There was this girl in my college class that I like and we would chat on and off in class for about four months, but the class was once a month. We did not have communication outside of class. The day after our third session I saw her at a coffee shop and she introduced me to a guy that she was with. She did say boyfriend and so I guess I got some hope.
Anyway, our last class happened a couple days ago. During this I mentioned the coffee shop but not the guy and she said that she'd been wanting to go at night because they have live music. I told her to let me know if she does that we could go together, and then asked if i could give her my number. She said yes, and then texted herself her name from my phone. (it is the right number, i have checked with a mutual friend). I texted my name back and the next day I reached out and asked if she would want to make a day at that spot but I have had zero response.
I texted her that the 22(about 3 days ago) and am trying to figure out if i should try to say something again or just let it be. I would wait about a week if i did but just looking for some advice. I am about to graduate and so we will no longer see each other at school.
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It's great that you took the initiative to ask for her number and invite her to the coffee shop with live music. However, since you haven't received a response from her yet, it's possible that she is busy or not interested in pursuing anything further.
If you're still interested in getting to know her better, it might be worth reaching out one more time in a few days to see if she's still interested in going to the coffee shop together. If she doesn't respond or declines your invitation again, it's probably best to respect her decision and move on.
It's important to remember that rejection is a normal part of dating and relationships, and it doesn't necessarily mean that there is anything wrong with you or your approach. Keep putting yourself out there and pursuing the things that make you happy, and eventually you'll find someone who is interested in a relationship with you.
How long would you wait?
Also keep in mine at that point she still had about 2 weeks of her classes, not sure if that matters at all for a response time
If she still has two weeks of classes left, it's possible that she's busy with schoolwork and might not have had a chance to respond yet. In this case, I would suggest waiting at least another week before reaching out again. That would give her enough time to finish up her classes and respond to your message.
However, if you don't hear back from her after that second attempt, it's best to move on and not pursue it further. It's important to respect her decision and not come across as overly pushy or desperate. Good luck!
I had been thinking that as well, I wanted to give it one last chance. She finishes this wed but if she doesn't respond at all or after that second attempt ill stop messaging altogether
It's understandable that you want to give it one last chance, and it's important to follow your instincts. If she doesn't respond after your second attempt, it's best to respect her decision and move on. Remember that there are many other opportunities to meet new people and potentially find a romantic connection. Don't get too discouraged if things don't work out with this particular person, and keep an open mind for new possibilities in the future.
For that second message would you have asked to hangout again or try to keep it at a conversation level? I feel like the first way depending on if she would respond or not id get an answer
For the second message, it's up to you whether you want to ask to hang out again or keep it at a conversation level. I would keep it at convo personally. If you feel like asking to hang out again may come across as too forward or pushy, then keeping it at a casual conversation level might be a better idea. However, if you feel like you need to be more direct and clear about your intentions, then asking to hang out again could be a good approach.
The most important thing is to be genuine and respectful in your communication. Don't try to force anything or put too much pressure on the situation. Just be yourself and let things unfold naturally.
Well she gave you the hint to ask her to the coffee shop and she gave you her number. If you texted the date, then you should follow up with an actual phone call. Leave a voicemail if she doesn't pick up. Now, the ball is in her court and she will get back to you if she wants to go out with you.
My questions why would she not respond to a text and then respond to a call?
Some girls like actual phone calls better. There is a chance that she didn't get the text.
If you were going to cal would you still give it time or do it sooner rather than later?
Do it soon. Just say hey I wanted to make sure you got my text and go from there.
I guess I didn't want to come off as desperate. But you're probably right, I feel like it is a better option than just worrying.
This is the actual text i sent as well
Hey, I wanted to see if in the next couple of weeks you’d be open to making a day of liberty station/ moniker? You’d mentioned wanting to check it out in the evening! Hope it’s been a good Saturday
The text is fine. But yeah just follow it with a phone call. After that you are going to get annoying. Like I said after that the ball is in her court. Either she wants to date you or she ended up choosing the other guy.
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