first sentence I was waiting for our answer and just stating what I think about people that are only after looks

[Finchie40]

And to answer what you just said , in my eyes you are being a hypocrite because you said earlier that you don’t want ugly guys messaging you, how do you know they will be ugly? So I asked you what makes a guy ugly?

[Opinion Owner]

You're an idiot for assuming that I think looks make a relationship. Like I said looks matter and so does personality. If you want an ugly girl with a great personality, then good for you. Stop being upset because I want a handsome man with a great personality.

[Finchie40]

LOL ok so how do you know ugly guys are Going to message you if you post a picture of yourself?

[Opinion Owner]

Ugly guys always message beautiful girls. Dude I'm not going to post my picture. You're creepy.

[Finchie40]

You are insecure

[Opinion Owner]

Lmao I've never been insecure in my life. I don't want creepy guys like you to get off to me. Bye ✌️

[Finchie40]

I can’t get off on someone I can’t see lol