How wrong is it for a girl to admit she doesn’t accept traits and qualities about you?

[Anonymous]

So almost 3 years ago I told this girl I was on the spectrum I also told her I had ocd so I was very transparent at the beginning of the relationship so if at any point she was uncomfortable she could make a quick exit because I understand that simply sometimes that stuff it tough to accept but when you are with someone almost 3 years then you say you can’t accept that am I in the wrong for feeling like she wasted 3 years of my life that this conclusion could have been figured out much sooner.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Question itself, no. Description, yes, three years a is a big waste :(

[Asker]

Yeah like she keeps trying to call me bitter because she broke up but it’s like no I’m pissed because 3 years of my life was wasted towards something that has now set me back mentally

[In_Trance]

Why would this be wrong?

[Asker]

That it took her 3 years to figure this out

[In_Trance]

I had no idea there was a set timeline for this.

[Asker]

Well I would think of you don’t click with someone you could cut the relationship off in weeks not years

[In_Trance]

I don't think everyone moves at the same velocity. Or maybe there was something there and as time went on, the realization came that there wasn't.

[Asker]

It’s just wrong to do to someone on the spectrum because we already have low hope and low expectations but then for it to go that long and crash and burn is kind of messed up

[In_Trance]

Seems like you have a bias opinion on this which is unfortunate.
What you've experienced is how relationships progress. It's not about being right or wrong. This is the way it is