Why is human nature so messed up that we only want what we're lacking?

[Anonymous]

There is this girl that constantly replies to my messages, she is available, she wants to hang out, but because of that I feel that there is something wrong with her and I am disgusted by her. There is this other girl who rarely replies to my texts, but something draws me to her and I think she knows her priorities and every time she texts me I feel so good and I want to be with her. What is wrong with human nature since almost everyone wants what they don't have.

[Anonymous]

The tendency to want what we don't have is a common human trait that is influenced by a variety of factors, including social conditioning, personal values, and individual experiences. For example, in some societies or cultures, there may be a greater emphasis placed on individualism and pursuing one's own goals and aspirations, which can lead to a desire for what is perceived as scarce or hard to obtain. Additionally, personal experiences such as past successes or failures, relationships, and social interactions can also influence our desires and motivations.

It's important to be aware of these tendencies and to strive for balance in our desires and priorities. It's also important to recognize the value of what we already have and to appreciate the people and experiences in our lives. When it comes to relationships, it's important to focus on building connections and mutual respect, rather than solely pursuing what seems difficult or hard to obtain. It's okay to have preferences and desires, but it's also important to be mindful of our motivations and to strive for healthy, balanced relationships with others.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Can't say I relate you on that one. I'm more interested in the ones who put in the effort and actually want to talk to me. If a girl is ignoring me, fuck her

I think that might come from a place of egotism on my part

[On_cloud_wine]

The less available girl seems more attractive because she doesn’t play games, she’s a mystery with priorities and you’re def not her top priority right now

[Asker]

I don't even want to be her top priority unless we get closer. It would be something wrong if she was obsessed with me since we've known each other for a month.

[On_cloud_wine]

She’s not obsessed with you

[On_cloud_wine]

It takes time to get to know someone. Perhaps she’s not the hopeless romantic and knows the difference between love and infatuation

[NamerOfStars]

Logic- think about what would happen if we didn't: we'd be content with what we had, and never take the insane risks that took us down from the trees, let alone across the planet.

[Asker]

Yes, you're right, but shouldn't humans want to preserve what they already have as well?

[NamerOfStars]

As a species? Yes. As a culture? Sure. As individuals? Yes, but less so- and evolution doesn't reward conservatism, it rewards (successful) experimentation.

Horseshoe crabs have been around in basically their current form for three quarters of the time there have been animals on Earth; they literally predate TREES. But they're an exception- almost everything else has undergone multiple enormous changes.

[gag36627]

IKR. this happened to me. I always distrusted her because of it. And the ones who avoided me. I was always thinking of them. We do have some issues I guess