I'm going to become a woman, and it's stressing me out a bit. What advice do you have to ensure that my operation and everything else goes smoothly?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

“I'm going to become a woman, and it's stressing me out a bit. What advice do you have to ensure that my operation and everything else goes smoothly?”

So, assuming you thought carefully about the decision and the impact it will have on you as a person, assuming you have gone through therapist to therapist / doctor to doctor about your gender dysphoria and had dreams of being a woman (like actually dreams) and all these through years n years of progress / mental struggle to find who you are under the surface then this response is for you.

You are a woman in your heart, mind, soul and soon of body too. You want to take the inner part and show it to the world which I understand from empathy & compassion. The surgery will go smoothly and everything will be clear, if you are freaking out just call it off and push it back or try to dress like a woman more so than actually removing any part of yourself if you feel that is going too far. Again, think before you go through it and once you find your answer you have found the truth within yourself & you will be happy with the decision you make as a 25-29 yr old woman.

[Anonymous]

I’m going to assume you’re a clown making fun of the mentally ill amd want a question that will get ridiculous answers.

🙄 anyway, incase you really ARE metally ill,

let me inform you that;

You can’t become a woman unless you were a girl. The left tried to support your mental illness to make you believe otherwise but it’s a lie. You can’t.

Only girls become women as adults.

you can do all the operations you want and wear all the makeup you want and still not be a woman

even if you start to “appear” like one, you will never be a woman.

You will never have a real pussy. You will have a hole 🕳️ that will repeatedly try to close itself because it’s a hole and the body tries to repair itself, so you will be forced to dilate for the rest of your life or else your body naturally will close that hole which is just an injury.
thats IF you actually even did the surgery to begin with.

In addition,
having boobs doesn’t make you a woman, having feminine facial surgery doesn’t make you a woman , faking a voice also doesn’t make you a woman,

you can however pretend to be a woman and if that makes you happen then go for it,

but you will never be a woman

unless you were born a girl.

All girls become women unless they die before adulthood.

[Asker]

I've already explained my situation so many time , on another question but as I can't share the link because I'm only at level 2, I'll quickly explain it again here.

I'm Turkish, military service is compulsory in my country, to avoid service I said I was a trans woman, but my government consequently demanded that I take the necessary steps to become a woman because that's what I said.

[Opinion Owner]

💀💀uuuuuu

[Asker]

It really sucks that military service is mandatory, I'd like it to be like in the U. S. where we're given the choice.

Honestly, when I told this lie, I didn't think that my government would demand this of me. I tricked myself with this lie. And now I have to become a transgender woman.

[Opinion Owner]

🥴….

[MaryJane330]

He told his government that he was a trans woman to avoid military service (he is Turkish as he indicated in several comments), it is normal that his government requires him to become a woman.

[Tamera952]

Hope you’ve researched everything to the fullest including personally talking to those who’ve had such surgeries — but I take it for granted that you probably have done that. I mean, aside from the obvious, which is just be sure this is what you want. Other than that, I can’t think of any advice. Hope it goes well, & has the outcome that you want. I wish you all the best luck & warm wishes.
(PS: if that picture above is you, then you should have no problem fitting in as a woman, because you are gorgeous)

[Asker]

Thank you very much, but no, that's not me in the picture

I'm Turkish, military service is compulsory in my country, to avoid service I said I was a trans woman, but my government consequently demanded that I take the necessary steps to become a woman because that's what I said.

[Tamera952]

Woah, sounds like you have some serious decisions to make in that case.

[Asker]

It really sucks that military service is mandatory, I'd like it to be like in the U. S. where we're given the choice.

Honestly, when I told this lie, I didn't think that my government would demand this of me. I tricked myself with this lie. And now I have to become a woman.

If you have any advice on how I can learn to be feminine etc I'd love to hear from you.

[MaryJane330]

He told his government that he was a trans woman to avoid military service (he is Turkish as he indicated in several comments), it is normal that his government requires him to become a woman.

[lightbulb27]

sounds like a mistake, will have to upgrade your whole wardrobe $$,$$$, walk in tiny shoes that ruin your feet. When you menstruate and hormones swing, you'll be more moody than ever. It's really not nice to deal with, guys just put up with it, it's not fun. Then there's the long hair... requires more water and soap to wash that leads to wasted energy and climate change. Lastly, all that makeup and junk products you gotta buy to be a woman... expensive, hours out of your day. As a short haired dude, you just walk out the door. easy peasy.

stay a dude, it's better. you can sit with your legs open, be vulgar if you want and laugh about it, even smell bad... it's normal... there's lots of benefits if ya think about it.

[FunkyMonkee]

Trans women don't have periods and there's no such thing as climate change.

[Shiface92]

Men don’t get periods not even if they operate to become “women”

[lightbulb27]

@Shiface92 oh fuhey, we can send a monkey around the moon but not turn a man into a woman with all the fixins? Then he cannot be a woman. If he must, he can carry around a vial of blood and just leach it out into his pants in secret and complain he just had his "thing", take some medicine that makes him more touchy (e. g. bitchy), in a pinch, some ants in the pants will work or a bad rash. He has to step up to the fact of being a woman in all ways, else not and shouldn't kid self. Playing dress up is for kids. And he better carry around a 20lb "baby" of water and stuff under his shirt in a balloon. What else is required, you are a woman, not me? Oh yea... he needs to complain how cold it is in the house and turn the temp up to 85deg.

[Asker]

@Shiface92 I'm Turkish, military service is compulsory in my country, to avoid service I said I was a trans woman, but my government consequently demanded that I take the necessary steps to become a woman because that's what I said.

[Ironco]

What's so bad about going into the military?
I did, it was a good experience and time. Yes I went through ugly difficult times while in, but came out a better person because of it.

[lightbulb27]

oh. You know there is a comedy show about this same thing and a character named corporal Klinger.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ad3qEFJCTew
It's been done before.
I don't know how awful military service is, but maybe it's better to go in and make it better for everyone else rather than avoiding. In some cases, I might do the same... like if I had to live on a submarine. But I'd become a dog instead, it's easier than female. When they order you to do something, you bite their shoe off and then run and grab a stick.

[Asker]

The situation in Turkey sucks, and if you want my point of view military service shouldn't be compulsory.

When I told this lie to my government I didn't think they would ask me for proof and act accordingly.

[lightbulb27]

I see. It's a tough spot.
Governments don't care what you think, they are about power and control. Weve had this situation in Germany, USA, and other countries various times... some people left the country and some went to jail. Like Muhammed Ali, a professional fighter from usa.
In Turkey, I'd probably just serve. maybe you will get lucky.

[Asker]

If I say I lied to avoid military service, I'll go to prison.

[lightbulb27]

say you decided to stay a male after talking to some people about how awful women are, and thus you are excited to serve your great country! Tell them you are thankful women aren't controlling those nuclear weapons, they are crazy. Makeup your own but stick to it. Maybe you were delerious?
If they say send you to prison, then say... it's your choice but it's a waste of time and money because I can't wait to go to work serving my country.
I wish you luck!

[RiseofArtemis]

I don't know, I'm not aware of a surgical operation that can change your XY Cromosomes to XX cromosomes. If there is one do tell me, but only if it makes you able to be an actual woman that can give birth and has everything women suffer with. Because you will never. You are still a Man and that's all you will be, no mater how much you delude yourself. Learn to accept your body as what it is and get some real help for your mental illness. Most people who do change their gender or try to usualy end with Suicide.

[FunkyMonkee]

I've got a few trans friends and, so far, all they said was that you're going from, a low maintenance body to a high maintenance body. Supposedly, the pain in the ass, after the healing, is the bit where you have to put that "dildo" in you for a while every day. I forget the word they use for that. I hear, you'll have to do it for the rest of your life but, I don't know how often.
If that's you in the pic, looks like the mones have already given you a nice set of tits and you already look like you won't need any more facial help.
Good luck on your transition! I hope it all goes well for you!!

[PeachyPie93]

Just do your mandatory military service.. If you are Muslim changing into a girl is haram since you aren't supposed to mutilate your body. But I assume it is more likely you are just trolling because who who go through with something like this unless they are retarded LOL

[Asker]

You do know that Turkey is a secular state, don't you? And no, I'm not a Muslim

[PeachyPie93]

I see.. well you still sound like a dumbass..

[Asker]

If I tell my government that I lied, they'll sentence me to prison for evading my civic duty, and then I'll be sent to military service.

[PeachyPie93]

So just do it..

[Asker]

Prisons in Turkey are hell

[PeachyPie93]

Well you shouldn't have lied.. do your time in prison and then do your mandatory service.. Or become an ugly woman no one cares either way since the outcome only effects you. And I doubt you are even from Turkey because 99% of the population is Muslim and I have visited there and all food is halal.

[Asker]

No, you don't know Turkey, nor the complexities of its culture. You didn't even know that Turkey was a secular state. Our president was seen with a transgender woman at a dinner party. We're a Eurasian state. A mix of cultures. We used to be the Ottoman Empire. So in some parts of Turkey, like Izmir, it's the liberal side that dominates.

[PeachyPie93]

I literally been there.. in Izmir at the Richmond Ephesus resort and the hotel I stayed at had all halal food because you are a majority Muslim country LOL. It may be a secular state but most people are Muslim.. I personally don't actually care about your culture and whatnot..

[Asker]

You can not talk about the culture of my country and say that you do not care, you talk about something you do not know, a country has Muslim majority does not mean that Islamic laws or other applies.

And that's getting away from our original topic.

[PeachyPie93]

I never said anything about Islamic laws in the first place.. Just cuz I said being trans is haram doesn't mean it is illegal.. and if you aren't even muslim that doesn't even apply to you. You are just some new aged weirdo who thinks being a girl is easier but you will soon find out it is not all it is cracked up to be. You should just step up and stop being a coward and do your time whether in prison or just in the army. Or chop your dick off and pretend to be a woman and sell your body as a prostitute because that's all you will be good for.

[MaryJane330]

@PeachyPie93 He definitely deserves to lose his dick

[PeachyPie93]

@MaryJane330 Yeah I think you are right especially because military service is only mandatory for 6 to 12 months LOL

[MaryJane330]

Exactly, he disrespected us by not doing his civic duty. What's he complaining about now? He deserves what's coming to him. I'd love to see his face when they operate on him to get a vagina. 😂

[PeachyPie93]

@MaryJane330 LMAO I think he is trolling because what guy would switch their gender to avoid something so minor.. it makes no logical sense 😂

[MaryJane330]

@PeachyPie93 That's what I thought at first, but then I saw that he might be sent to the front, with what's happening in Syria where the Turks are engaged and fighting against the Kurds.

[PeachyPie93]

@MaryJane330 But I know a guy in the military rn and he is not on the front lines so I doubt they would put someone new who needs to be trained and everything out front to just be killed.

[MaryJane330]

@PeachyPie93 Not at first, but once you've completed your military training, you can be mobilized. That doesn't mean they'll do it because first they send their career soldier, but depending on the situation he may be called up to be sent to the front.

[PeachyPie93]

@MaryJane330 Could be but it is unlikely..

[MaryJane330]

@PeachyPie93 Yes. But you know this guy is a coward so he must have imagined the worst-case scenario in his head. So I don't feel sorry for him, I want him to have the operation. That would be a good punishment.

[PeachyPie93]

@MaryJane330 Yeah it would be funny especially if he is a hairy guy lol

[MaryJane330]

Yes lol , and to see his tears after the operation would be absolutely amazing. I hope he puts pictures of his physical evolution, I would laugh at him/her.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

If you're serious, then my advice is research everything, get a good therapist, and talk to others in the community to answer your questions. This site is not that.

[kaucky1]

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[lorenzomichael]

You need you head examined. Look you are who you are because God made you that way now you’re going to somehow try to change that. However your operation will be for nothing because you’ll alway be a male. You’ll just be wearing a lady’s costume because you can never have the mind of a female. So what’s the point? But good luck.

[hahahmm]

If I had an operation that would make me look 100% like a lion would I be a lion? That is before we even get to the deep differences between genders that we see in wild animals and humans and that can't be explained away as cultural.

[D_Bone_Steak]

https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1DZd1cbXts/

[Subtle_Luminescence]

Let me burst your bubble; if you're born a man, you'll never be a woman. Sooner you realise it, the better.

[HungTexan]

I’d seriously reconsider, but if you’re determined then get professional psychological support. I can’t I imagine what removing male genitalia would be like, either physically or emotionally.

[Flower7]

If you’re stressed about it, you probably should wait before doing something so drastic.

[MaryJane330]

He told his government that he was a trans woman to avoid military service (he is Turkish as he indicated in several comments), it is normal that his government requires him to become a woman.

[Flower7]

Asker, would your government be paying for this surgery or would you have to pay for it yourself? Maybe you can say you can’t afford it. Which is true for almost everyone. Those surgeries are wildly expensive.

[Asker]

@flower7 I have to pay for a small part of it myself, and the vast majority is paid for by the government.

[Flower7]

You should claim lack of finances.

[Asker]

I had thought about it, but the payment methods are largely financeable and if I said that the social assistance would finance it entirely.

[MaryJane330]

@Flower7

he disrespected us by not doing his civic duty. What's he complaining about now? He deserves what's coming to him. I'd love to see his face when they operate on him to get a vagina.

[Unit1]

Lucky bastard.

Would you update me on your progress and life as a woman?

[Staximus]

Glueing leaves to my head and calling myself a tree doesn't make me any more of a tree than cutting your junk off and calling yourself a woman makes you a woman.

[virtualwasp]

My advice is to use a Doctor...

[Asker]

Doctor for?

[virtualwasp]

the operation

[Asker]

Yes, my operation is already scheduled

I've already explained my situation on another question but as I can't share the link because I'm only at level 2, I'll quickly explain it again here.

I'm Turkish, military service is compulsory in my country, to avoid service I said I was a trans woman, but my government consequently demanded that I take the necessary steps to become a woman because that's what I said

[virtualwasp]

just go on holidayand dont return to turkey, renounce citizenship

[Asker]

Unfortunately I can't afford it, Turkey is poor.

[genericname85]

get a second and a third opinion by psychatrists before doing that.

[Benjiman19]

Fuck you. You're still a male by birth and nothing is going to change that.

[monkeynutts]

You should just break your leg. It's a better choice to get out of compulsory service, it's nothing new been done before.

[Anonymous]

My advice is don't do it. You're not going to become a woman; you're going to become a man without your genitals.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Just be yourself and keep your personality as it was when you were a man.

[Smegskull]

remember to follow dietary restrictions before an operation.
Get plenty of sleep the day before.

[AviatorTom]

Surgery will not make you a woman.

[Dongie]

Just a dickless boy.

[CheeseMonster]

Research and plan.

[GlowUpGirly5]

You'll never be a woman

[Asker]

I know but i have no choice

[GlowUpGirly5]

No you really dont

[Asker]

You don't know my situation

[GlowUpGirly5]

You'll never be a woman I don't what your situation is

[Asker]

I know

I've already explained my situation on another question but as I can't share the link because I'm only at level 2, I'll quickly explain it again here.

I'm Turkish, military service is compulsory in my country, to avoid service I said I was a trans woman, but my government consequently demanded that I take the necessary steps to become a woman because that's what I said.

[GlowUpGirly5]

I dont care you'll never be a woman. A trans is not a woman you're still biologically a man. Seek therapy

[Asker]

Yes, I agree with that. I'm just explaining why I'm forced to become a trans person.

[CalmUntilAbused]

How about You claim mental illness instead to avoid military service? That would also explain Your declaration of being a woman, potentially sparing You prison time. And I don't think Turkey wants crazy people in the Turkish military, so You will most likely be spared military service as well.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, you again. Go see your therapist.

[GlowUpGirly5]

🤣🤣🤣

[Dargil]

Please don't. You will live and die regretting it.

[UnwantedScorpio]

Don’t it you’ll regret it

[Asker]

I've already explained my situation on another question but as I can't share the link because I'm only at level 2, I'll quickly explain it again here.

I'm Turkish, military service is compulsory in my country, to avoid service I said I was a trans woman, but my government consequently demanded that I take the necessary steps to become a woman because that's what I said.

[Tmucciolo]

Be who God intended you to be

[CalmUntilAbused]

At this point, it would mean He's going to become an inmate, according to His explanation. It might still be better than the alternative, but He's strictly opposed to the idea. Well... I don't think I'd care about prison unless I was accused of being a sex offender against some woman, as long as I could find a job once released. And Polish prisons are no walk in the park, either. Though I would rather escape military service through fleeing Poland early enough to make it instead of spouting a lie endangering my life. Well... Since He says He's not Muslim... Unless He's Christian instead, it might as well be considered retribution for a non-believer.

[Crazzyyworld]

just go to military service

[Asker]

If I say I lied, I'll go to prison and then I'll be sent off to military service. And believe me, the prisons here are hell.

[Crazzyyworld]

tell them you just don't want to become a woman because of discriminations and transphobia.

[Asker]

My government will tell me it's not their problem, they'll tell me either you're trans or you're not, if I say I'm not they'll condemn me for wanting to escape my civic duty.

[Crazzyyworld]

a lot of trans people end up transition back because of social system. Do you think you can live 100% woman after transition?

[Asker]

I don't know, but I don't have a choice, but it's certain that there's no turning back possible in my country.

[Crazzyyworld]

explain it to them. they don't know anything about how hard trans life is. Tell them you decide not to change.

[Asker]

You don't know how Turkey works. If I say I don't want to become trans, then they'll conclude I lied.

[MaryJane330]

@crazzyyworld

He lied to his government, it is normal that his government requires him to become a woman.

[CalmUntilAbused]

@Asker Well, You did lie. Though I would attempt an insanity claim to wriggle You out of this mess. They won't want an insane person in the military, and insanity would also likely excuse You from the lie.

[Asker]

@CalmUntilAbused Yes, but they'll make me take psychological tests, with shrinks. To make sure I'm really crazy

[Crazzyyworld]

Tell them you change your mind after you see the reality of hardship of being trans after you try to cross dress and meeting other trans people. Our life is literally shit!

[Dongie]

Get a lobotomy first. It could save you.

[seeyounexttuesday]

Get some mental health. You can't become a woman.

[GlowUpGirly5]

🤣🤣

[noohair]

Talk to a shrink first...

[MadhuriDixit]

Dont

[Still-alive]

Uh huh