I'm seriously considering doing HRT and gender reassignment surgeries to become a woman because being a man today sucks. Thoughts on me doing this?

[smartman12]

[Spongebobssocks]

That won't make you a woman though.. why do you feel the need for women to know your struggle as a man?

Every human being goes through some struggle in life. You need to turn your struggle into a motivation to get better. Dont act like this

[smartman12]

I know it won't. It will just make me look like one. Honestly, I've had a rough past and present. I'm tired and depressed for having gone nowhere. I view transitioning as a way to become a different person. Right now, I see no way out of being unemployed or attracting any women. I'm ready to make a radical change even if it means having permanent, life-changing surgery.

[Spongebobssocks]

Okay you say you are unemployed. How are you living? Are you living at a friends place or with your parents?

[smartman12]

I'm living in a house my parents bought me.

[Spongebobssocks]

Okay cool. So first off start searching jobs now. Literally now and get s membership to your closest Gym.

[smartman12]

I've been looking for a job for close to a year now and have had a gym membership, which have used, since June 2022.

[Spongebobssocks]

Okay then contact a requiter on LinkedIn. The once who work with hiring people for different companies. Contact as many as possible. And just message them a short, simple message that you are searching for jobs.

[smartman12]

I have several contacts on LinkedIn but most won't reply to my messages.

[Spongebobssocks]

alright well do your best

[smartman12]

Do my best at what?

[Spongebobssocks]

getting a job

[smartman12]

I've been trying for almost 1 year. Until this month, I had 2 interviews. I'm waiting to hear back from 2 employers. If neither of these interviews don't result in an offer, I'm thinking about taking my life. I can't deal with never having a career, unemployment, and being single anymore.

[Spongebobssocks]

Calm down. Then there is something wrong with your resume. I happily help you with writing a resume. Just message me here the link to your resume and I'll help you

[smartman12]

I had someone re-write my resume earlier this year. It's my work record continuing to haunt me.

[Spongebobssocks]

message me if you want help

[Spongebobssocks]

Thankyou AI!🙏🏻

[smartman12]

Help with my resume, help transitioning, or help some other way?

[Spongebobssocks]

Help resumé

[Anonymous]

How would that solve anything? You say you’re unemployed and overlooked by attractive women. You think transitioning is going to get you a job or attractive women interested in you? Really? I don’t understand your thought process here.

[smartman12]

It's because I'm mentally messed up and traumatized by past events. For example, in 2021, I was shot, got in 2 car accidents (one where I totalled my car), got fired from a job, and had several women reject me. It messed me up pretty bad. Being unemployed for 1 year has my situation worse.

[Smashingdoozy]

Uh no. You wouldn't even pass the process that you need to go through to get your hands on the medication.

[smartman12]

At this point, I'd lie to go on HRT. As long as the end result is better than fixing my current situation without involving HRT or surgeries.

[Smashingdoozy]

Therapists will see right through that.

[smartman12]

Well, I could always jump off a building then as part of giving up. People in the past have done that when one thing after another didn't work out.

[Smashingdoozy]

Or just talk to a therapist about your struggles... Probably a lot easier process than your other suggestions

[smartman12]

I've been in therapy since 2005.

[Smashingdoozy]

Then start using the therapy. Actually listen. It won't work unless you actually use it.

[EmmaMary]

Grass isn't always greener on the other side!

[smartman12]

Being unemployed and overlooked by attractive women is absolutely depressing and demoralizing. It can't be worse than that can it?

[EmmaMary]

Perhaps you should start taking some notes of the excellent suggestions that @spongebobssocks is advising.

You might also consider seeking out some course of therapy or counseling to try and get yourself back on track, and to stop being so completely negative.

[Spongebobssocks]

Thank you. You're advice is great too:) @EmmaMary

[LazerBean]

Go ahead and do that, you aren't much of a man anyway.

[smartman12]

Specifically, what makes you say that I'm not much of a man?

[Anonymous]

LMAO, good plan!