Girls, Does my coworker like me romantically or is she just being friendly?

[zaragozautebo]

When I started working with her I actually didn't like her. I thought she was rude and cold. But as we got to know each other she became warmer with me. Sometimes she would rest her hand on mine for a second or two during conversations and often get really physically close when sitting or standing. When I asked her questions about herself she would smile bashfully and open her legs quite wide in front of me while she was talking. When I confided in her that I liked another woman but I was rejected, her body language closed and she looked uncomfortable, moving away from me slightly. She would avoid talking about it after that even if I alluded to it in conversation, but her body language became more intimate. She would often send me cute messages with lots of stickers and emojis and always replied quickly to my messages with quite long responses. I suspect she's married but she may be divorced. She NEVER says anything about a husband and rarely if ever talks about her kids. I've been wrong about things like this before but it seems she likes me. If she turns out to be married I won't be going there.

[SueShe]

I believe that you overthink the entire situation. She is being friendly and nothing more.

Remember that the first impression of a person is always the most important one. You disliked her in the beginning and you subconscious analyzed her in a fraction of a second.

It is not because you are socially interacting with her now that your subconscious has changed its opinion. You would like it to be but it is not.

She is giving you mixed signals and that confuses you. That is perfectly normal and is a warning signal. Furthermore, you never ever get intimate with work colleagues as this causes so much problems. Your co-workers may get jealous, your work quality may diminish and you potentially will not be unbiased anymore.

Keep your fingers off of her and treat her no different than any other colleagues. The fact that she does not tell you anything important about her private life is a hidden signal to keep your distance.

[Enaya]

I am the woman in a similar scenario with a guy who I butted heads with when we started working together and now clearly have a mutual crush situation. He's taken so I mostly avoid him. But he stares a lot. I think your instinct may be correct.

[Anonymous]

Damn, are 42 or 12?

[zaragozautebo]

What? Your IQ?