So 2 things really. There's a girl I began hanging out with a girl I dated in the past and she said she only wants to be friends. However since then she began texting me, we had sex, outside family her best friend is the only person she bought a Christmas present for and has told her parents about me. She seems down to sleep together soon, but she's very into things happening naturally and doesn't want to plan or force things to happen, which is why we failed originally because I tried force a relationship.
So when we hang out she spends about 90% of the time clearly into me, thinks I'm hilarious and is happy if we touch, you can just tell from her eyes her feelings for me, yet, she always seems to become really cold and harsh with me and almost seems disgusted if I touch her, when 2 minutes earlier I'm the funniest guy she's all over. If we go bowling or the cinema let's say we don't call them dates, but then she'll mention "if you go to the cinema with a guy its obviously a date" so she confuses me
My main question is texts however, if I text her she responds straight away, yet if I text her to hang out she waits a long time before replying qnd its so obvious, yet when she replies its always to say she's down. I've also noticed that if I text her "wanna come over and watch a movie" she'll say no because apparently its too forced, however if we go out and I offer her a lift home and then say she can stay with me she will.
I'm just confused why she intentionally doesn't reply for ages if I ask to hang out when she could easily just give me an answer, yet its clearly not to avoid me because she always agrees to it. I also don't get why when she's at her happiest and most obviously into me she then takes a mood jump off a cliff and acts like I just kicked her cat?
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She wants to be a hoe but not look like one. This is how most of these modern women operate unfortunately. And be careful with your feelings. There's no guarantee she's not talking to other guys. "When a girl is really into you and means to have a future with you. There will be no doubt." She will open up to you, more than you even want. She'll become annoying. That's when you know.
She's straight out using you. If a girl doesn't want you to touch her it's because she doesn't find you attractive. She doesn't want to seem like a couple but she wants to confuse you so you could keep on giving her free stuff.
See, we're from the same friend group and originally we began making out and what not casually and would sext a lot. Time went on and she told her friends she liked me and she was enamoured pretty much. Then one day she got in her feels in her car and admitted that she likes me and likes being with me. After that she began acting cold and distant around people despite previously always wanting to talk to me and even telling our friends she likes me. She was very slow to show affection like hand holding etc and it eventually blew up.
I didn't mention it but I seen her in a bar one night and she was kinda tipsy maybe 3 weeks ago and we had a short chat before she apologised and said she played too hard to get with me and regrets it, just didn't know what to do
On one hand I get the vibes that I'm being used and on the other I get the vibes that she doesn't want to show she likes me for some reason it's very odd. Regardless I'm talking yo other people and am not hung up on her, I was just hoping someone could help me understand what she's doing
Building your relationship on sex or sexting isn't healthy. She sounds like she likes "having fun" with you but she doesn't take you seriously.
She doesn't want to be used for sex.
she's super excited to hang with you but again not for sex
See that's what confuses me😂 I'm terrified to try hold her hand or cuddle her or something because I feel like she'll give me that look, yet I also don't want to ask her on a date because the last time I did she said she wasn't interested in a relationship and just wants to be friends, yet the night we had sex she said she played too hard to get when we dated and apologised. I just don't know where I stand but I can't ask or I seem needy. She says she only wants to be friends, yet her actions say otherwise but she also doesn't want me to act on anything hahaha
Lol weird. In that case let her lead then. Dont call seldome text. Then if she questions why you arnt doing this or that let her know your concerms