Is it normal to have trust issues towards women if all I've had with women are bad experiences?

[Anonymous]

[FilmGuy93]

Sounds pretty normal, yeah. Just be careful to manage that distrust. You don't want to be alienating and destroy otherwise good relationships just because you have had some negative experiences.

[Asker]

I've had a lot of bad experiences. It never fails

[FilmGuy93]

I get it, but trust me when I say that a good or even great experience will restore your faith. I think the big thing is that you just don’t want shut those connections down preemptively

[Asker]

Im tired of it. Its frustration and anger at first to just feeling hopeless after that

[Thatpearl26]

Of course it’s normal. It’s in human nature to notice a pattern and to avoid things that hurt you. The only thing is that you have to get through the trust issues you have with women. For example instead of automatically going out with a girl, first become friends for a couple months. because usually when you start dating, the person can become automatically attached to who they’re dating so it hurts more if the relationship ends.

[BrightBubblyKat]

Yes, but you can’t expect Wonder Woman to save you from your fears. Get into therapy to address them.

[Asker]

What's therapy going to do?

[BrightBubblyKat]

Address your abandonment/whatever issues you have.

[Asker]

I can't control when people lie or not so how it is my problem?

[BrightBubblyKat]

Acceptance that life is a gamble.

[Anonymous]

Totally normal. Bad experiences teach us to avoid future bad experiences so it's not an entirely bad thing. The important thing is too be a good communicator. If you communicate your trust issues and she doesn't understand. Don't waste another minute on her. I promise you she is not worth it. But if she does now you have a responsibility to work towards healing. No healthy relationship can exist without trust on BOTH sides.

[Blackcupcake]

you’re generalising and making a final decision of not trusting ALL WOMEN when you’ve had bad experiences with a few… does that make sense? nope.

[Asker]

Not just a few. a lot

[Shamalien]

right with ya buddy. All you can do is just trust and get burned again, gotta be willing to be hurt again to truly give someone a chance. Of course if they start acting untrustworthy…don’t forget your training

[Anonymous]

Yes, if you have made bad choices, that will influence you.

[Asker]

How have i made bad choices? The women are the ones lying to me and leading me on

[TheFlak38]

you should have trust issues. don't fall for their fake smile and kindness

[Asker]

I don't. Its like a trap that lures you in