Can a heartbreak have its advantages?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I was 25, and still wore pink glasses, I think it was right about the time to have my first heartbreak.

I think this heartbreak while as devastating and gut-wrenching as it seemed at that time, gave me something - wisdom, more knowledge about myself, life, people, love, psychology.

Most importantly it taught me that you can survive anything, if I could survive that pain without my heart stopping, then I can survive anything. At that time I thought maybe if I’d go to sleep I’d die, because my heart literally hurt for days, my eyes hurt from crying and at some point I couldn’t even cry anymore, it was like my tears got dry. That was the lowest I’ve been.

But, but, but… Just right after the time I thought I would die, I still managed to get up, I still learned to smile, be happy, live in the moment, dance, kiss, trust, go on adventures, even get tired of having fun.

Isn’t it amazing to be able to be happy after you’ve experienced the biggest pain in your life?

Also, isn’t it wonderful that you still don’t know what the life had in store for you, then you have a chance to fall in love again, you have a chance to feel butterflies in your stomach again, you have a chance to choose again, choose more wisely this time, while also respecting and cherishing the beautiful tale you lived in the past, but you can go on and live a life, again.

It’s like a chance to experience more, my ex fiancé wanted to marry me, the marriage would be the end of my crazy adventures with my friends, now I am free and can go anywhere I want without having a single worry. I can flirt with anyone I want, dance with anyone I want, I can just do anything as long as I like it.

So, heartbreak might as well be the chance to more experiences, more love and a fuller life.

So, when you get older you’ll have beautiful stories to tell, not just one beautiful story.

[dynamicyandere]

Yes it can.


Like you said, now you have more wisdom, more knowledge about yourself, life, people, love, and psychology.


Heartbreaks feel horrible, especially if it was a relationship you poured your heart and soul into.


Those relationships where you’re extremely invested and they’re gone.


If you were truly invested and vulnerable with that person, it’s going to feel devastating if it ends.


But, on the bright side, it give you the opportunity to have some deep reflection, to learn about yourself, to learn about relationships, to grow.


You can turn something bad into something good, if you use that experience as something that can help you self-actualize.


It gives you perspective on what’s important to you, what you want to avoid, how you want your partner to treat you, and how you want to treat your partner.


With every hardship we face in life, there are lessons we can learn, as long as we look for them.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I always read your responses with great interest and they are always very helpful 🤍

[dynamicyandere]

I’m glad you find my responses helpful. 😊 I wish the best for you. 🤍

[Anonymous]

Yes, a heartbreak can have its advantages. While it can be an incredibly painful and difficult experience, it can also provide an opportunity for growth, self-discovery, and learning.

Through a heartbreak, we can gain a deeper understanding of ourselves, our emotions, and our relationships. We can learn to recognize our own needs and boundaries, and to communicate them effectively with others. We can also gain wisdom and empathy, as we learn to empathize with others who have gone through similar experiences.

Additionally, a heartbreak can provide an opportunity to reassess our priorities and goals, and to focus on what truly matters to us. It can be a chance to let go of relationships that no longer serve us, and to embrace new opportunities and experiences.

Ultimately, a heartbreak can be a catalyst for transformation and growth, leading us to a richer and more fulfilling life. While it may be painful in the moment, it can ultimately lead to a deeper sense of self-awareness, self-love, and resilience.

[LovingJo]

Yes, it teaches us what we don't want, and what we need to learn from.

[LovingJo]

Thanks for the MHO 😘

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Only if the outcome from getting over it is positive.

[lightbulb27]

Yes. No one asks for heartbreak, it's generally not deserved [ok I can argue that... bare with me], and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. But it is the deeper emotions and motivations that leads to change, and the change brings out new you, a new life can spring forth.

A buddy of mine just went under the knife again to repair a surgery that wasn't done right. That's what it is... some stuff wasn't right inside, and it had to be fixed. only way to fix it, was to open up the old wounds.

There's some heartbreak that seemingly has no value. This is where we are reminded... we are not in control, and to be thankful for all we do have. This is where religions spring forth to make sense of and soothe the soul when we all face an end... and thus a new beginning we don't understand.

[Still-alive]

oh absolutely.. if you are introspective and aware enough you can use this heartbreak as a way to change your life forever for the good..

or if not it also has the potential to turn you bitter. i've also seen people let themselves go or turn to drugs or alcohol use. its yin or yang really.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

The only good thing about the most broken your heart can get (your partner dying), is that nothing else compares to it. My current girlfriend could cheat on me and I honestly wouldn't even care.
No amount of pain can hold a candle to what I've already endured, so that's a silver lining to it for sure. It makes you pretty numb to everything else

[clampfan101]

My girlfriend passed away over 10 years ago, and I still haven’t found any of those upsides. And I much would have preferred having one beautiful successful story rather than multiple stories of failures. I’m glad you found happiness, but I have yet to find any. 😔

[RomeoFantasy]

Please try grief therapy..

[clampfan101]

@RomeoFantasy I’m ready to move on. I just haven’t found anyone yet.

[Pegases]

Agreed. It was a woman that changed practically everything about the way I viewed life. Moving past that experience was one of the hardest things I've done, but I couldn't be more grateful for it.

[AdithyaR]

Definitely has advantages.
It taught me not to try again so that I don't need to feel the pain again.

[msc545]

Heartbreak is the world's way of reminding you that not everything you think is good is actually good and you probably ought to take a closer look at the next thing that comes along.

[KrakenAttackin]

Fucking hell, so you got dumped, you had a tiny taste of what men go through 100 times in life. It's not a biblical event.

[Bklynbadboy12]

You said your first heartbreak how many times has your heart been broken

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Just once. I was 25, I turned 26 4 months ago.

[Bklynbadboy12]

How did he hurt you what happened

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He was my fiancé and he broke up with me saying he wanted to explore more since I was his first girl. We broke up 7 months ago after 3.3 years relationship Then I found out he started dating someone else.

[RomeoFantasy]

Interestingly " Pain and Joy " Or 💜 Read quotes when you know you'll endure moments. Find some logic, learning can comfort.

[marish01]

Never experienced it. Hopefully never will.