I have a female manager that is younger than me. Every time I come around she messes with her hair. Is she nervous around me or flirting with me?

[Anonymous]

I have a female manager that is younger than me. Every time I come around she mess with her hair.

One of my rules is never date a coworker. I work where mostly college kids go for work.

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I'm kinda like a lone wolf type and I'm kinda shy as well.

[Anonymous]

It’s hard to say for sure whether she is nervous or flirting with you based solely on the fact that she messes with her hair when you're around. Hair twirling or fidgeting can be a sign of nervousness or anxiety, but it can also be a habit or a way to relieve stress.

If you're not interested in dating a coworker, it's important to maintain professional boundaries and not read too much into small behaviors like hair twirling. It's possible that she's just trying to be friendly or professional, and interpreting her behavior as flirtatious could create an uncomfortable situation.

If you're concerned that her behavior is affecting your work or making you uncomfortable, it may be worth having a conversation with her or bringing it up with HR. However, if you feel that her behavior is harmless and you're not interested in pursuing anything beyond a professional relationship, it's best to focus on your work and not get caught up in speculation about her intentions.

[ColHathi]

Don't know, but I'd wonder about the same thing I think, in your situation.

[Thatpearl26]

Maybe. If she’s nervous there are easy ways to tell just observe tiny things like twisting a hairband on her wrist, shaking hands, moving her fingers, clasping and unclasping hands, can’t stay still, hops from one leg to the other. Easy ways to figure out if someone likes you is to observe them if you look for the right signs you can figure out if she’s just nervous because she doesn’t really know you.

[Adaeva]

Don't get fired for sexual harassment. Never be alone with her and interact as little as possible.,

[In_Trance]

Nope