Why can’t women ask guys out?

[OddBeMe]

Just seems like some traditions should end. Men can still offer to buy drinks, but ladies: be a bit braver. Walk a mile in our shoes.

[Stoner710]

They can, It’s traditional a sigh of emotional maturity for men to do the asking. But especially since the Metoo movement guys don’t want to ask girls out.

for the record. Yes what Harvey Winestein Bill Cosby Joe Biden all deserves to be in prison. Someone like Aziz Ansari who had consensual sex with a women who regrets it the next day isn’t rape same with Brett Kavanaugh. If I remember right there was a CEO got metoo for putting his hand are a women’s shoulder when she asked him for help with her computer and in order to see the screen better he put his hand on her shoulder for balance and he leaned in to get a better look at the computer. This is why we’re not seeing the younger generation date and instead cut off there generals because of a cultural fad and end up regretting what they did. So in to days era women should be asking guys out more because of that meto movement (some of me to was good a lot was bad and went to far)

[OddBeMe]

But not Trump with 22 accusers?

[Stoner710]

Yes trump was garbage with women. Not sure if it was actually sexual assault and he was just a powerful guy and women slept with him to get a position in his company or on the apprentice but yes he was bad with women. Of course he never digitally raped a woman outside the halls of Congress like Biden did. And I’m pretty sure Joe molested Ashley Biden I have no proof of that, but it’s weird that he took showers with her at age 12 and the FBI raided project veritas in order to get the diary back

[ShellyB]

Women CAN ask guys out. I can tell you why I never have as an example, I think probably a common example but I can't speak for every woman.

First of all I get asked out more than I can accept already, this was especially true when I was in college, it is less true now that I live with my fiance, wear an engagement ring and work from home most of the time after covid but it still happens sometimes.

Second I feel like, and I know people may disagree with this, if I ask a guy out two things might happen and neither is great. Either he will reject me, or, he will accept but then our relationship will always be off because of me appearing too easy or desperate or whatever.

I am surprised that this topic comes up so often on this board, I can see how it might seem wrong or confusing to teenagers but I would think people over about 19 or 20 would know that this is a common way of looking at it even if they look at it differently. JMO!

[Emiliamazing]

We certainly can ask guys out. We can make it very obvious that we are interested. The challenge arises because every man is going to interpret our intentions differently. If I asked three different guys on a date, they are all going to have a different impression. The first guy might think I'm desperate or easy to get in bed. The second might think I'm some overbearing dominant woman. And the third I think "gosh I'm so glad she asked me out because I wasn't sure if she was actually interested". All three of these situations mate lead to more dates, but they also change the expectation. If a guy asks me out, obviously, those thoughts are going to run through my mind, but not to the same degree that they would run through his. It puts me at less of a risk of being misunderstood when he does the asking.

[Paul09]

Oh man I'd be so impressed if a woman I was interested in , cane up to me and asked me out. Stress levels would drop, happiness would rise do high. We are all grown ass adults. Both sides should be able to do it.

[kay1315]

Well I’ve tried to talk to guys first, approach them first and all. Sometimes it worked sometimes it didn’t. I approached a guy first and everything went great but then he got super clingy on me lol. Other times I feel like the men thought I was desperate or something which was not the case, so I never asked a guy out because of that.

[Magosmall06]

I do. But if a guy tries to get me to chase then I won’t because I don’t like games

[EmmaMary]

Well, well, well, I never knew we couldn't! 🤔

[Nikki1989]

I haven't done it much because I never needed to.

[Djaay]

They never needed to want you either.

[Asad1ONE1]

@Djaay bro this girl isn't fooling anyone. She knows all too well that men don't even look at (yet alone approach) women these days.

Women really are screwed. They are at the mercy of men.

Unwanted attention is another story 😂

[Djaay]

I know that.

[Juxtapose]

Yeah I wish they would do that more too. I get a lot further with women who approach me first vs me attempting to figure out how to approach women when I'm fucking autistic.

[Miristheiss]

Because many women choose not to. Outside of that. Nothing stops them.

[Sevenpointfive]

women do ask out guys. they are either good looking or have money.

[LiamJHayden]

They can but not being accustomed to the rejections that many guys are, they might back off after a few rejections.

[warsevf]

They do actually, but mostly when alone i guess, i saw them do it. I guess social fear holds them back.

[msc545]

They can, but they mostly will not. Not sure why that is.

[TheAfrikan]

A woman who would do that, might be seen as starving by most of the guys. so they stay away.

[Anonymous]

It's not that they can't, they just don't due to a combination of entitlement and cowardice.

[whereismyjohnny]

Who says we can't? 😂

[NathanDavis]

they do...

in my case

[LazerBean]

We can.

[ERB62]

They can