So I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now, he’s 36 and I’m 27, when I got with him he was a playboy and has told me he’s slept with over 100 people (this obviously doesn’t define who he is as I chose to get into a relationship with him) however he works hard 5 days a week and then plans things with friends etc and I only ask to have one weekend of a month for him to do something and his answer is always that he sees me in the week so wants to go out every weekend with friends, I see him when I ask in the week and I have to go to him and spend time with him and his brother which I do enjoy obviously but isn’t just our time, he then tells me he has no money etc but I see his receipts when going out spending £250+ per round, I appreciate how hard he works but just feel like I am only fun for him to be around when he has nothing better to do, I have spoken to him about it and he says I can’t dictate what he does but I never want to do this I just want some separate time to be appreciated, I feel past the stage of going out all the time drinking it’s nice every so often but I’d take a night at home with him anyway
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It’s not even just about weekends I have spoken to him about numerous things as I really care about him and want a future with him but nothing changes, for example I’ve spoken about our sex life being quite boring, we have sex often but I feel like it’s just for him as he does nothing to pleasure me despite me brining it up and trying different things. I do try often to talk to make things better but just get told I’m arguing
I didn’t even read your whole post but can you please explain why you are choosing to stay with a guy like this? He clearly isn’t going to stay faithful to you if he has been playing girls his whole life
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If he isn't giving you what you want in the relationship, you should not stick around if he can't be bothered to spend his weekends with you.
Yep, you two want different things for sure. Now it’s a matter of what that’s gonna mean for you going forward.
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The vibe I get is that he doesn't perceive you as his girlfriend, just some side-fun.
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