Why would my cousin tell me that she saw the guy I’m talking to today and he was good looking?

[Anonymous]

Is it odd or normal thing? I kinda feel wierded out that she finds him attractive too.

[Anonymous]

It's not necessarily odd or abnormal for your cousin to comment on the appearance of the guy you're talking to, especially if she knows that you're interested in him. However, it's understandable to feel a bit uncomfortable or weirded out by her comment, especially if you're not used to discussing these types of things with her.

It's important to remember that attraction is subjective and everyone has their own preferences and tastes. Just because your cousin finds him attractive doesn't necessarily mean that there's anything wrong or unusual about your relationship or your attraction to him.

If you feel uncomfortable discussing your love life or attraction to someone with your cousin, it's okay to set boundaries and let her know that you prefer not to discuss these things with her. It's important to prioritize your own comfort and emotional well-being in any relationship or social interaction.

[FilmGuy93]

He was probably just making conversation. Why would there have to be some deeper meaning?

[jlee99]

I think it's fine. It would be more weird if she told you he was unattractive.

[Asker]

She also asked if we’re still talking. I don't know if she was expecting that he’s ghosted me..

[D_Bone_Steak]

Isn't that how women talk?

I guess it could be odd if you think she's going to try and swipe the guy you're talking to.

[Asker]

So it’s like she’s saying good for me? She also asked if we’re still talking

[D_Bone_Steak]

Hard for me to say... I don't know her. It could be nothing more than mundane talk... but if you find out she's hooked up with that dude or tried to, then it's obviously more nefarious.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Kinda confused. Do you mostly like guys who others don't find attractive that you're weirded out when someone else also shares the same tastes?

[Asker]

No but she pointed out that he looked good. I wouldn’t say out loud that I foubd my cousin’s guy is good looking. I would be afraid that it looks like am after him or something

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Some of y'all are sooooo complicated! if I say I love this movie after I come out of movie theater, I just mean that! I don't mean want to break into the movie theater and steal the film and projector for the movie. I just mean I like the movie!

[Asker]

So it’s like she’s saying good for me?

[BungusHighFivePizza]

I think she's just saying he looks good, no? Nothing more than that!

[Asker]

Ok. by the way the guy I’m talking to suggested us to meet next week Saturday 3pm for coffee. Is it red flag? He said he’s quite busy weekdays.

[Asker]

I have to wait for a whole week to see him

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Of course it's okay! I really can't tell these days if you guys are just messing with me or not. :-D He's busy on weekdays. Wants to meet you on Saturday. Totally normal!

[Asker]

I heard Saturday is not good to meet for the first time. It’s like your giving your best time during the week for a person who haven’t met yet. Do you agree?

[BungusHighFivePizza]

I think so!

[Asker]

After our first date he said ”let’s keep in thouch” . Is it it bad sign?

[BungusHighFivePizza]

No! Keep in touch!

[Asker]

So you think he will contact me after the date?

[BungusHighFivePizza]

I hope so! Or you can do too, you know. Hey, wanna hang out on next Saturday?

[Asker]

Nah, wouldn’t be better of guy reaches out? I feel like at first guy should show he’s interested to continue/ pursue girl

[BungusHighFivePizza]

I don't think so. We're not in high school anymore and shouldn't need these games. If I wanna talk to you I send you a message as I hope you do for me. I'm not so juvenile that I think less of you if you want to keep talking to me 10 minutes after the date is over and I don't think a reasonable should be any different. I might be a little bit out there on some respects but I think this is a totally reasonable assumption.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Besides, if we can't talk like this right now without second-guessing each other all the time, how are we supposed to do in marriage? Are we just supposed to grow up instantly the moment we give our wedding vows? You want a man you expect to grow up instantly as soon as you get married or a man who doesn't judge you just because you want to send him a message when you want?

[boggboss]

Why is that weird that your cousin finds him attractive

[Asker]

I wouldn’t say out loud that I found my cousin’s guy is good looking. I would be afraid that it looks like I’m after him or something

[boggboss]

So do u go after every guy u fond attractive

[Asker]

No I don’t

[Asker]

by the way the guy I’m talking to suggested us to meet next week Saturday 3pm for coffee. Is it red flag that I have to wait whole week for us to meet? He said he’s quite busy weekdays.

[boggboss]

Hoe is that a red flag

[Asker]

I don't know It seems like he’s not in a rush to see me

[boggboss]

If he is busy how do u expect him to meet u sorry

[mb120101]

I doubt she has bad intentions it was her saying good for you