There's this girl at work let's call her K and she's always so rude to me out of no where yet is super nice to everyone else.
I first met K when I first started my job. I was trained with her older sister as she mentioned but a lot of her family have worked at the company so she's well known. Ks sister was super kind to me as I was really shy when I first started, she really looked after me and we promised each other but once are training was over we'd look out for each other.
Ks sister never passed her training as she had a panic attack and said she couldn't go on any longer and that she needed to get better mentally again before she started work again. The whole time she was telling me this k was there and another woman. Turns out most the woman in family have mental health issues due to the fact there's been a large amount of miscarriages amongst them all including K.
K had a miscarriage at 16 but now has two other children with health issues.
I've been nothing but nice to K and I get on really well with her partner who also works at the company. He's super friendly with everyone and supposedly so is K not but I've ever seen it.
In her job role at work she's meant to help anyone whose struggle or needs something passing through to management. Whenever I come to her for help she walks away from me or gives me attitude. She's always super hostile towards me and trys to bring me down and make me look stupid when I'm been nothing but polite to her.
I'm always so shy around her because of this. Everyone else at work thinks she's lovely and is surprised when i say I think she hates me and that I don't really like her much because of the why she treats me.
I'm also pretty popular at work and get on with most people. I sometimes wounder is she's jealous of me because I come from a bit more of a well to do background then her or its because I make her do her job
You should have seen her face when my manager was asking me about my moving my dates for my new house. K is from a town were most people live In concil estates whilst I've lived in actual estates. I think she knows I'm not local and thinks I'm not one of them because I've had a more privileged upbringing but I don't see myself as better than anyone else and mingle with everyone
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It's difficult to say what might be causing K's behavior towards you without more information. However, it's important to remember that her behavior is not about you, but rather reflects something going on within her own life or mindset.
Given her family's history with mental health issues and miscarriages, it's possible that K is dealing with her own emotional struggles that are affecting her behavior towards you. It's also possible that she may feel threatened or insecure in some way, leading her to act out towards you.
Regardless of the underlying cause, it's important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and set boundaries if K's behavior is making you uncomfortable or upset. You may want to talk to a supervisor or HR representative at work if her behavior continues to be a problem, or consider limiting your interactions with her if possible.
Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, and it's okay to prioritize your own emotional well-being in any situation.
As for me I like getting to the bottom of a bucket of clams & after I read your story the bottom was reached after you stated MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES. Your co worker has beef & you may thing it’s with you however that beef is in her head.
As for me I say kill her with kindness & do your job & if she doesn’t like it or like you who cares.
I don’t think you did anything wrong, maybe she’s just jealous. You’re kind as you are and you’re just fine and aren’t do anything to her! Just ignore her and try to not let her get to you. 💙