Why do I get so anxious when the person I like takes hours to respond?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

It is common to feel anxious when someone you like takes a long time to respond to your messages or calls. This feeling of anxiety can be related to a few different factors:

Fear of rejection: You may worry that the other person is not interested in you or is avoiding you, and this can trigger feelings of rejection or insecurity.

Uncertainty: When someone takes a long time to respond, it can create uncertainty and ambiguity, which can make you feel anxious and uneasy.

Attachment style: Your attachment style may also play a role in how you respond to delays in communication from someone you like. If you have an anxious attachment style, you may be more prone to anxiety and worry when there is a perceived threat to the relationship.

Excessive reliance on technology: In today's digital age, we are often used to receiving instant feedback and responses, which can make delays in communication feel particularly frustrating and anxiety-provoking.

If you find yourself getting anxious when someone you like takes a long time to respond, it may be helpful to take a step back and examine your feelings and reactions. Try to identify the underlying fears or insecurities that may be driving your anxiety, and consider talking to a trusted friend or therapist about your feelings. It may also be helpful to set healthy boundaries around your communication with the other person and to focus on building your own self-esteem and confidence. Remember that healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, trust, and open communication, and that it is important to prioritize your own well-being and emotional needs.

[Asker]

Thank you this was super helpful. I have noticed I have been getting a lot more anxious with this attachment then I usually do. I used to be very chill and like being independent when dating. But I think because it’s the first time I’ve had feelings for someone in a long time I’m really worried. I think once I know where I stand with him I’ll be able to relax again it’s just the fear of not knowing if the feelings are returned that’s getting to me

[misogynistic_pig]

It is common to feel anxiety when the person we like is slow to respond to a message or call, especially if we are waiting for an important response or if we are interested in the person romantically.

There are several reasons why this can occur:

Insecurity: It is possible that you feel insecure in the relationship and that the delay in the other person's response increases your feeling of vulnerability.

There may also be an underlying fear that the other person is not interested or is talking to other people.

Expectations: There may be expectations that the other person will respond immediately due to previous patterns of communication or because they have done so in the past.

Need for connection: In an age of instant communication, it's easy to feel a constant need to connect with others, especially those who are important to us.

The delay in the response of the person we like can increase the feeling of disconnection or rejection.

It is important to remember that each person has their own pace of communication and that there are many reasons why someone might be slow to respond.

Instead of focusing on the lack of response, try to focus on other activities that you enjoy and that make you feel good about yourself.

It's also important to have open communication with the other person to make sure you both have the same expectations and are communicating effectively.

[Beatrix7]

because u love them hunni i felt the same way when i was with my boyfriend i felt like i wasn't good enough for him sometimes he could be busy but mine took ages to answer to my text when it got further into the relashionship and i was answering to his right away i felt like i cared more but i found out mines was cheating on me thats why i was getting rege ted for ages maybe hours but am not saying thats what yours is doing hunni dont let him get to u uwl be ok ma dear be patient with things and go out distract ureself from getting anxious watch funny movies i know exactly how you feel its because u love him sweety thats how i was anxious to

[itsalyssaagain]

Because it makes you question whether they’re interested or not and if you’re wasting your time.


I think it’s best to decide based on how they interact with you in real life and also the fact that they’re messaging you should reflect whether they’re interested or not.


Lastly this is a totally normal symptom of liking someone lol

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Because you want to feel wanted and loved.

I remember wanting the same thing. Then something absolutely horrific happened to me. The worst thing that could ever happen to anyone, and I came to an understanding about life. None of it matters. You don't matter. I don't matter. Literally nothing matters in this life. Not even family.

Coming to that realization is surprisingly liberating. The way you view the world is completely different and you can finally find true peace.

My girl could cheat on me with my best friend and I'd just look at her and smile. That's how fucking incredible it is.

Hope you never have to learn the same lesson, but also pray that you do

[Adam1978]

I don't know why you use a communication system that doesn't match what you want. If you want instant reply, call them don't use text. Text is a answer when you can, useally within a day. So hours waiting should be expected.

[Guy13]

lack of discipline and if we get vibe of it then Read and Ghost right around the corner.

[Pinay_ako]

You got too much time on your hands which could be a turn off to some people.

[spartan55]

You can eliminate that by calling instead.

[Anonymous]

I don't know.

[Asker]

Then why comment on the question. I don’t mean this in a rude way I’ve just been seeing answers like this a lot lately and GAG is meant to be a safe space to ask questions and get actual answers

[Opinion Owner]

When you ask a question that no one in the world knows the answer to except you, what do you expect? It's like asking: "Why don't I know what color is my favorite?"

[Asker]

I didn’t know the answer until I got help from someone above. So you obviously assumed wrong. People ask questions to help get other peoples opinions or advice and clear their heads so they can then come back and understand. Even the why don’t I know what colour is my favourite can be answered